First let me state, I am not a member of a SBC, never have been and never will be!
However, I do feel the need to correct your observation on what you believe them to be.
1st you refer to them as reformed. This is your first mistake. Perhaps you say this simply because you have such a dislike for those here who are reformed or have beliefs that tend in that direction.
When you speak of them as being reformed you do so out of ignorance. The alter call is one of their means of bringing someone into their church. By doing this, they are, to a degree saying – “If you pray this prayer, then you will be saved”! That, in itself, is about as far from a reformed belief as you can get. In fact, it is very close to what you believe.
Next you condemn the SBC on the actions of a few. You do this base on an experience that you had in a southern state, and then again due to some mega preacher!
Or maybe you hate them for the simple reason that their organization is called The Southern Baptist Church. After all, in your earlier post you did refer to the south as “them good ole boys”! Are you still fighting the war!
In either case, you seem to indicate a hatred that must be fed!