Wanting to be single for the rest of my life

I'm trying to see if anyone else can understand and relate to where I'm at in regards to dating.

I've been single for 16 months. I attempted to date through apps because I'm not a social person. It didn't go well so I promised to work on myself more through the winter, put off dating, and revisit the notion in spring.

Now I have no want or desire to date. Don't get me wrong, I do sometimes wonder what it would be like to have a partner. But when I factor in how content I am with my routine and life, dating doesn't seem worthwhile anymore.

I have to add that I was extremely codependent all of my life so now that I've been single for a good amount of time, I can't imagine being in a romantic relationship.

I do accept that if God does have a man for me, I won't fight His will. But I'm definitely not actively seeking a partner nor do I plan on doing so in the near future.

Has anyone else had disappointing experiences trying to date as a Christian that led you to "give up" on desiring a partner?

I'm trying to see if anyone else can understand and relate to where I'm at in regards to dating.

I've been single for 16 months. I attempted to date through apps because I'm not a social person. It didn't go well so I promised to work on myself more through the winter, put off dating, and revisit the notion in spring.

Now I have no want or desire to date. Don't get me wrong, I do sometimes wonder what it would be like to have a partner. But when I factor in how content I am with my routine and life, dating doesn't seem worthwhile anymore.

I have to add that I was extremely codependent all of my life so now that I've been single for a good amount of time, I can't imagine being in a romantic relationship.

I do accept that if God does have a man for me, I won't fight His will. But I'm definitely not actively seeking a partner nor do I plan on doing so in the near future.

Has anyone else had disappointing experiences trying to date as a Christian that led you to "give up" on desiring a partner?

I'm trying to see if anyone else can understand and relate to where I'm at in regards to dating.

I've been single for 16 months. I attempted to date through apps because I'm not a social person. It didn't go well so I promised to work on myself more through the winter, put off dating, and revisit the notion in spring.

Now I have no want or desire to date. Don't get me wrong, I do sometimes wonder what it would be like to have a partner. But when I factor in how content I am with my routine and life, dating doesn't seem worthwhile anymore.

I have to add that I was extremely codependent all of my life so now that I've been single for a good amount of time, I can't imagine being in a romantic relationship.

I do accept that if God does have a man for me, I won't fight His will. But I'm definitely not actively seeking a partner nor do I plan on doing so in the near future.

Has anyone else had disappointing experiences trying to date as a Christian that led you to "give up" on desiring a partner?

I'm trying to see if anyone else can understand and relate to where I'm at in regards to dating.

I've been single for 16 months. I attempted to date through apps because I'm not a social person. It didn't go well so I promised to work on myself more through the winter, put off dating, and revisit the notion in spring.

Now I have no want or desire to date. Don't get me wrong, I do sometimes wonder what it would be like to have a partner. But when I factor in how content I am with my routine and life, dating doesn't seem worthwhile anymore.

I have to add that I was extremely codependent all of my life so now that I've been single for a good amount of time, I can't imagine being in a romantic relationship.

I do accept that if God does have a man for me, I won't fight His will. But I'm definitely not actively seeking a partner nor do I plan on doing so in the near future.

Has anyone else had disappointing experiences trying to date as a Christian that led you to "give up" on desiring a partner?

I understand a little bit. I've dated enough and I've gotten my heart broke enough that it makes me REALLY cautious...

But I still desire marriage and a family of my own! So I haven't given up I guess...but I want it to be totally God's leading.

I think it's so important to come to the place where you're satisfied in the Lord as a single before seeking a relationship. So definitely make Jesus your focus right now. I mean, He should always be of course, but Paul makes it clear it's easier to keep our focus on Him if we're single,

I do accept that if God does have a man for me, I won't fight His will. But I'm definitely not actively seeking a partner nor do I plan on doing so in the near future.

Never say never.

First, howdy and welcome to the forum.

Second, welcome to the rest of your life! You cracked the code! It's all optional, so you can get on with the rest of your life now. You may find the perfect guy for you next week, or it may be 20 years from now or maybe never. But it's not something you can't live without, it doesn't define you and your life is not a failure without it.

Y'know what the best part is? Shhhh! Don't tell anyone... The best part is the Valentine's Day half price candy sale on February 15th. You don't have to pay full price OR have any emotional strings when your boyfriend gives you candy. It's ALL YOURS at half price!

I'm trying to see if anyone else can understand and relate to where I'm at in regards to dating.

I've been single for 16 months. I attempted to date through apps because I'm not a social person. It didn't go well so I promised to work on myself more through the winter, put off dating, and revisit the notion in spring.

Now I have no want or desire to date. Don't get me wrong, I do sometimes wonder what it would be like to have a partner. But when I factor in how content I am with my routine and life, dating doesn't seem worthwhile anymore.

I have to add that I was extremely codependent all of my life so now that I've been single for a good amount of time, I can't imagine being in a romantic relationship.

I do accept that if God does have a man for me, I won't fight His will. But I'm definitely not actively seeking a partner nor do I plan on doing so in the near future.

Has anyone else had disappointing experiences trying to date as a Christian that led you to "give up" on desiring a partner?

My fur babies are my Valentine's and I continue to and always will go broke for my girls. Through them I've witnessed what it's like for another being to show me unconditional love is. They've seen me at my worst and are now seeing me at the best I've ever been and have loved me the same throughout. I thank God for them! I'm not a candy person but I will spoil my girls with toys and treats 😄

I love my dog too. As pretty much anyone who talks to me for 10 minutes knows. Dogs are the best people.

i'm saying most Christians have had those experiences. your particular experience sounds more like wondering instead of known desire to date. in your case, time will tell. patience is on your side & you seem NOT to have an issue with it. always incorporate past, present & future in your dating decisions. & certainly, wisdom is the top characteristic to employ in decision making. blessings to you Rebecca89.

I love my dog too. As pretty much anyone who talks to me for 10 minutes knows. Dogs are the best people.

I agree with you. I'm enjoying the journey and walking in faith with my Lord and Savior.

I've been good at recognizing patterns in other's behaviors and compare them to past experiences I've had. If something doesn't add up, along with praying, I do ask a lot of questions so I'm not just assuming or jumping to conclusions. I'm a "why" person, I need to know why. I also love to learn and gain perspective from others.

Thank you so much! ❤️

I agree with you. I'm enjoying the journey and walking in faith with my Lord and Savior.

I've been good at recognizing patterns in other's behaviors and compare them to past experiences I've had. If something doesn't add up, along with praying, I do ask a lot of questions so I'm not just assuming or jumping to conclusions. I'm a "why" person, I need to know why. I also love to learn and gain perspective from others.

Thank you so much! ❤️

you seem to be a lady with a backing of wisdom. patience is 1 of the the key components in applying wisdom. always seek out elder Christians when inquiring. just like a mother, they know.

Why is soooooo important. I find it much easier to forgive people if I understand why they do what they do.

Alcoholics for example. So many of them started by just wanting to get some peace for a while, something that will stop the worry and depression just for a little bit. I can understand that. If I was not a Christian and did not know anything better I could do about it, I might have been an alcoholic myself.

Or the way people gossip about each other, so they can feel good about themselves by putting other people down. I understand the need to feel good about yourself, and how easy it is to feed your pride by putting other people down. It's terribly destructive, but I understand why some people do it.

So what kind of dog and what kind of cat do you have? And what are their names?