I hear ya
i just think we are much better off if we listen to what a person says, and not just look for keywords, and claim, well he is calvinist or she is catholic, or he is arminian
when we do so, any means of communication are wasted, because we assume we know what the other believes, and from what I have seen in my many years here, most times we are wrong, but then we are to proud to ad,it it, so it never gets resolved, as we bear false witness against the people we are trying to share our views with