Is It Acceptable as a Christian to Say That Looks DO Count?

I hear a lot of people give good, Christian answers to various situations and questions... but part of me always wonders what's really going on beneath the surface. I have always found it fascinating that in one translation of the Bible I encountered a few years ago, it said that when Samson fell in love with a Philistine girl (before meeting Delilah), he told his parents to get this girl for him as his wife, and they were very distraught, but that "they did not know this was of the Lord, because He was seeking an occasion to confront the Philistines." Apparently, in this incidence at least, God heavily influenced, or had a strong reason, behind Samson's attraction to this girl. Now, I'm not saying we should all be like, "Well, I'm sure it's of the Lord that I marry someone who looks like Megan Fox/Christian Bale," etc.... but... it's interesting... and of course, we know that Samson made terrible mistakes. But... what will happen if we sit back and let God choose for us? I admit to being a little afraid because I've heard TONS of stories from other people at my church who said, "When I first met my spouse, I wasn't attracted to him/her in the least!!" Makes you kind of nervous as you look around...

I think this is one reason looks do count. Samson should have seen the girl was a philistine, and had nothing to do with her. Instead, he was attracted to her. Looks aren't everything, but are important as are often a reflection (sometimes imperfect) of what is in the heart.

Hey Everybody, With all the talk about what we hope to find in a spouse... I must say that I do admire the people who can say, "Well, looks don't really matter to me, it all depends on where their heart is with the Lord." I guess I wish I could say I were that advanced in my spiritual walk! So, how many Christians are willing to admit that yes, looks do count for something, and is it hypocritical or a "weakness of faith" to be willing to say that? Because even though we are Christians, we're still human... I could be wrong, but in some cases, I personally believe that some people "like" a certain "look" or even race for a specific, sometimes God-given reason. (This is NOT to say there isn't such as thing as being superficial, but I do think some preferences that we have are led by the Lord.) For instance, my little brother (who is white--brown hair, blue-green eyes, very athletic) got to a point where he told God he wanted to marry "a beautiful Asian girl," and his prayer was answered. She's native South Korean, a devout Christian, and an absolute doll. But her father told her to break up with him immediately when he learned his daughter was dating an American (interracial dating is frowned upon in Korea.) However, when her father met my brother--even though they did not speak the same language, her father somehow knew my brother had a sincere heart and gave his consent. Watching the challenges that they are going through in their marriage... including prejudice and bias... and how they are handling the situations they face with God's grace and strength, I truly believe God put it in my brother's heart to strongly be attracted and desire to marry an Asian girl for a reason. Now I'm not trying to say we should all be chasing after models. But I do wonder if maybe sometimes God has a purpose and maybe even a hand in what we seem to be attracted to looks-wise. What do you all think?

There's no point in denying reality. Women want a man she feels can lead her, and men want a woman that drops his jaw.