Church leadership and government is a difficult thorny issue. As seen in the conversation, we tend to react to any "head pastor" who wields power or influence selfishly. And rightly so - Christ, not man, is the head of the church.
But pastors/ministers are Biblical and is how Paul and the other NT writers portray church government. Those who reject pastoral leadership often go one of two ways:
(1) A group of "elders" (various titles are used) who form a board who govern the church. They then fire/hire the pastor at will. The downfall of this is that often these elders hold the sway of the church by seniority, monetary success, influence, etc.
(2) Some try to govern the church "by the people." This is a democracy - rule by the people. But then the majority rule the church -- and decisions made by such a "majority" may or may not be Biblical.
I think the answer is to have a plural ministry who together as a team lead the church. On teams such as this, each one on the team will have differing gifts - one may have the gift of "administration" and so he naturally calls meetings, organizes, etc. Another may have the gift of preaching and does most of the Sunday sermons. Another may be an exhorter who does well with relationships. In such a system of leadership the one with the gift of "administration" often becomes the "leader" by default" - but all of the team of pastors should have equal authority and influence and each has an equal "vote".
I read an article once that went through Acts and showed all the church decisions made by 'the brethren.' It was rather extensive. The brethren sent Paul here and there. They decided various things. It is worth looking up. The point was the elders did not just make all the decisions. Even Paul was open to consultation and yielded to the decisions of the brethren at times. He submitted to the elders in Jerusalem, apparently.
When the issue of Gentile circumcision became a hot topic, members of the congregation were allowed to speak and address the issue in Acts 15, before the apostles and elders met.
It is also important to note that in an early stage of church development, churches were churches but had no elders. Paul and Barnabas appointed elders in every church in Acts 14. These churches were churches before they had elders.
it is also important to note that the actual teachings and commandments for how to do church in the New Testament do not order the people to sit and listen to sermons. In Romans 12, Paul instructs the one gifted to prophesy to prophesy, the one gifted to teach to teach, and the one gifted to exhort to exhort. In I Corinthians 14, the speakers in church are 'every one of you', who may sing a psalm, have a doctrine, have a revelation, tongue, or interpretation. The passage gives instructions for one gifted to speak in tongues and for one to interpret. The prophets are to speak 'two or three' and the other are to judge. One sitting by my prophesy and the one speaking should be silent. The passage says, 'For ye may all prophesy one by one."
There is no mention of a bishop or elder in this one long passage on what to do in church. It may be that none were appointed in Corinth yet, but there is no indication in the New Testament that when elders are appointed, other members of the body of Christ should stop using their gifts.
The idea that elders or pastors are light years above other believers, that they should do the praying at community events and pretty much all the speaking in church except for announcements, isn't found in scripture. Rather, they are to be examples to the flock, and one area to be examples is in how they use their spiritual gifts. I Peter 4 commands believers to use their spiritual gifts to minister to one another as good stewards of the manifold grace of God. Peter includes speaking the word of God as an example of using our gifts.
Hebrews 10:25 is the one verse preachers use to say to go to church, but it doesn't say to 'go to church' but rather not to forsake assembling. It implies what we are to do when we assemble. Forsake not the assembling of yourselves together...but exhort one another, and this is in the context of verse 24 which says to provoke one another to love and to good works.
And if we look in Acts, we see 'brethren' making a lot of decision, the saints being able to address a church issue. We also see leaders actually leading. The church people could address the church assembly about Gentile circumcision (the example given was of Pharisees with the wrong idea), but the apostles and elders met and determined what they sensed the Spirit was speaking on the issue. When it came to feeding widows, the church chose the seven, and the apostles laid hands on them. It was not a case of a small group of leaders making all the decisions, but congregation and leaders together.
And we see not examples of 'voting'. When we vote, the majority crush the will of the minority. The Bible says to all be of the same heart, to all be of the same mind. Consensus is better than voting. it is better that we sense the will of the Spirit or all agree to a wise course of action. And if it was not your top idea for what to do, you can still submit to the group and allow for God to work in other ways than the idea you had. The