How a sweet Asian gal captured my heart with a few words once upon a time - How is this possible?

I'm over 50 but not over the hill, and several years ago, I met a very friendly Asian lady at a job-prep meeting. She inspired me with her sincere determination to find employment, and I sensed right away a feeling of mutual attraction and kindred souls.

She seemed drawn to me and asked, "Why aren't you married?". I said, I guess I've always been too poor and often depressed.

She said the words that touched my heart,:. "You don't need to be rich to get married.".

I didn't realize she was asking me out and hinting we could share expenses and an apartment. As usual, I was dazed and confused like a deer in the headlights, and as we rode the elevator to the exit, I watched her walk away, hesitant to call out to her across the courtyard, and couldn't think of what to say, thinking we would meet at another meeting. But, she was finished with the program, and I never saw her again. This still makes me teary some 8 years later, and I still miss her. And don't understand how someone can reach your heart in such a short time, and you never forget them. Love is a mystery.
I still love her, and I only knew her for an hour. And let another beautiful soul pass my by, because I was stressed out and my mind was on employment, when God had sent an angel my way.

It's a lesson of life to keep people as a priority, over stressing over survival.
Jesus said, "consider the birds...God provides for them." (paraphrase).

Not long enough to find out her imperfections I fear.
How often we equate love with an idealised version of someone.
The infatuation phase . if only it would last forever.
when we can say we love someone despite their imperfections . then we have graduated to a level closer to the bar set by JC.

Herald, I offer these thoughts with respect, not with an attitude of criticism.

It sounds like you have low view of your own worth. Because of that, you might not have received much attention from women; many women perceive low self-esteem in men, and avoid it. Some random gal comes along, pokes a hole in your shell, and touches your heart with encouragement. You've taken that one experience and made an unhealthy obsession of it.

Take it to Jesus, thank Him for the words of encouragement, and leave it in His hands... permanently. Ask Him to set you free from all obsession, and instead to build in you a godly self-confidence. Also ask for His direction and provision for a special relationship. Only in Him will you be satisfied, content, and free from regret.

While I can't speak for your life, I agree with Dino that it sounds more like an unhealthy obsession.
Next time, instead, do things differently so it wouldn't turn out to be another regret.
God bless.

OP, I've been there before. I've talked to boys in the past and they may be nice to me for a little bit and I assume that they might like me. Then I never see them again. It's been very difficult for me to get over it. But I just have to keep telling myself that if God wanted me with any of those young men, they would have asked me out.

Try to think of your life in the same way. Are you ready for a relationship? Were you ready to get involved with someone back then? I think the answer was no. So why would God send you the right girl at that time? He didn't.

One of the most important things I have learned through self-help books is that we can control our thoughts. Sure, there will be times where a thought comes to mind uncontrollably, but it's up to us to feed it or think about something else. Don't let these thoughts linger in your mind. Focus on something else. Thinking about what could have been will only make you feel worse. God bless you brother.

Thank you all for writing. And Dino is right about a few things. But, why diss my angel memory...
Maybe she was an angel?