How do you reconcile these verse

And if it's a horrible match?

That's what dating is for...to get to know the other person. Better get a good application and use dating as an interview process.
Once you are married it's too late.

Please explain what you mean by that.

Two Christians meet, one is very neat and clean, spends their money wisely and works. The other is lazy, dirty and spends every penny they get. I doubt this union would last. They are both believers, just have different habits. Habits matter.

While in the broadest sense of being unequally yoked you are right, Paul says do not be unequally yoked to unbelievers. Your use is concerning compatibility; his was dealing with moral equivalence.

I dont' say this often, but Amen! I'd sure like to find a female partner that Truly fears the Lord. I would serve her with gladness in my heart.

I designed that by request for Godsgirl83, who is no longer a member here...

She used it as her auto-siggy for a while

Unfortunately some Christians think as long as you're both Christians nothing else matters.

I wouldn't put alot of stock in other people's preferences or ideas unless you know them well and trust their judgment. You are the one who has to look across the pillow each day. You know what you desire so just ask God for that. Just remember, God knows what truly is best for you so if you do find a mate and they aren't exactly what you thought, see that as still part of God's goodness and falls within His plans to prosper you. I wish you all the best.

I asked a lot of men whether they would marry again after their divorce. Nearly all said never again. I think one from memory got married again.

My entire family and all my relatives bar one couple, were all separated or divorced.

A common complaint I heard was that the woman they married had changed over time. She was not the woman I married.

In your twenties is it possible to really know the person that you intend to marry?

I suspect that many men get married for other reasons.

Very true but, does the reader believe God already wrote the destiny before they were born OR, the destiny is in the process of being joined together?

Not sure if that idea works over a twenty or thirty year marriage.

In my observations, I don't think the women are the problem, they are relationship orientated. That is by design.

I place all the blame on the men.

There is another level of complexity.

Personality traits.

Some personality types are not compatible and some others are more compatible.

Some men have to get married and some men should never marry.

Then there are those men in the middle, the ones that have to make that choice.

No match between a man and a woman is perfect because unfortunatly we humans are not perfect.. Though i know there are some woman walking around who think they are...