biblically masculine/feminine behavior vs society

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you can only find that in one translation, and it's almost certainly talking about some form of homosexuality. What's effeminate to one may not be to another.
Yes, but the Bible, not the current culture, determines a man and a woman.
 
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you can only find that in one translation, and it's almost certainly talking about some form of homosexuality. What's effeminate to one may not be to another.
Jacob was probably effeminate compared to Esau, Jacob was a homebody who kept house and cooked, and he openly wept when he met Rachel because he was so overcome with emotion at her beauty. What's interesting is that Isaac loved Esau, whom God hated

And the boys grew: and Esau was a cunning hunter, a man of the field; and Jacob was a plain man, dwelling in tents. And Isaac loved Esau, because he did eat of his venison: but Rebekah loved Jacob. Genesis 25:27-28
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H8535 תָּם tam (tawm) adj.​
1. complete.​
2. (usually, morally) pious.​
3. (specifically) gentle, dear.​
 
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Jacob was probably effeminate compared to Esau, Jacob was a homebody who kept house and cooked, and he openly wept when he met Rachel because he was so overcome with emotion at her beauty. What's interesting is that Isaac loved Esau, whom God hated

And the boys grew: and Esau was a cunning hunter, a man of the field; and Jacob was a plain man, dwelling in tents. And Isaac loved Esau, because he did eat of his venison: but Rebekah loved Jacob. Genesis 25:27-28
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H8535 תָּם tam (tawm) adj.​
1. complete.​
2. (usually, morally) pious.​
3. (specifically) gentle, dear.​
I've actually heard people say that about jacob, the "nor effeminate" verse is seriously overused and abused as a bashing verse to accuse guys of all kinds of things.
 
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you can only find that in one translation, and it's almost certainly talking about some form of homosexuality. What's effeminate to one may not be to another.
Euphemisms:
I agree, the context of 1Co.6:9 seems to make this a clear euphemism for homosexuality. Euphemisms were often used in scripture for this behavior.
(It is interesting though, and telling, that it uses this particular euphemism.)

We also have some clear prohibitions against things like cross-dressing. And when we see those passages, they too have the connotation of homosexual conduct. So the problem with cross-dressing is a lot deeper than WHAT you are wearing; the real problem is WHY you are wearing it.

Cross Dressing:
It's principally an issue of intent.
If your wife puts on one of your manly shirts, it's probably not because she wants to be a man.
It's probably because your shirt is comfy, and cozy, and probably makes her feel secure... it makes her think of you.
She isn't trying to be a man.
Now, if she was wearing all your clothes, along with drawing on a mustache, and she was roaming around pretending to be a bloke... then you'd need some counseling.

Apologetics & Debate:
So if we remember this is all about INTENT, then we're armed to fend off all the attacks from progressives trying to justify cross-dressing by bringing up men in ancient times wearing skirts or long robes. A man in ancient Greece may have worn something like a skirt, but it was still a "man's" skirt, and something appropriate for a man to wear in that culture. If he was TRYING to look like a woman... then that was a different matter.



(Note on Ancient Greece:
Despite all the progressive re-interpretations of history, not everyone in ancient Greece was gay, and it was not something the majority participated in, and it was not considered normative. In reality, their entire view of sexuality was so different than modern culture that they really didn't have a concept of men who ONLY had relationships with men. Homosexuality did exist, as a behavior, but they had no equivalent to the modern concept of "gay" as either an identity or as an exclusive preference. Modern views simply don't apply to the ancient world.)



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Euphemisms:
I agree, the context of 1Co.6:9 seems to make this a clear euphemism for homosexuality. Euphemisms were often used in scripture for this behavior.
(It is interesting though, and telling, that it uses this particular euphemism.)

We also have some clear prohibitions against things like cross-dressing. And when we see those passages, they too have the connotation of homosexual conduct. So the problem with cross-dressing is a lot deeper than WHAT you are wearing; the real problem is WHY you are wearing it.

Cross Dressing:
It's principally an issue of intent.
If your wife puts on one of your manly shirts, it's probably not because she wants to be a man.
It's probably because your shirt is comfy, and cozy, and probably makes her feel secure... it makes her think of you.
She isn't trying to be a man.
Now, if she was wearing all your clothes, along with drawing on a mustache, and she was roaming around pretending to be a bloke... then you'd need some counseling.

Apologetics & Debate:
So if we remember this is all about INTENT, then we're armed to fend off all the attacks from progressives trying to justify cross-dressing by bringing up men in ancient times wearing skirts or long robes. A man in ancient Greece may have worn something like a skirt, but it was still a "man's" skirt, and something appropriate for a man to wear in that culture. If he was TRYING to look like a woman... then that was a different matter.



(Note on Ancient Greece:
Despite all the progressive re-interpretations of history, not everyone in ancient Greece was gay, and it was not something the majority participated in, and it was not considered normative. In reality, their entire view of sexuality was so different than modern culture that they really didn't have a concept of men who ONLY had relationships with men. Homosexuality did exist, as a behavior, but they had no equivalent to the modern concept of "gay" as either an identity or as an exclusive preference. Modern views simply don't apply to the ancient world.)



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you're probably right. it may not be super common but men's skirts for non-crossdressers are a thing, there's a few manufacturers making them for men now.
 

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aside from kilts there are a few other options marketed to western men.




Tradition & Intent:

For a Scotsman to wear a kilt, where it is a part of their tradition and culture, it is perfectly normal and masculine.
But for Americans who are not Scotsmen, we have no such tradition. In fact we have a completely opposite tradition: in our culture it is considered feminine, and nothing but feminine... so it would seem that men in American culture who want to wear skirts are trying to look feminine.


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Tradition & Intent:

For a Scotsman to wear a kilt, where it is a part of their tradition and culture, it is perfectly normal and masculine.
But for Americans who are not Scotsmen, we have no such tradition. In fact we have a completely opposite tradition: in our culture it is considered feminine, and nothing but feminine... so it would seem that men in American culture who want to wear skirts are trying to look feminine.


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wrong on all counts.
 

maxwel

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wrong on all counts.
If you are in a culture where it's only normative for women to wear skirts, and it's your desire to wear a skirt and look like a woman... you are free to do so.

Please don't go out without your panties... it's getting to be cold weather.



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If you are in a culture where it's only normative for women to wear skirts, and it's your desire to wear a skirt and look like a woman... you are free to do so.

Please don't go out without your panties... it's getting to be cold weather.



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American culture is way past that point, ever hear of utiilty kilt? they're fairly popular here in the northwest.
 
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Yes, but the Bible, not the current culture, determines a man and a woman.
Actually, that distinction is determined by genetic processes, which in turn are determined by God's design. The Bible tells us the facts but does not do the determining. ;)
 
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If you are in a culture where it's only normative for women to wear skirts, and it's your desire to wear a skirt and look like a woman... you are free to do so.

Please don't go out without your panties... it's getting to be cold weather.



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Well, they are calling for a big snow here in the Ohio Valley, so you def want to cover anything that swings low. :eek: BTW the only man that can wear a kilt and still be manly is Mel Gibson in Braveheart, though if I recall he was a little cheeky in that movie. :p I need to get to sleep, the jokes aren't gettin' any better from here and I can't top yours brother Max.
 
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A little light hearted discussion wasn't sure if this was the place but here it is.. The bible gives us some guidelines such as the prohibition of full blown crossdressing, homosexuality and a few basics, however so much is labeled by society, some of which doesn't correspond to anything in the bible I know of. I comprised a sample list taken from reddit of things someone deemed "feminine", how many do you agree with or wish to debunk some are pretty ridiculous. I omitted the more lewd and/or inappropriate ones.
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Let's go through them and see.

1. Using skincare products
2. Using fancy soaps.

I don't see anything unmanly about caring for your body health. My husband has dry skin and would break out if he didn't use skincare products. But he's also 6'4 and a typical sports fan also, I don't think anyone would mistake him as gay.

3. picking and arranging flowers.
My father and my husband both worked at a flower delivery wholesale company. For a while there they could name more flowers than me and my mother, didn't make them gay.

4. sewing and crotchet.
Crafting, art, doesn't make one gay.

5. romantic tv
6. the color purple
Do you mean the movie Color Purple, or just the color? Romantic TV I'm not sure what that would be. I don't know a lot of straight men that love Hallmark movies but I don't either, so, still no proof of being gay.

Most men I know shower, but there are reasons someone would take a bath. If you suffer from soreness and stiffness, a bath in Epsom Salts does the trick.

8. matching the color of your clothes.
Nope, not that either. Having a sense of style doesn't make one gay. My husband is capable of buying and choosing his own clothes. I don't have to mother him. He wears sports stuff a lot and people mistake him for a coach a lot. But he can dress up and go to church without looking like he stole his little brother's clothes. I appreciate that about him.

9. sharing "feelings"
Most men aren't raised to share their feelings. But that doesn't make it wrong to do so. Still hubby sharing how he feels with me isn't the same as a woman does. You're not going to see a group of men sitting around sharing feelings. Men don't tend to think that way.


Well if that is true then the south is full of gay men. Because they hug down here. As a former non hugger who moved south, they all hug and you learn to accept it and lighten up.


11. clothes shopping
Not unless you're talking panties, as Max pointed out, and heels, I wouldn't say that makes one gay.

12. sitting with legs crossed.
Like, Indian style we did as kids? Can we even say that? Or one leg over the other. Not being a man but understanding basic anatomy, I don't think that's a comfortable position for long. It may make you sing higher, but I don't think it makes you gay.

13. blended cocktails
No knowledge in this area at all.

Apparently they've never watched Kitchen Nightmares and heard Ramsey talk.

15. liking cute things
Like babies, yes, like purses, no.

16. color pink
17. leg shaving 18. wearing a cross-shoulder bag(glorified purse)
19. wearing tights/hose
20. wearing skirt(be they made for men or not)
Depends. There are people in sports who shave their legs. If you're doing it for that reason, ok. If you're doing it for Biff, not ok. Bag carried on the back or fanny pack, yes, Jacklyn Smith at Kmart, no. I know some who work in the cold wear hose, matching them with heels and we're back to the panties, no.

Jesus wept. There's a time and a place.

22. being kind, gentle, and compassionate.
No, none of that makes one gay. What makes one gay is wanting to copy/imitate women, usually over acting what a woman would act like. Trying to dress and be different from what God made you. It's a heart attitude.