Do you think finding a spouse is more difficult now than in the past?

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Subhumanoidal

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Glad you put that "often" in there.
I'm well aware not all women are this way, not even all women in their 20s. I was speaking on things is heard about and seen that are common in that age group, though.
 

Gojira

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Women often seek men 6 foot plus, 6 digit salaries,...
Had a Christian woman reject me on these two counts... another just on the height. And they wonder why they were in their late 30s and still single.

The iPhone thing is new on me. I got one, am happy with it, but if someone judged me on the phone I used, that is a serious red flag about their sanity.
 

Lanolin

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I don't totally disagree with you......but I do think you are blaming only men. What about women? Women do the exact same thing. Yes womens hearts break......but so doesn't mean. I know mine has many of times. When a women gets pregnant......isn't she involved in the act as well? (I'm not referring to rape or things of that nature) I'm talking between two people who sleep together. This is where technology has a role in this as well. Sex is exposed so easily even for children. It is easy to have perverted things available for all to see. But women are just as guilty as men as far as "hitting on" "ditching" things of that subject. This world is taking god out of it and sin is raising. The lack of god in people's lives is showing stronger. It's so easy for the world to be worldly with technology alone. With all the availability of perverse images and actions, it's effecting minds and actions people do. People need to repent and put their minds on the lord and the world.
I dont think its the exact same thing

Sometimes a woman just wants to sleep i.e have beauty sleep and NOT have someone inside her.

If she wants to be pregnant it can be her choice but I was actually talking about girls as opposed to women, especially girls growing up. Men take advantage of them. Sure boys and girls often dont know what they are doing its just about having fun or playing around. But girls do have to be more careful around older men because of the power differential.

If you talking consent thats a bit different..we live in a world where there are pills and patches and condoms now and adult shops and graphics on the tv and online. But recall in the Bible that Rachel had fertility drugs (mandrakes) because she couldnt be pregnant, and when she did, she died in childbirth. Wheras Leah had many children and Jacob did not love her even while she bore his children.

Mrs Pharoah was also wanting to play around with Joseph for gratification, not love.
Bathesheba fell pregant to King David, and told him, and the first thing he did was try to pass it off as her husbands. She wasnt the one enticing David, he was the perve. She was just having a bath right?
 

Lanolin

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Just have a tent thats labelled LOST and stick all the lost spouses in there.
 

Talljake

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I dont think its the exact same thing

Sometimes a woman just wants to sleep i.e have beauty sleep and NOT have someone inside her.

If she wants to be pregnant it can be her choice but I was actually talking about girls as opposed to women, especially girls growing up. Men take advantage of them. Sure boys and girls often dont know what they are doing its just about having fun or playing around. But girls do have to be more careful around older men because of the power differential.

If you talking consent thats a bit different..we live in a world where there are pills and patches and condoms now and adult shops and graphics on the tv and online. But recall in the Bible that Rachel had fertility drugs (mandrakes) because she couldnt be pregnant, and when she did, she died in childbirth. Wheras Leah had many children and Jacob did not love her even while she bore his children.

Mrs Pharoah was also wanting to play around with Joseph for gratification, not love.
Bathesheba fell pregant to King David, and told him, and the first thing he did was try to pass it off as her husbands. She wasnt the one enticing David, he was the perve. She was just having a bath right?
I was not referring to kids but women are still just as bad as men. Yes men can be pigs but so can't women. People are wicked, sin is wicked. It isn't sex against sex, race against race, height against height, but a spiritual battle against sin. You want say women arent as bad as men, go to a female prison and see why they are locked up. I'm sorry but women are just as evil as men
 

Gojira

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I was not referring to kids but women are still just as bad as men. Yes men can be pigs but so can't women. People are wicked, sin is wicked. It isn't sex against sex, race against race, height against height, but a spiritual battle against sin. You want say women arent as bad as men, go to a female prison and see why they are locked up. I'm sorry but women are just as evil as men
The sin is just different.
 

Talljake

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I dont think its the exact same thing

Sometimes a woman just wants to sleep i.e have beauty sleep and NOT have someone inside her.

If she wants to be pregnant it can be her choice but I was actually talking about girls as opposed to women, especially girls growing up. Men take advantage of them. Sure boys and girls often dont know what they are doing its just about having fun or playing around. But girls do have to be more careful around older men because of the power differential.

If you talking consent thats a bit different..we live in a world where there are pills and patches and condoms now and adult shops and graphics on the tv and online. But recall in the Bible that Rachel had fertility drugs (mandrakes) because she couldnt be pregnant, and when she did, she died in childbirth. Wheras Leah had many children and Jacob did not love her even while she bore his children.

Mrs Pharoah was also wanting to play around with Joseph for gratification, not love.
Bathesheba fell pregant to King David, and told him, and the first thing he did was try to pass it off as her husbands. She wasnt the one enticing David, he was the perve. She was just having a bath right?
It's not just men who pray ......women do as well. It is less common and society would say that a man just got lucky but it does happen to men as well. It is less spoken and heard by men. Men think they will sound silly or told man up.
 

Talljake

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The sin is just different.
Sin is not different from sin. That's why the lord says when we break one law than we break them all. Sin is sin. Mankind puts a bar on sin. Example : lying is a less sin than murder. To the lord sin is sin
 

HealthAndHappiness

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I was not referring to kids but women are still just as bad as men. Yes men can be pigs but so can't women. People are wicked, sin is wicked. It isn't sex against sex, race against race, height against height, but a spiritual battle against sin. You want say women arent as bad as men, go to a female prison and see why they are locked up. I'm sorry but women are just as evil as men
Women are certainly just as depraved as men. That I agree.
However, even as unjust as American jurisprudence often is, it even recognizes the scope, the range of sins.

People often try to excuse their sins as minor to not warrant God's judgement. But they are condemned to hell for but one sin. Romans 6:23; Revelation 21:8
That is because they hope to get their based upon their self righteousness (OR Self plus Jesus). John 3:18
They remain condemned regardless of how moral they try to live, how many times they try to turn from their sins and commit their lives to the Lord.
So, yes that one sin brings condemnation as does faith in self reform. James 1:10

For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all.

This is where pastors teach that false dogma from when they don't use context or the entire Bible for understanding.
I heard that too, from a Calvinist pastor ( not to lump all into the same pile.)

There are however degrees of sin.
When you read the laws of God there are various punishments depending upon the crime. Theft requires restitution to the victim. If someone walks out of a store or someone's house with a coat, he is caught and not only returns the coat, but 4 more of same value. If that person kills someone to take their coat from them, then it's the death penalty.
Does that make sense?
 

Talljake

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It does make sense. I will talk to my pastor about this so please have patience until I have the opportunity. I am going through and writing questions down so can I learn. This is something I would like to talk about and write down some scriptures for support. I do know that blaspheming the holy Spirit is an unforgivable sin. But I have always heard that sin is sin no matter how we think somethings bad on a degree table, the lord says sin is sin and can't look at sin.
 

Magenta

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Sin is not different from sin. That's why the lord says when we break one law than we break them all. Sin is sin. Mankind puts a bar on sin. Example : lying is a less sin than murder. To the lord sin is sin
Hello Jake! Jesus told Pilate that the man who turned Him over to him was guilty of a greater sin.
 

Mem

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Hello Jake! Jesus told Pilate that the man who turned Him over to him was guilty of a greater sin.
This is said in the context of a conversation concerning authority (given from above) so, it seems that this would be categorized under "putting no other god before Me."
 

Mem

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Thinking of another thread, might finding a spouse somehow be related to finding a friend? Is the key to success to 'show thyself spouse-ly'?
 
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Had a Christian woman reject me on these two counts... another just on the height. And they wonder why they were in their late 30s and still single.

The iPhone thing is new on me. I got one, am happy with it, but if someone judged me on the phone I used, that is a serious red flag about their sanity.

Agreed, it's a whole big neon sign.
 

Dino246

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There are spouses all over the place. Finding them is not difficult at all.

Oh... wait... you mean finding a spouse for yourself....

Well, let's put this in context: how difficult was it finding your last spouse? That's the only way we can compare present to past.

:cool:
 
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There are spouses all over the place. Finding them is not difficult at all.

Oh... wait... you mean finding a spouse for yourself....

Well, let's put this in context: how difficult was it finding your last spouse? That's the only way we can compare present to past.

:cool:
Last spouse? How many spouses people got in here? 😄 But I "found" my ex husband at the age of 37 it was difficult back then...Im now 46 divorced going into 6 years and I tell you I aint looking but it's hard out there. Just this evening my girlfriend and I were chatting and we wondered what do men really want in a woman? Finding a genuine person in this day and age who loves GOD is very difficult my friend. VERY
 

Dino246

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Last spouse? How many spouses people got in here? 😄 But I "found" my ex husband at the age of 37 it was difficult back then...Im now 46 divorced going into 6 years and I tell you I aint looking but it's hard out there. Just this evening my girlfriend and I were chatting and we wondered what do men really want in a woman? Finding a genuine person in this day and age who loves GOD is very difficult my friend. VERY
I was being facetious. :)

My wife and I connected through this site, after I had searched locally and found nobody suitable.
 

seoulsearch

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Last spouse? How many spouses people got in here? 😄 But I "found" my ex husband at the age of 37 it was difficult back then...Im now 46 divorced going into 6 years and I tell you I aint looking but it's hard out there. Just this evening my girlfriend and I were chatting and we wondered what do men really want in a woman? Finding a genuine person in this day and age who loves GOD is very difficult my friend. VERY
46?!!

You look 34!!!

I'm really sorry you went through a divorce -- many of us here can relate and have formed a good chat/discussion/support group here in the forums.

I hope you enjoy your stay here and make some friends. :)
 

Gojira

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Sin is not different from sin. That's why the lord says when we break one law than we break them all. Sin is sin. Mankind puts a bar on sin. Example : lying is a less sin than murder. To the lord sin is sin
Women are wired differently and therefore sometimes are guilty of a different set of sins. Sin is sin, but there are many to choose from. So, women and men share some, and there are some that one sex may be more habitual in than the other.
 

Gojira

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Last spouse? How many spouses people got in here? 😄 But I "found" my ex husband at the age of 37 it was difficult back then...Im now 46 divorced going into 6 years and I tell you I aint looking but it's hard out there. Just this evening my girlfriend and I were chatting and we wondered what do men really want in a woman? Finding a genuine person in this day and age who loves GOD is very difficult my friend. VERY
You do NOT look 46. C'mon now! LOL