Prayer to forgive my father

My father was abusive in every way (not sexual). He continued his abuse even after I grew up and married ... it became verbal. It has been difficult to say the least. Now he is much older & I dont know how much time he has left at his advanced age.

I keep trying to forgive him and, somehow, he will say another abusive/hurtful thing and I am angry again. I pray and pray because I want to forgive him completely but the hurt is still there. Often dont want to even talk to him, but I do because I feel guilty if I don't. So my prayers need others' prayers that I finally let go of my anger & hurt. I dont want to have guilt on top of grief when he passes. Any suggestions/prayers/anything will be greatly appreciated.

Thank you and keeping you all in my prayers.

My father was abusive in every way (not sexual). He continued his abuse even after I grew up and married ... it became verbal. It has been difficult to say the least. Now he is much older & I dont know how much time he has left at his advanced age.

I keep trying to forgive him and, somehow, he will say another abusive/hurtful thing and I am angry again. I pray and pray because I want to forgive him completely but the hurt is still there. Often dont want to even talk to him, but I do because I feel guilty if I don't. So my prayers need others' prayers that I finally let go of my anger & hurt. I dont want to have guilt on top of grief when he passes. Any suggestions/prayers/anything will be greatly appreciated.

Thank you and keeping you all in my prayers.

My father was abusive in every way (not sexual). He continued his abuse even after I grew up and married ... it became verbal. It has been difficult to say the least. Now he is much older & I dont know how much time he has left at his advanced age.

I keep trying to forgive him and, somehow, he will say another abusive/hurtful thing and I am angry again. I pray and pray because I want to forgive him completely but the hurt is still there. Often dont want to even talk to him, but I do because I feel guilty if I don't. So my prayers need others' prayers that I finally let go of my anger & hurt. I dont want to have guilt on top of grief when he passes. Any suggestions/prayers/anything will be greatly appreciated.

Thank you and keeping you all in my prayers.

I did a thread on the same subject line called "The person/persons who are the root cause of your problem"...just a few days ago..There may also be content with that thread by the comments made by me and others that may also lift your spirits too.You're not on your own in this.God is with you and you have us to stand with you ok.👍👍😊😊

Hello Anne-Marie nice of you to be here on C.C and for posting this prayer request.There are many abusive fathers around who are either verbally agreesive or physically aggressive and more .
The first thing to make you know it that the hurt and anger you have inside you is the direct consequence of how he has been and anyone in your situation would most definitely be feeling just how you do so dont beat yourself up for the hurt and anger you feel at times..This isnt case of saying your shouldnt be feeling anger or hurt.God knows exactly what's gone on over the years and know the context of how internally affected you have been.
The second thing is to be aware that this seems to be a spiritual battle.The enemie knows you want to forgive him ect and is seeking to use him against you by re offending you again and again to keep the pain alive within you.Then try and condemn you in your mind if he may say..."oh I though you were ment to forgive him ect.."
This may help you not see your father attacking you but the enemie using him against you inorder to deceive you somehow through the upset that it causes.
Internal wounds are just like physical wounds..the deeper the wound...the more the pain...the longer it takes to heal.Any doc or nurse will say that wounds need to be free from infection inorder to heal properly..and this is the same with internal wounds..bitterness,anger,hatred,unforgiveness are like spiritual infections to internal wounds and can keep hurts alive and intensify the pain.
So forgiveness will definitely be part of your inner healing...When we forgive someone the pain they cause doesnt always magically disappear.Yet it leaves the wounds free from infection and with Gods healing touch healing does come by his spirit.

Forgiveness can at times be a battle to walk in and due to his abusive way..its like one step forward 2 steps back.Pray for God to let him change and have boundaries with him to alter the interaction where possible.Engage with him in a different way to avoid
The relationship with him seems to be toxic from his part and rely on God to get you through this.Your father is not a Christian I gather?Resist the enemies tactic to make you talk to him out of guilt..thats the enemies way to seek to make you feel its wrong to withdraw cox ur upset and hurt...but you can talk to him in "jesus name" when you feel like doing it as God leads.

Lord help Ann-Marie, and dad to forgive one another, and have peace, respect and love for one another. Lord heal their heart and heal their relationship. Lord let you change Ann-Marie' s dad's behaviour towards her, let it be full of love & care and let no abusive and hurtful word come out of her dad's mouth from her. Lord bless this prayer request, in Jesus Holy name, Amen!

Hello Anne-Marie nice of you to be here on C.C and for posting this prayer request.There are many abusive fathers around who are either verbally agreesive or physically aggressive and more .
The first thing to make you know it that the hurt and anger you have inside you is the direct consequence of how he has been and anyone in your situation would most definitely be feeling just how you do so dont beat yourself up for the hurt and anger you feel at times..This isnt case of saying your shouldnt be feeling anger or hurt.God knows exactly what's gone on over the years and know the context of how internally affected you have been.
The second thing is to be aware that this seems to be a spiritual battle.The enemie knows you want to forgive him ect and is seeking to use him against you by re offending you again and again to keep the pain alive within you.Then try and condemn you in your mind if he may say..."oh I though you were ment to forgive him ect.."
This may help you not see your father attacking you but the enemie using him against you inorder to deceive you somehow through the upset that it causes.
Internal wounds are just like physical wounds..the deeper the wound...the more the pain...the longer it takes to heal.Any doc or nurse will say that wounds need to be free from infection inorder to heal properly..and this is the same with internal wounds..bitterness,anger,hatred,unforgiveness are like spiritual infections to internal wounds and can keep hurts alive and intensify the pain.
So forgiveness will definitely be part of your inner healing...When we forgive someone the pain they cause doesnt always magically disappear.Yet it leaves the wounds free from infection and with Gods healing touch healing does come by his spirit.

Forgiveness can at times be a battle to walk in and due to his abusive way..its like one step forward 2 steps back.Pray for God to let him change and have boundaries with him to alter the interaction where possible.Engage with him in a different way to avoid
The relationship with him seems to be toxic from his part and rely on God to get you through this.Your father is not a Christian I gather?Resist the enemies tactic to make you talk to him out of guilt..thats the enemies way to seek to make you feel its wrong to withdraw cox ur upset and hurt...but you can talk to him in "jesus name" when you feel like doing it as God leads.

Thank you so much. I am also trying hard to tell him he needs to repent (not for what he has done to me) but that we all need to ... he is agnostic. This is very hard. I just sent him some things from the Bible and hope he will read them. He keeps saying "do you love me". to say yes is to lie ... I say yes, but it is a very quet yes.

All so true. thank you so much.

Thank you for responding. Can you link me to it .. not to computer savvy.

My thanks to everyone ... never expected so many responses.

Thank you for responding. Can you link me to it .. not to computer savvy.

My thanks to everyone ... never expected so many responses.

Awwww your welcome.Yes i will attect you to that thread...i prau that God builds you up on the inside.💪💪🙏🏻👍👍

I know it’s hard, but if we can view people that are mean and abusive as the hurting broken people they are, it may be easier to forgive and love them. Cause after all, that’s what Jesus does for each and every one of us.

My friend knows a guy who has an insanely verbally abusive wife. He couldn’t believe how she treated and talked to him right in front of him.
This man always was joyful and had a smile no matter how she treated him.

So my friend asked him how he does it. It turns out he had a near death experience where he claims he was actually in Jesus’ Presence.

That moment is all he thinks about in every situation in life.

I pray that we could ALL have the daily reminder of what and Who is waiting for us. It will make this present suffering not worthy to be remembered.

I know it’s hard, but if we can view people that are mean and abusive as the hurting broken people they are, it may be easier to forgive and love them. Cause after all, that’s what Jesus does for each and every one of us.

My friend knows a guy who has an insanely verbally abusive wife. He couldn’t believe how she treated and talked to him right in front of him.
This man always was joyful and had a smile no matter how she treated him.

So my friend asked him how he does it. It turns out he had a near death experience where he claims he was actually in Jesus’ Presence.

That moment is all he thinks about in every situation in life.

I pray that we could ALL have the daily reminder of what and Who is waiting for us. It will make this present suffering not worthy to be remembered.

Thank you so much. I am also trying hard to tell him he needs to repent (not for what he has done to me) but that we all need to ... he is agnostic. This is very hard. I just sent him some things from the Bible and hope he will read them. He keeps saying "do you love me". to say yes is to lie ... I say yes, but it is a very quet yes.

My father was abusive in every way (not sexual). He continued his abuse even after I grew up and married ... it became verbal. It has been difficult to say the least. Now he is much older & I dont know how much time he has left at his advanced age.

I keep trying to forgive him and, somehow, he will say another abusive/hurtful thing and I am angry again. I pray and pray because I want to forgive him completely but the hurt is still there. Often dont want to even talk to him, but I do because I feel guilty if I don't. So my prayers need others' prayers that I finally let go of my anger & hurt. I dont want to have guilt on top of grief when he passes. Any suggestions/prayers/anything will be greatly appreciated.

Thank you and keeping you all in my prayers.

I am so sorry for you Ann Marie. I am praying God will ease your spirit concerning this situation. I also will say that your father, or any parent who acts in such a way, has completely disobeyed God concerning how a father/parent is to act towards their children. Scripture is clear about this.

I suggest you (if you have a church you attend) go to your church, to the alter, kneel down and pray to God forgiving your father for the way he has treated you/things he has done to you, and LEAVE it at the alter. Leave that burden for God to bear. As well, ONE TIME only, tell your father that you forgive him for his actions/words towards you, and leave it at that. You do have to forgive him, you DO NOT have to associate with him. I know it is hard to think of isolating yourself from him given that he is growing old, and may not be around much longer, but your main concern as to be for your spiritual well being. He is to answer to God concerning his. Not you.

Praying. What a terrible position to find oneself in. God bless you, and may God open the eyes and heart of your father before he passes from this world.