I have never seen John that angry for that long. When he gets angry, it's like a firecracker -- big explosion and then it's over quickly. He was angry for an hour and a half, and I know I was nowhere near the beginning of his fume when I arrived.
Ends up it was exactly what we thought all along -- hemorrhoids. They wanted to observe him for 24 hours, but they chose ICU strictly because it got him off their hands faster. (Last time he was in the ER for ten hours before they could find him a regular room. The time before that, eight hours. Put him in ICU, and he's up there in two hours.) Easy on them.
It couldn't have been more traumatic for us if they told us he had another heart attack. All the fears, dread, horror of the beginning overwhelmed us. And John felt just like I did -- he stepped right back to last January. Two major differences though:
1. Last January was when he first realized he was in the hospital, and it took a good week or two to put together why. (Still on the ventilator, so he couldn't simply ask questions.) And then it took him another 2-4 weeks to get a full handle on it, because he also had hospital-induced delirium, so what he knew always felt normal, but his PT never did take him off his tropical island all alone to put him in that torture chair. That was a delusion that stuck in with reality. That's also terrifying when you realize what you think is happening can't possibly be happening.
2. I visit him for two hours a day. He's stuck there for 24/7 and with everything attached to him, he would have preferred being strung up by his toes. It would have been more comfortable. So he's stuck living it, and I'm merely worried for him.
Two doctors strongly hinted that there was absolutely no reason he should have ever been put in ICU. The damage was compounded because no one read all his records. One idiot had us believing he had AFIB again. Another had us fearing another clot in his leg. They found a little colony of MRSA in his nose, so another idiot had us believing he'd have to get antibiotics for months again. (Stupid part is we were assured he wouldn't have to have that done for the exact reason they told us he would have to have it done the last time. Everything is about getting him off their hands.)
And as much as they insisted he did have to have those IVs, the monitors, the gizmos and doohickeys attached on or in his body all over the place, so he couldn't relax, suddenly, 5 minutes before he was transferred, everything was removed, (except the leg cuffs, and that's still strictly because one doctor didn't read his leg clot history fully.) He was transferred to a regular ward, so none of that mattered anymore.
I helped settle him in to his new room, and when everything was calm and quiet, I gave him the blueberry pie filling I made for him as a reward, and as strictly something he could eat without it being a scheduled meal.
He was so happy to be in a bed he fits into without all those doohickeys, he danced a jig (horizontally in bed.) I told him when I'd be back tomorrow to make sure he gets that swallow test, and kissed him goodbye.
He burst into tears. (Real tears, and he usually doesn't get tears when he cries.) Scared me all over again, until he could control himself enough to explain. Out of the three medical places he's been since all this started, he's spending the night in the worst of the worse in my mind. I already knew what happened to him two months before he did, so I didn't get that that particular ICU was his worst memories! He was so relieved to be out of there and finally sure enough to believe this wasn't a setback at all, that he burst into tears of joy.
(He really needs a different way to cry when he's happy, so I don't worry so much. lol)