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Lanolin

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Jesus - go call your husband
woman at the well- I have no husband
Jesus- what you say is true, though youve had five husbands and the one you are with now is not your husband
woman at well- how did you know?

Jesus- *winks*
 

Lanolin

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did you figure it out

thing is you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink

but you can make it do lots of exercise so it gets thirsty right, and you can create obstacle courses and little things it can jump over to make it interesting rather than just ride the horse round in circles or dragging a cab..a horse doesnt necessarily want to be a drudge but if thats the future youve got planned for her she may bolt

and nobody will blame her for leaving if you come at her with a whip
 

Live4Him3

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Yes, I know you are a very respectful guy. However, that would not be disrespectful, in my opinion. Unless she has social media or there is someone else there that knows her and you can ask them, then that really is the only respectful/covert way that I can think of is mentioning something about her and a husband.

But hey, I've never asked a woman out either...lol

I've also never asked a guy out either for that matter. I'm old-fashioned that way, I guess. So guys have always had to ask me out.

I had a guy friend... we flirted for about a year and neither one of us was willing to ask the other out. But finally, he asked me did I like him and I said yes. He said well why didn't you ask me out? He said that he had never had to ask a girl out they always asked him... Guess, he was a chick magnet too....lol

I told him that I never had and never would ask a guy out because I don't feel like that is a woman's place. Guess that makes me old-fashioned.

To make that long story short...We dated for a while, but it ultimately didn't work out....So there is that as well....lol

But anyhow, I think there are more women out there who feel like the man should initiate a date. So a guy may have to do the asking when it comes to some ladies.
Well, after using my great detective skills, I learned that she's married.

Good for her husband because she's really nice.
 

Lanolin

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of course
Lord help her if she wasnt.
why not treat all women as married then you wont have that problem of being interested (in what exactly? taking over her body?)
Just because a woman is friendly and nice to someone doesnt necessarily mean they are available. It just means they are friendly and nice.
 
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joecoten

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Last Sunday, I went to a new church. A woman introduced herself to me. I'd say she was being nice and friendly. She told me that she'd been married twice, though neither time had worked out. I told her that I'd been married twice, and that neither time had worked out.
She then told me that she was 63. I didn't tell her that I was 63. I didn't want to appear too nice and friendly!
I now have a ride to church with 2 ladies that seem nice and friendly!
Being the new kid in town apparently extends into one's 60s! Lol
 

Live4Him3

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of course
Lord help her if she wasnt
What is that supposed to mean?

Is it my imagination or are you not only very judgmental, but also of very poor judgment as well?

I'm serious...

why not treat all women as married then you wont have that problem of being interested (in what exactly? taking over her body?)
Just because a woman is friendly and nice to someone doesnt necessarily mean they are available. It just means they are friendly and nice.
Since when is being interested in a nice woman a "problem"?

"Taking over her body"?

Where do you get these absolutely insane notions?

I'm an honorable and totally respectful man...not that I have to convince you of the same.

Seriously, think before you type.
 

Lynx

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What is that supposed to mean?

Is it my imagination or are you not only very judgmental, but also of very poor judgment as well?

I'm serious...


Since when is being interested in a nice woman a "problem"?

"Taking over her body"?

Where do you get these absolutely insane notions?

I'm an honorable and totally respectful man...not that I have to convince you of the same.

Seriously, think before you type.
She's just like that. You'll get used to it. As near as we can tell she doesn't mean it personally.

Think of her as a chaotic neutral character in an MMO.
 

Live4Him3

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She's just like that. You'll get used to it. As near as we can tell she doesn't mean it personally.

Think of her as a chaotic neutral character in an MMO.
Believe me, I am used to it, but there comes a time when you need to call someone out for their own potential good.

Christian men, of which I'm one, aren't looking to take over any woman's body.

Anyhow, like I initially said and meant, good for her husband because she's really nice.
 

Live4Him3

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I remember that night.

Quite a tug-o-war, wasn't it...until I finally let go of her legs.

To the victor belongs the spoils!

My apologies to most of the women here in that this isn't really a joking matter.

Put me in the same room with a man who's abusing a woman, and you'll see me do things that you never imagined I'd be capable of doing.
 
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joecoten

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I remember that night.

Quite a tug-o-war, wasn't it...until I finally let go of her legs.

To the victor belongs the spoils!

My apologies to most of the women here in that this isn't really a joking matter.

Put me in the same room with a man who's abusing a woman, and you'll see me do things that you never imagined I'd be capable of doing.
The truth be known, she was the one who pulled me around by my hair...quite literally!
 

Lanolin

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ok you dont seem to be joking around hmmm

:eek:

I am shocked its not nice being pushed down the stairs I can tell you. Or having your hair pulled
 

Lanolin

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date rape and domestic violence are things we need to talk about and. not sweep under the rug

and these things happened in the Bible so its not a new thing of men and women taking advantage of each other.

You cant just say Im a christian and would never do something like that. many might say they are christian then have a few drink and become decidedly unchristian when they are drunk. Happens more than you think.