Christian Dating in the Digital Age

It helps a lot to know what you are looking for in a prospective spouse. My #1 rule on dating is to not waste your precious time dating a person that you would not consider marrying.

As for the digital age of dating I am really only familiar with this site and found that you can separate the phonies from those that are genuine from their post history and forum decorum. I am referring to the frequent regular contributors in the forums.

It has been said, more than once, that this site is not a dating site. While I agree that the primary purpose is to be a vehicle for promoting Christian fellowship I struck gold here in regards to dating. There have been several other marriages that came about from this site since I joined in 2014.

Of course, it is best to allow God to search and find the one of your heart's desire but you must be ready to take bold decisive action if an opportunity should arise. That was what I did. By the grace of God we will be celebrating our 6th anniversary in November.

This is an awesome story! I'm so happy you found love here of all places! WOW! Congrats to the both of you!

Church. That is still God's method. Forget social media. Get involved in your church and specifically the mission of God to reach the lost in whatever ministry you would like to get involved with. When you do you will meet people with like passions and a heart for God and you will become friends. Then those connections can develop as your relate with people who have the same interests that you do and you are able to witness how they live over time. You can't do that with a website. Social Media will never replace the church.

People who think they can watch a sermon online as their church do not understand the purpose of church. It is not about attending a speech by a good orator. It is about working together as a family to reach the world for Jesus Christ. Get busy doing that and the rest will take care of itself.

The world has changed so much since the last time I was in the dating pool. Now it's all apps, websites, social media, profiles, and endless chat. How do you make a real connection with a prospective date in the digital age?

Excuse me but is that you in the picture, Scribe?

Yes, Why do you know me?

Church. That is still God's method. Forget social media. Get involved in your church and specifically the mission of God to reach the lost in whatever ministry you would like to get involved with. When you do you will meet people with like passions and a heart for God and you will become friends. Then those connections can develop as your relate with people who have the same interests that you do and you are able to witness how they live over time. You can't do that with a website. Social Media will never replace the church.

People who think they can watch a sermon online as their church do not understand the purpose of church. It is not about attending a speech by a good orator. It is about working together as a family to reach the world for Jesus Christ. Get busy doing that and the rest will take care of itself.

my family doesnt go to church, so, the idea that church is family or where you find family or make a family doesnt work for me. I have also seen lots of families split up in churches. :-(

The best place to find families is in school.

This can be good advice, depending on the church and depending on the person. I'm a 42 year old guy in a church of about 90, so it doesn't work too well for me... I am NOT dating a teenage woman, and that's all that are available here.

I have the same issue. The weekly attendance at my church is about 100 and I have not found someone eligible. There are a few guys whom superficially might fit my criteria (based on age, education, etc.) but there is no attraction. There was one guy who liked me a few years ago but I pushed him away, and he never returned to the church.

Wow.. Was it a one hand push or two handed full armed shove off push?

This can be good advice, depending on the church and depending on the person. I'm a 42 year old guy in a church of about 90, so it doesn't work too well for me... I am NOT dating a teenage woman, and that's all that are available here.

digital age - well email instewd of writing a letter, txt instead of phoning, facebook instead of taking photos and going to get them developed or poloroids.

It may be faster, but the same heartbreaks happen....I would advise dont go on dating sites, free ones are usually overurun by scammers and paid ones probably the same. If you really want to date I would say go find a matchmaker in your family (your favourite aunt perhaps) and say hook me up with someone suitable. It will give her something to do.

How about visiting a mega church?

I am deeply conflicted about this issue and changing churches. I feel I should go to a church with a better dating pool and in general more opportunities to make friends, but I know this is not the ultimate reason to go church. Sometimes I feel going to my church is more like a "duty," because I also volunteer some, and maybe because I don't have a decent social network there (I only have two friends there with whom I hang out with outside church). I've already been committed to my church for seven or so years. Based on my experience, people do not like it when are you visit, or are involved in, multiple churches; they believe, especially the pastor, that you should be entirely focused/committed to your own church.