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That is exactly what I’ve been doing for the past year and my results clearly show how it hasn’t been working,

I might not be on the rest of tonight but tell me some about that and I'll respond when I get back.

YouTube sermons, listening to the Bible, listening to worship music, Christian podcast, etc. Just been lying in bed for most of the year but one thing that it might have been working for, is I’ve been composing a ton of music and I’ve had results such as my music being played world wide but one thing that did happen last week, is that the artist name was originally was owned by someone else. They just released their first song, while I’ve been using the name for a year and had 55 songs under that name. So now I basically have to start all over again with a new artist name.

Okay, got it. I thought you were saying that you took the faster route. Most people try to cut corners but it just doesn't work. Like any real reciprocal relationship, getting to know each other takes time, intentionality, and effort. A transactional relationship, which is how most people approach God, is "I give you this, you give me that," like prostitution. God doesn't do that.

In Matthew 7, Jesus asks why people call Him "Lord" but don't live a life of obedience (ie. faithfulness) to Him. He then says that many (multitudes of christians) will be caught off-guard when they get to the Judgment and Jesus turns them away. That's when they'll start saying, "I went to church. I ministered for You. The gifts of the Holy Spirit manifested through me. I was a trusted leader. I fed the homeless. I visited that one nursing home. I did miracles. You even healed and prophesied through me." Then He'll tell them, "Yes, you did all those things but you weren't faithful to Me." Imagine a wife who lives with her husband but gives herself to other men. Though she's riding the fence (being lukewarm), her husband doesn't own any part of her. The other men own all of her. That's what cutting corners or trying to get by on God is going to get a lot of people.

God brought me into a relationship with Him by Himself. I had a DRE (Damascus Road Experience), the term I use for when you're minding your business and God suddenly shows up and changes the course of your life. God began to teach me from that time on. Unfortunately, this doesn't happen for most people. We all need teachers, ministers who will 'show us the way' or give us that middleman connection with God that we need. But many times God will do the entire tutoring, teaching, and mentoring Himself when these ministers aren't available. ("Though you may have [countless pastors/ministers], yet you do not have many fathers (actual teachers)" --1Cor. 4:15.)

Whether or not you have a minister or ministers who will help you connect with God more intimately, God still wants to be the Teacher who teaches and trains you. But when teachers are MIA, then connecting more intimately with God is harder work because you have to do it all by yourself.

Are you composing music as in singing or playing or both?

All of my music is composed electronically, in a wide variety of genres but my main focus is electronic music because God gave me a vision of becoming a Christian electronic music artist. The thing is, none of my music has a Christian feel to it. It sounds more secular than anything.

This is something I made a week ago…called Unrepentant Sin. I believe it is my best work yet.

On music, as long as you want to follow God's lead, you'll end up where He wants you, doing what He wants you to do. But God is very transitional (as life on earth is): just because He gets you connected to a record company doesn't mean He wants you to produce music for the rest of your life. If you miss His moving when it's time to move on to the next thing, whatever you're doing will stagnate and you'll be without His covering. A lot of people (musicians, ministers, etc.) fall into sin and compromise because when God moves them on they either don't know or they refuse to move on. Their music or message (or whatever) will lose its spark or anointing when this happens.

I still need to learn the guitar because I can strum it once and come up with a whole song. I grew up singing with my brothers and if I don't have to stop, I can sing the whole day without getting tired of singing. I sang seven hours straight one Saturday when I started cleaning the house. I only stopped because I knew that if I sang one or two hours more, I wouldn't have a voice left. Another time, I sang five hours straight while helping a friend on his ranch. I only stopped because I knew everyone on the ranch could hear me and might be getting tired of the singing. I wasn't tired at all. I look forward to doing public singing again-- not for income but just when I feel like it and also to somehow bless others.

I knew a guy at Olive Garden named Sammy. He really drew me into wanting to follow Jesus. He would sing Christian songs the entire time he was roaming around the restaurant. It was truly magical. There was a sense of peace to him that I never experienced out of someone before that. He was also the highest earner of all the servers and guests lined up to request him. I’ve never seen someone so blessed. A lot of the servers were jealous but I loved working with him and I wanted to be just like him, while I was working there as a server.

Waiting tables doesn't pay much but it was one of the jobs I enjoyed the most.

I'm glad you mentioned peace. Peace is one of Jesus's main Signatures. (I say one of because He has more than that and because there are other types of peace that aren't from Him.)

I was hanging with a buddy who adopted a dog. The dog had been abused and was afraid of everyone, especially men. It wouldn't get close to anyone. But when music went up, Jesus came down. It felt like we were underwater in that living room the peace was so thick. Everyone recognized that 'the Lord was there', and even the dog recognized the presence of the Creator, calmed down, and came and sat in everyone's lap and let everyone pet it.

Another time, I met a guy at a church I attended once because the Jezebel spirit was very strong there. This guy had some music he wanted me to look at in his house. He had a dog and a cat. The dog was skinny and the cat shed all the time. He said he didn't know why. But he operated in a Jezebel spirit (he was eager to learn from his female pastor how to mature in Jezebel as she was); the atmosphere in his house was dark. Once in a while he would mutter 'tongues' out loud, having been taught to 'get what you want' by speaking in tongues (more like speaking curses at his enemies, something that also occurred in this story: https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/love-and-death-in-the-house-of-prayer-53866/). I went over several days in a row to do music and then he told me he was going on a weekend church camping trip and asked if I wanted to join. I said no (no way), so he told me to lock up after I was done and he'd have his sister feed the pets while he was gone. Just minutes after he left, Jesus came down into his house and the peace was very heavy (not like being underwater this time but still very heavy). The pets experienced a transformation. I also visited over the weekend while his sister was there and Jesus and His peace were still there. His pets had come back to life (so to speak), no longer depressed with loss of appetite but happy and eating voraciously. I went to visit again when the guy returned that Monday; sure enough, Jesus's presence had left, Jezebel's presence had returned, and his pets were sickly and depressed again, that quickly: these changes (depressed to happy to depressed) happened in the span of just two and half days.

I might write a post later about 'territories' and how each territory or home or family is ruled by the spirit that the person(s) there serve. It doesn't matter who lives in a territory; the spirit 'above' them will be there according to how they live their lives or 'who they serve'. But yes, wherever Jesus is (whether through music or whatever), the effect is often peace which is His Signature.

"The fruit of righteousness will be peace-- the effect of righteousness, quietness and confidence forever" (Isaiah 32:17).

A lot of Christian music has that effect on me. I use it a lot as a coping mechanism or just a way to connect with God and my heart.

I tend to sense that spirit when my mother’s around. Immediately when she walks in the door, I feel super stressed and it’s like I have to walk on egg shells around her. She hasn’t repented in a long time and drinks jagermeister and rockstar energy like four times a day. She has a collection of so many jager bottles in the backyard that she can make a greenhouse.

Bringing that up, I wonder about my spirit. Sometimes our dog and cat chase one another all day and night but a lot of the time I’m home alone, our dog just lays with me.

Sometimes I wonder what spirit I serve. I think that would be another great thread to bring up.

I mostly worked on the Wii U titles. Specifically games that were previously released on older Nintendo consoles. I’m not going to name the title but I did have the privilege to work on a Legend of Zelda title, which was one of my favorite games growing up.

Also, when I was not on the Nintendo team, in the more public sector of the company, probably my favorite game that I got to work on of all time, was the game Rocket League. I still to this day find that one of the only games I can play without getting bored and tired of video games after 5 minutes.

If I were to name a state in the US after the jezebel spirit, I would say where I live, Los Angeles County. Probably why there are so many homeless men here.

Sounds like my mom. I have caught here in so many lies over the years, I just gave up dealing with her. Yeah, she does some good things but it’s like now, I lost all sense of who I originally was. I don’t care to support her anymore. Every time I would do chores around the house she would say i’m doing it wrong. So I gave up doing those too. Every time I try to get rid of things in the house that are taking up too much space or is absolutely useless and has no value, she wants to keep it. She walks around the house farting and burping. She also talks out loud to no one and when she gets frustrated she blames things on everyone else, never taking responsibility for her actions. When she talks to me, she never asks me how I’m doing or wants to know anything about me. All does is talk about herself, her life and asks me random questions that she can just look up on google or talk to someone actually know the answer, instead of thinking that I know everything.

I’d love to see that thread.

I loved Zelda growing up. I especially liked 'The Ocarina of Time'. I liked the short musicals Link played when Zelda would time warp or whatever that was.

Jezebel is everywhere. You might be right: it might have the strongest hold in LA. Whatever city or state or region a.) where men have most turned their backs on their God-given responsibilities + b.) where men most pedestalize, cater to, worship, and revere females/femininity is the place where Jezebel is strongest.

Are you still living with your mom? If so, why? More importantly, where is your dad?

I'm done with the 'thrones and dominions' posts (three of them). They're still 'awaiting approval' so look for 'Thrones and Dominions' in the Bible Forum later. Or see if this link works: https://christianchat.com/bible-discussion-forum/thrones-and-dominions.217236/.

I'm off for the night. Enjoy reading those posts when they pop up.

I was shadowing an engineer friend of my dad's (I still remember his first and last name) when I was in high school and had to help design a car part at the Ohio State University. They didn't give me any credit. Lol. I wonder if I should go look up the patent and ask for reparations. I hope the people you worked for paid you something for your involvement. I recently bought two Wii games for my friend's kids. There's a chance you might have worked on one of the games because they're 17+ games on two discs (Wii Sports & Wii Sports Resort).

The Jezebel spirit (absolutely hates God, all morality, godly authority, and the essence and existence and concept of masculinity) is a lot more widespread than some might believe. It's also a mindset and not just a spirit, so the mindset (self-absorbed and willing to use 'witchcraft' (ie. manipulation, lies, deception, etc.) and any means necessary to get its own way) reaches way farther than the spirit itself. Same for the Ahab spirit (hates God and God's command for men to have masculine responsibility) and the Ahab mindset (self-centered, immature (Peter Pan), and absolutely hates the responsibility God put on men). The [Jezebel and Ahab] spirits directly hate God (compare to an atheist); the mindset doesn't hate God but doesn't care for Him either (compare to an agnostic).

After I respond to other comments I'll start a thread in the Bible Forum about how the spirit a person serves legally takes up residence in a 'throne' over the person or over a specific territory.

I have been living with her for ten years, in hope that I’d be a good example to my younger brother, who if I wasn’t here, he would have no male role modeling. I haven’t been the greatest example in the last two years but he gets to experience me handling my mother, whether he agrees how I handle her or not, he is learning how to deal with someone like her.

My dad is remarried, has two new kids that are now in college and lives in Aliso Viejo. He has been kinda absent, though when I was younger i used to go to his house every weekend or every other weekend. He is kinda like a work-a-holic…and when he is home, he usually just watches sports. He doesn’t believe in God. He believes that aliens created everything, due to watching too much of the show ‘ancient aliens’ on the history channel. He is really into collecting watches, cooking and all things Tesla.

I’ll check out the link to see if it works. If not, I’ll keep my eyes peeled. Most likely it will be released in the morning or later on in the day.

Good for your little brother. Growing in masculinity is so important for boys/men. It's not popular at all but it's important.

I used to attend a church with a female pastor who was a Jezebel. Her husband was extremely passive and was Norwegian, so she would say that Norwegian men are very passive to explain away why her husband was so passive. Her husband was simply 'an Ahab'. One day, I was playing football with two boys (10 and 11 years old) in front of her home. Both boys were from single-mother homes and unfortunately this pastor had befriended their moms. Let's call the 10-year-old Tom and the 11-year-old Andy so I don't have to keep writing their ages.

Andy was a compliant child and Tom was an assertive child. (These are the two basic types of children.) We played catch for a while and I would throw the football to each of them. Tom caught about 18 of 20 passes; but Andy only caught about 5 of 20 passes. I assess people, things, and situations really quickly (because I don't like wasting time), so when I saw that no matter how softly I threw or lobbed the ball to Andy, he just couldn't catch it, I recognized the dynamics at play and called him over to me. I remembered that Andy was living with a single mom and that meant he was living a whole lore more "Nos" and "Don'ts" than "Yeses" and "You can do its". On top of that, he was a compliant child which made it worse (because Tom was also living under 'single mother rules' but could catch a football). Andy's mom needed him to be 'weak' so she could feel safe... but agreeing to be weak, Andy's weakness translated to ineptitude: "I have to be weak and inept so my mom can feel safe that she will never lose me and I'll never leave her." His ineptitude grew like vines into his physical abilities. That was why he couldn't catch simple and easy football passes. So, I put my hand on his shoulder, looked him in the eye, and told him, "There is nothing wrong with being strong. It's okay to be strong. There is nothing wrong with being strong." I then sent him back to where Tom was standing and threw each of them the ball twenty times each. This time, both Tom and Andy were catching about 18 of 20 passes. They were evenly tied because "a stronger" had come along and 'loosed' Andy by giving him the permission to be free and be himself.

The 'law' from mom to those two boys was "Please don't be [too] strong." This law didn't affect Tom like it affected Andy because everyone is different. I had to come and speak a contradicting 'law' ("It is good to be strong!") in order to supersede or neutralize the 'law' from his mom ("It is bad to be strong"). Of course, he would have to return home to his mom, so he would have to acquiesce and slide back under the law she put on him. (The Jezebel pastor also worked on Tom to weaken him. She plainly saw Andy was already quick to yield to feminine wiles, so she didn't bother him. But she would needle and poke and prod and try to drain and bring Tom under her control. He was a resistant kid. He needs a father figure in his life to learn to manage his masculinity because he (both of them) started out compromised.) So, it's a good thing you're with your mom and around your brother as a mitigating force against 'reaching tentacles' and 'smoky tendrils' of emasculation and domination.

Your dad sounds like the everyday Californian. I lived in Cali for a while. The people there have reached possibly the highest level in human coldness (the closest to robots I've seen in any country), worse than NYC. There will be revivals in Cali but they'll be like rains of fire (similar to the Azusa Street revival which began in Los Angeles) whereas revivals in NYC will be like hurricanes (water) from the coast.

You're not going to find those posts I made about 'principalities and powers'. I wrote three of them last night and then when I saw they weren't allowed to post re-wrote all three this morning. The new three have also been banned from posting. They were 'moderated and found wanting'. Here are links to the three new posts I re-wrote today:

1.) 'Thrones and Dominions', Pt. 1: https://christianchat.com/bible-discussion-forum/thrones-and-dominions.217243/.

2.) Part 2: https://christianchat.com/bible-discussion-forum/thrones-and-dominions-ii.217244/.

3.) Part 3: https://christianchat.com/bible-discussion-forum/thrones-and-dominions-iii.217245/.

I'll have to write on the topic within one of the threads I already started-- maybe this one. It's only a matter of time before I'm banned from this site, so we'll see.

Good for your little brother. Growing in masculinity is so important for boys/men. It's not popular at all but it's important.

I used to attend a church with a female pastor who was a Jezebel. Her husband was extremely passive and was Norwegian, so she would say that Norwegian men are very passive to explain away why her husband was so passive. Her husband was simply 'an Ahab'. One day, I was playing football with two boys (10 and 11 years old) in front of her home. Both boys were from single-mother homes and unfortunately this pastor had befriended their moms. Let's call the 10-year-old Tom and the 11-year-old Andy so I don't have to keep writing their ages.

Andy was a compliant child and Tom was an assertive child. (These are the two basic types of children.) We played catch for a while and I would throw the football to each of them. Tom caught about 18 of 20 passes; but Andy only caught about 5 of 20 passes. I assess people, things, and situations really quickly (because I don't like wasting time), so when I saw that no matter how softly I threw or lobbed the ball to Andy, he just couldn't catch it, I recognized the dynamics at play and called him over to me. I remembered that Andy was living with a single mom and that meant he was living a whole lore more "Nos" and "Don'ts" than "Yeses" and "You can do its". On top of that, he was a compliant child which made it worse (because Tom was also living under 'single mother rules' but could catch a football). Andy's mom needed him to be 'weak' so she could feel safe... but agreeing to be weak, Andy's weakness translated to ineptitude: "I have to be weak and inept so my mom can feel safe that she will never lose me and I'll never leave her." His ineptitude grew like vines into his physical abilities. That was why he couldn't catch simple and easy football passes. So, I put my hand on his shoulder, looked him in the eye, and told him, "There is nothing wrong with being strong. It's okay to be strong. There is nothing wrong with being strong." I then sent him back to where Tom was standing and threw each of them the ball twenty times each. This time, both Tom and Andy were catching about 18 of 20 passes. They were evenly tied because "a stronger" had come along and 'loosed' Andy by giving him the permission to be free and be himself.

The 'law' from mom to those two boys was "Please don't be [too] strong." This law didn't affect Tom like it affected Andy because everyone is different. I had to come and speak a contradicting 'law' ("It is good to be strong!") in order to supersede or neutralize the 'law' from his mom ("It is bad to be strong"). Of course, he would have to return home to his mom, so he would have to acquiesce and slide back under the law she put on him. (The Jezebel pastor also worked on Tom to weaken him. She plainly saw Andy was already quick to yield to feminine wiles, so she didn't bother him. But she would needle and poke and prod and try to drain and bring Tom under her control. He was a resistant kid. He needs a father figure in his life to learn to manage his masculinity because he (both of them) started out compromised.) So, it's a good thing you're with your mom and around your brother as a mitigating force against 'reaching tentacles' and 'smoky tendrils' of emasculation and domination.

Your dad sounds like the everyday Californian. I lived in Cali for a while. The people there have reached possibly the highest level in human coldness (the closest to robots I've seen in any country), worse than NYC. There will be revivals in Cali but they'll be like rains of fire (similar to the Azusa Street revival which began in Los Angeles) whereas revivals in NYC will be like hurricanes (water) from the coast.

You're not going to find those posts I made about 'principalities and powers'. I wrote three of them last night and then when I saw they weren't allowed to post re-wrote all three this morning. The new three have also been banned from posting. They were 'moderated and found wanting'. Here are links to the three new posts I re-wrote today:

1.) 'Thrones and Dominions', Pt. 1: https://christianchat.com/bible-discussion-forum/thrones-and-dominions.217243/.

2.) Part 2: https://christianchat.com/bible-discussion-forum/thrones-and-dominions-ii.217244/.

3.) Part 3: https://christianchat.com/bible-discussion-forum/thrones-and-dominions-iii.217245/.

I'll have to write on the topic within one of the threads I already started-- maybe this one. It's only a matter of time before I'm banned from this site, so we'll see.