Admonishment...easier to give than to receive

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CharliRenee

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Oh how easy it is to admonish and correct, not so much on the receiving end.

I so often see seasoned Christians imparting their wisdom on others, informing them where error is seen, in their beliefs or in their deliveries.

I, myself, am not exempt from such behaviors. I think it is good and even biblical. Iron to iron, right?

I would just like to remind us all that none of us have arrived. While anyone of us may feel we are gifted with discernment, if we believe we are without error in our interpretations or perceptions, our gifts of discernment are flawed.

Humility is not just for a young Christian but vital to us all. I appreciate corrections, when given with consideration, patience and clarity. I have found proper critique to be priceless, oh so valuable.

I just wonder as I observe, online and off, does admonishment work like all other gifts...better to give than to receive? Maybe in this case, it is just easier to give than to receive

When I witness a seasoned Christian accepts readily, with humility, counsel as well as they give it, I am encouraged and delighted.
 

Lanolin

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Its a tricky one. Im usually on the recieving end, and i get told a lot by others how to do my job by people who dont do my job, while I do not feel I need to tell others how to do their jobs...because their jobs are hard enough and I think they are doing the best they can, plus they havent asked for any feedback.

But If they do ask I am happy to give it and give constructive criticicsm (i hate that term) if they need it.

I worked as a proofreader for a little bit but I dont do that outside of when Im asked to do it, why because its just plain rude to keep correcting everyone, not to mention tiring looking for mistakes in everything. If its a glaring mistake and obvious I might point it out but otherwise I tend to give out grace rather than admonishment. People are still learning even when adults I dont think it ever stops.

With children yes they need correction if someone is doing something wrong characterwise, yes they need correction, but you must give it firmly and in a loving manner because it can really crush a young spirit if you do it wrong and they will give up. Its far better to give clear instructions FIRST then let someone do something without instructions and training then have to constantly correct them later. I find many people are slack in that area becuse the basics havent been taught clearly first.
 

DustyRhodes

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Oh how easy it is to admonish and correct, not so much on the receiving end.

I so often see seasoned Christians imparting their wisdom on others, informing them where error is seen, in their beliefs or in their deliveries.

I, myself, am not exempt from such behaviors. I think it is good and even biblical. Iron to iron, right?

I would just like to remind us all that none of us have arrived. While anyone of us may feel we are gifted with discernment, if we believe we are without error in our interpretations or perceptions, our gifts of discernment are flawed.

Humility is not just for a young Christian but vital to us all. I appreciate corrections, when given with consideration, patience and clarity. I have found proper critique to be priceless, oh so valuable.

I just wonder as I observe, online and off, does admonishment work like all other gifts...better to give than to receive? Maybe in this case, it is just easier to give than to receive

When I witness a seasoned Christian accepts readily, with humility, counsel as well as they give it, I am encouraged and delighted.
A good topic to post. I think we should first define admonish.
I believe it as lovingly taking someone aside in private and
have a conversation of what might have been done wrongly.
I think we should not stand up in front of a group to reprimand
someone we think is wrong, that is not the way. And if someone
admonishes us, we need to discern that person's intentions.

I have a little saying about judgement...people notice everyones
bad breath but never their own.
 

ArtsieSteph

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One thing I remember is about admonishment and correction, was that there was a scripture that said a wise person would love you for it. Sadly in our generation, if you correct a person you are automatically the enemy. Sadly though that can also apply to those in the faith. No one wants to hear it. But what do you say to a fellow believer? Do you treat them like the unbeliever and just have to let it go? Hm...
 

SoulWeaver

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I was thinking last night about opening a thread on this, but I withheld myself and let it sit, because I was too angry.
Using the Scriptures to appear more righteous than others by beating other believers on the head and pushing own little private crusades, does make me FUME, and I have to apply a lot of self control to respond lovingly. And people not fearing God at all, even gloating in pride, while using God's Word for private purposes.
They seem to think, "I tear other saints of Christ down but it's Ok because I'm really passionate about the Word of God"
No you're not, or you would guard your heart and mind, and not speak with arrogance. Or attempt to snare others in conversation. This is evil and ungodly conduct. I keep silent and refrain from admonishing anyone in public conversation, but the behavior needs to be called out.
 

CharliRenee

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I was thinking last night about opening a thread on this, but I withheld myself and let it sit, because I was too angry.
Using the Scriptures to appear more righteous than others by beating other believers on the head and pushing own little private crusades, does make me FUME, and I have to apply a lot of self control to respond lovingly. And people not fearing God at all, even gloating in pride, while using God's Word for private purposes.
They seem to think, "I tear other saints of Christ down but it's Ok because I'm really passionate about the Word of God"
No you're not, or you would guard your heart and mind, and not speak with arrogance. Or attempt to snare others in conversation. This is evil and ungodly conduct. I keep silent and refrain from admonishing anyone in public conversation, but the behavior needs to be called out.
I couldn't agree more!!!!
 

CharliRenee

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One thing I remember is about admonishment and correction, was that there was a scripture that said a wise person would love you for it. Sadly in our generation, if you correct a person you are automatically the enemy. Sadly though that can also apply to those in the faith. No one wants to hear it. But what do you say to a fellow believer? Do you treat them like the unbeliever and just have to let it go? Hm...
Yes, we should appreciate correction when it is given with humility. I, myself, want to know but I also want dignity given. If that isn't present, than I want to do the correcting, lol. I agree though we can learn and grow from each other. It is a blessing.
 

CharliRenee

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Its a tricky one. Im usually on the recieving end, and i get told a lot by others how to do my job by people who dont do my job, while I do not feel I need to tell others how to do their jobs...because their jobs are hard enough and I think they are doing the best they can, plus they havent asked for any feedback.

But If they do ask I am happy to give it and give constructive criticicsm (i hate that term) if they need it.

I worked as a proofreader for a little bit but I dont do that outside of when Im asked to do it, why because its just plain rude to keep correcting everyone, not to mention tiring looking for mistakes in everything. If its a glaring mistake and obvious I might point it out but otherwise I tend to give out grace rather than admonishment. People are still learning even when adults I dont think it ever stops.

With children yes they need correction if someone is doing something wrong characterwise, yes they need correction, but you must give it firmly and in a loving manner because it can really crush a young spirit if you do it wrong and they will give up. Its far better to give clear instructions FIRST then let someone do something without instructions and training then have to constantly correct them later. I find many people are slack in that area becuse the basics havent been taught clearly first.
Oh wow, good point. Ewwww@going around looking for mistakes, always finding what is wrong in others. Thanks for giving out grace more than admonishment.
 

CharliRenee

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A good topic to post. I think we should first define admonish.
I believe it as lovingly taking someone aside in private and
have a conversation of what might have been done wrongly.
I think we should not stand up in front of a group to reprimand
someone we think is wrong, that is not the way. And if someone
admonishes us, we need to discern that person's intentions.

I have a little saying about judgement...people notice everyones
bad breath but never their own.
Bamidy Bam Bam, indeed!!!
This is so wise...
And if someone
admonishes us, we need to discern that person's intentions. I also think admonishment should be clear, not leaving the person unsure about what the problem is, and NEVER with character assassinations.