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I'm looking for a friend because I would like to fellowship and grow in the faith with another. However, it's harder than I thought. Out of curiosity, is anyone here interested in making new friends? (I don't mean with me per se, but in general. Lol)
 

Lynx

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Making friends is... problematic. If you set out with a goal of making friends it is hard, and takes constant effort to maintain.

It's much easier to go out and do stuff, and see what friends you might collect along the way.
 

Lynx

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Although the forum says you joined in 2018, it also says you have only made 34 posts. Therefore I will welcome you to the Singles Forum. :cool:
 
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Although the forum says you joined in 2018, it also says you have only made 34 posts. Therefore I will welcome you to the Singles Forum. :cool:
Thank you so much! God bless you! :)
 

Lynx

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Wait, come back! I want to be friends at you!
 

Lanolin

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what...did you just got rid of your 'old' friends to make 'new' ones? ^^

I think Jesus is open to be a friend to anyone who needs a friend...and so it is with us.
 

JohnDB

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Friendships grow organically...that part is true. Men and women gain friendships in different ways for different reasons.

Men, building or fighting together...
Women by sharing emotions.

Couples? By sharing similar goals and relying upon the other family and their unique talents to attain those goals. Both families then do better.

Friends are friends...a life without them is impoverished. Friends are a part of a rich, full life...

God gave me life so I could live, granted me salvation so I could have a richer and Fuller life...and the mechanics of that is through the relationships I form...
 

Lynx

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what...did you just got rid of your 'old' friends to make 'new' ones? ^^
Of course. I have to! My brain is full. I can't remember all the friends I have now.

If one of my friends dies, come back and I'll see what I can do. Until then I'm not accepting any new friend applications.
 

cinder

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I'm looking for a friend because I would like to fellowship and grow in the faith with another. However, it's harder than I thought. Out of curiosity, is anyone here interested in making new friends? (I don't mean with me per se, but in general. Lol)
When making friends my motto is quality over quantity. And over the years I have met a few quality people on this site and in other areas of life. The next difficult part of friendship is duration and keeping hold of friends through all the different directions life pulls you in, but the internet can help with that. Just takes some extra time and effort.
 

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what...did you just got rid of your 'old' friends to make 'new' ones? ^^

I think Jesus is open to be a friend to anyone who needs a friend...and so it is with us.
We have a friend in Jesus. I read that somewhere.
 

JohnDB

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When making friends my motto is quality over quantity. And over the years I have met a few quality people on this site and in other areas of life. The next difficult part of friendship is duration and keeping hold of friends through all the different directions life pulls you in, but the internet can help with that. Just takes some extra time and effort.
Sorry but that expression "quality over quantity" sounds like an excuse to not engage others in some sort of relationship. Sure, some people have behaviors that are annoying...or are a real drain in your psyche...but that doesn't mean that they don't have value.

Everyone has value and worth... everyone has some unique talent and abilities...it's just a matter of finding out. Some people are usually very secretive about their talents...

I can remember quite clearly a friend of mine whose wife never sang. Her husband did and loved barbershop quartet style singing...I liked listening to him and his buds...I can't carry a tune unless it's handing out hymnals.

But then one day I was watching our choir do a Christmas special...there she was on stage and I wondered what she was doing up there. Then she started this solo that blew me away. She was a complete star... beautiful voice and talent. Clear notes with no vibrato and nailed every note. I was totally impressed. My friend had always blown off her singing ability talking about his quartets.

Some guys have cake baking skills or skills way beyond the norm for barbeque and grilling...others can weld and make wrought iron art. Some can sew or something... you don't know until you get to know them. It doesn't mean that you need them as a best buddy... or that their intentions are always the best...but it takes EVERYONE to make a congregation...and utilizing everyone's talents is a key principle of living a rich life.
 

Lynx

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Sorry but that expression "quality over quantity" sounds like an excuse to not engage others in some sort of relationship. Sure, some people have behaviors that are annoying...or are a real drain in your psyche...but that doesn't mean that they don't have value.

Everyone has value and worth... everyone has some unique talent and abilities...it's just a matter of finding out. Some people are usually very secretive about their talents...

I can remember quite clearly a friend of mine whose wife never sang. Her husband did and loved barbershop quartet style singing...I liked listening to him and his buds...I can't carry a tune unless it's handing out hymnals.

But then one day I was watching our choir do a Christmas special...there she was on stage and I wondered what she was doing up there. Then she started this solo that blew me away. She was a complete star... beautiful voice and talent. Clear notes with no vibrato and nailed every note. I was totally impressed. My friend had always blown off her singing ability talking about his quartets.

Some guys have cake baking skills or skills way beyond the norm for barbeque and grilling...others can weld and make wrought iron art. Some can sew or something... you don't know until you get to know them. It doesn't mean that you need them as a best buddy... or that their intentions are always the best...but it takes EVERYONE to make a congregation...and utilizing everyone's talents is a key principle of living a rich life.
For some people this might be right on target. For the person to whom you replied it missed the mark. Like, missed by four miles.

cinder is more selective than standoffish, and certainly not lazy.
 

Lanolin

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hmm

with the sharing emotions thing...does this mean men cant also share emotions? (actually I have sometimes been accused of being TOO emotional..for example, laughing too much or maybe crying.. if you are going to ugly cry, its best to do it in your pillow or at the movies when nobody can see and have tissues and hankies ready to wipe up the mess.)

and men building or fighting. Well it doesnt seem like my brothers ever fought each other but they like to take things apart and restore old things.

You could battle the weeds in an overgrown garden though, but dont do what some men do which is take shortcuts. Like they will spray the entire area killing everything in site. Not just the plants.

Im like..,what. You killed EVERYTHING? Even the worms?
 

tourist

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Tourist, it is from a hymn: "what a friend we have in Jesus".
Yes, of course. "It's all coming back to me now".

Delighted to have you join our on-going conversations in the forums. Welcome to CC.
 
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Oblio

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"14with whom I once enjoyed sweet fellowship at the house of God, as we walked about among the worshipers." - Psalm 55:14
I trust the Lord...He is all I need.
 

JohnDB

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For some people this might be right on target. For the person to whom you replied it missed the mark. Like, missed by four miles.

cinder is more selective than standoffish, and certainly not lazy.
I think that you are misunderstanding what I am talking about...

There are rings of access that you allow people...those who are closest to you vs those at arms length vs those who you visit in a public place but never allow to know where you live...and those who you block on the internet...
 

TamLynn

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I'm looking for a friend because I would like to fellowship and grow in the faith with another. However, it's harder than I thought. Out of curiosity, is anyone here interested in making new friends? (I don't mean with me per se, but in general. Lol)
Meeting someone that eventually becomes a friend is always nice. 😊
 

tourist

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When making friends my motto is quality over quantity. And over the years I have met a few quality people on this site and in other areas of life. The next difficult part of friendship is duration and keeping hold of friends through all the different directions life pulls you in, but the internet can help with that. Just takes some extra time and effort.
My motto is quality of quantity too. It seems that the more friends one has the least significant each one becomes.