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No, I'm not God. 
But I do believe that he won't help us if we won't help ourselves. It's like having an ulcer and not going to the hospital. You say "God help make this ulcer better". But he won't until or unless you go to the hospital, where He can employ doctors to treat the ulcers. I agree with Tommy, if YOU would start acting happy, you WILL eventually BECOME happier. But not if you choose to stay stuck in the pit of anger, bitterness, and self-pity that you're in. Give all that over to God and watch how your life will change.
But I do believe that he won't help us if we won't help ourselves. It's like having an ulcer and not going to the hospital. You say "God help make this ulcer better". But he won't until or unless you go to the hospital, where He can employ doctors to treat the ulcers. I agree with Tommy, if YOU would start acting happy, you WILL eventually BECOME happier. But not if you choose to stay stuck in the pit of anger, bitterness, and self-pity that you're in. Give all that over to God and watch how your life will change.
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No, I'm not God. But I do believe that he won't help us if we won't help ourselves. It's like having an ulcer and not going to the hospital. You say "God help make this ulcer better". But he won't until or unless you go to the hospital, where He can employ doctors to treat the ulcers. I agree with Tommy, if YOU would start acting happy, you WILL eventually BECOME happier. But not if you choose to stay stuck in the pit of anger, bitterness, and self-pity that you're in. Give all that over to God and watch how your life will change.
But I do believe that he won't help us if we won't help ourselves. It's like having an ulcer and not going to the hospital. You say "God help make this ulcer better". But he won't until or unless you go to the hospital, where He can employ doctors to treat the ulcers. I agree with Tommy, if YOU would start acting happy, you WILL eventually BECOME happier. But not if you choose to stay stuck in the pit of anger, bitterness, and self-pity that you're in. Give all that over to God and watch how your life will change.
Thank you again for clearing that up and God bless you.
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I didn't diagnose you. But as a person who has suffered depression for 25 years and had a best friend who was bipolar and an ex-girlfriend who was OCD, ADHD and whose son was ADHD and sensory overload. As well as a bipolar sister, adding to the fact that I have spent years learning on psychology and mental illness, and who had wanted to go to school for psychology, I think i know enough to recognize deep emotional issues or mental illness.
It's no wonder you have no friends. I came here giving sincere advice and you became rather nasty and defensive. Encouraging words are not always the answer, sometimes they're just a bandaid. Sorry I didn't tickle your ears but gave you honesty with the intention of helping you. I promise to not care next time. Go live your life being nasty and putting bandaids on broken bones.
It's no wonder you have no friends. I came here giving sincere advice and you became rather nasty and defensive. Encouraging words are not always the answer, sometimes they're just a bandaid. Sorry I didn't tickle your ears but gave you honesty with the intention of helping you. I promise to not care next time. Go live your life being nasty and putting bandaids on broken bones.
I had a similar life, and i got my identity from what the world/people told me who i was,and my sins, rather than agreeing with God and taking up my new identity as a saint.. In my false identity i was living in, i had developed several unwanted habits...It was a painful life, so i know where you are coming from. You are looking to people instead of first God, and HIS will first... you have to let your old self go... you are not evil, and you are not unloved... You are not defined by circumstances, you are defined by who you know, and if you know God, and you follow his will by knowing who He is, and who he is for you, and if you stand in faith believing... everything will line up.... Take the focus off yourself, and put it on God so he can do his thing over your life..."The kingdom of God is within you Luke 17:21".. If God didn't love you, he would not be dwelling within you..... also ..."1 Corinthians 3:16 Do you not know that you yourselves are God's temple, and the Spirit of God dwells in you?".. I normally don't post too much scripture because it can be overwhelming, but you need to know who you are, and what your identity is, because you are not who you think you are, and you need to get rid of that old identity, and those old identity habits... you are a new creation..."2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away. Behold, the new has come!"
Your profile says you are Christian. If so, there are some things you should keep in mind as the world batters you senseless:
John 15:19
If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
James 4:4
Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
1 John 2:15
Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
John 12:25
Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.
2 Corinthians 12:10
That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
1 Corinthians 4
[SUP]11 [/SUP]Even unto this present hour we both hunger, and thirst, and are naked, and are buffeted, and have no certain dwelling place; [SUP]12 [/SUP]And labor, working with our own hands: being reviled, we bless; being persecuted, we suffer it: [SUP]13 [/SUP]Being defamed, we entreat: we are made as the filth of the world, and are the off scouring of all things unto this day. [SUP]14 [/SUP]I write not these things to shame you, but as my beloved sons I warn you."
Matthew 5
3 “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. 5 Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. 6 Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. 7 Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. 8 Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. 9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. 10 Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 11 Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12 Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.
Matthew 10
22 You will be hated by everyone because of Me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved.
Philippians 1
21 For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. 22 If I am to go on living in the body, this will mean fruitful labor for me. Yet what shall I choose? I do not know! 23 I am torn between the two: I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far; 24 but it is more necessary for you that I remain in the body. 25 Convinced of this, I know that I will remain, and I will continue with all of you for your progress and joy in the faith
1 Thessalonians 3
7 Therefore, brothers and sisters, in all our distress and persecution we were encouraged about you because of your faith. 8 For now we really live, since you are standing firm in the Lord.
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That feeling that you don't belong in this world? It's because you don't belong to this world. The fact that you suffer in it says you must be doing something right.
God says to persevere. Paul said he would. Shall we do any less?
John 15:19
If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
James 4:4
Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
1 John 2:15
Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
John 12:25
Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.
2 Corinthians 12:10
That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
1 Corinthians 4
[SUP]11 [/SUP]Even unto this present hour we both hunger, and thirst, and are naked, and are buffeted, and have no certain dwelling place; [SUP]12 [/SUP]And labor, working with our own hands: being reviled, we bless; being persecuted, we suffer it: [SUP]13 [/SUP]Being defamed, we entreat: we are made as the filth of the world, and are the off scouring of all things unto this day. [SUP]14 [/SUP]I write not these things to shame you, but as my beloved sons I warn you."
Matthew 5
3 “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. 5 Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. 6 Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. 7 Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. 8 Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. 9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. 10 Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 11 Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12 Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.
Matthew 10
22 You will be hated by everyone because of Me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved.
Philippians 1
21 For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. 22 If I am to go on living in the body, this will mean fruitful labor for me. Yet what shall I choose? I do not know! 23 I am torn between the two: I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far; 24 but it is more necessary for you that I remain in the body. 25 Convinced of this, I know that I will remain, and I will continue with all of you for your progress and joy in the faith
1 Thessalonians 3
7 Therefore, brothers and sisters, in all our distress and persecution we were encouraged about you because of your faith. 8 For now we really live, since you are standing firm in the Lord.
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That feeling that you don't belong in this world? It's because you don't belong to this world. The fact that you suffer in it says you must be doing something right.
God says to persevere. Paul said he would. Shall we do any less?
Dear sister,
I experieced when people have gone true al lot in life they al deal with it in different ways. Sometimes strongholds get in our minds. And that's why I think you say you get angry quick. Its because you feel a deep sadness and this is the way for you to protect yourself.
The root of your problem is not the anger, it's the way you feel about yourself. That's what has to change. There's no win in comparison. God made you just to way you are, and your perfect and wonderfully made! Now you have to start loving yourself!
If you start loving yourself, and being kind with yourself, the anger and fustration will become less.
I myself would recomment: battlefield of the mind of joyce Meyer. I read it myself when I was in need. And on YouTube the sermon of Andy stanley: there's no win in comperason.
I will pray for you sis, keep the faith. You will be a wonderfull and loving mother. And Jesus will help you with this journey, he did with me he will do with you too.
Much love,
Angelique
I experieced when people have gone true al lot in life they al deal with it in different ways. Sometimes strongholds get in our minds. And that's why I think you say you get angry quick. Its because you feel a deep sadness and this is the way for you to protect yourself.
The root of your problem is not the anger, it's the way you feel about yourself. That's what has to change. There's no win in comparison. God made you just to way you are, and your perfect and wonderfully made! Now you have to start loving yourself!
If you start loving yourself, and being kind with yourself, the anger and fustration will become less.
I myself would recomment: battlefield of the mind of joyce Meyer. I read it myself when I was in need. And on YouTube the sermon of Andy stanley: there's no win in comperason.
I will pray for you sis, keep the faith. You will be a wonderfull and loving mother. And Jesus will help you with this journey, he did with me he will do with you too.
Much love,
Angelique
I learned not to go by my feelings,but go by what is right,and good.
It could be brain chemistry,which can vary from person to person.
It could be the way people act that can cause people to not get along with people that great.
Mat 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.
Jesus told us at this time that the love of many shall wax cold,and that is because of their high selfishness,and arrogance,which causes people to not like each other as much,not trust each other as much,and have disdain for each other,which in the last days they will be without natural affection towards people.
If it is brain chemistry which does not make you feel all that great,and you think people do not like you,then you will act accordingly and appear like that,but to me it is not reality,but only how you feel,like OCD is only a feeling and not reality,for everything is alright they only think it is not by creating an unsatisfied feeling in their mind.
You are no different than anyone else,which a woman told me she did not think people liked her when she met them,and I was thinking you are no different than anyone else,which it was only in her mind,for why would people not like her.
We are at the time where the love of many shall wax cold,because of the way people act,and we can have somewhat hate towards people because of their arrogance,and selfishness,that Jesus told us about,and God told us about the last generation before Jesus comes back(Proverbs 30:11-14),highly selfish,highly arrogant,basically caring about themselves with little regard for anyone else.
This can cause us to not like people as much,and not want to associate with them as much,and then we will feel guilty about it,but at the same time not want to be around people for we are mad at society for their behavior like Jesus said.
I do not know but I look at it as a feeling,for whatever reason,and not reality,so I do not go by how I feel,but what is right,and good.
I have a hard time getting close to people,which I have my whole life,and kind of steer clear of them,and I know why,because I tend to think people are phony,and only care about spouting off their own arrogance,like the world is one big show and tell to promote self,but I know all do not do it to the same degree,and I do not let it effect me,and still get along with people,and friendly,but like Jesus said it will affect people at this time,which when I look at society I tend to think people really do not care,but I also know they are acting like that because they see the same thing,and they did not start the fire.The world is based on arrogance,and self exaltation anyway,and they will act accordingly.
I would not throw in the towel,or give up,because you are no different than anyone else,but it is only a feeling for whatever reason,but I tend to think that what Jesus said since iniquity shall abound,the love of many shall wax cold,is affecting a lot of people.If we do not like people as much,and do not trust people as much,it will reflect,and we stay more distant form them,and wonder is there something wrong with me,but at the same time think it is because the way people act.
It could be brain chemistry,which can vary from person to person.
It could be the way people act that can cause people to not get along with people that great.
Mat 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.
Jesus told us at this time that the love of many shall wax cold,and that is because of their high selfishness,and arrogance,which causes people to not like each other as much,not trust each other as much,and have disdain for each other,which in the last days they will be without natural affection towards people.
If it is brain chemistry which does not make you feel all that great,and you think people do not like you,then you will act accordingly and appear like that,but to me it is not reality,but only how you feel,like OCD is only a feeling and not reality,for everything is alright they only think it is not by creating an unsatisfied feeling in their mind.
You are no different than anyone else,which a woman told me she did not think people liked her when she met them,and I was thinking you are no different than anyone else,which it was only in her mind,for why would people not like her.
We are at the time where the love of many shall wax cold,because of the way people act,and we can have somewhat hate towards people because of their arrogance,and selfishness,that Jesus told us about,and God told us about the last generation before Jesus comes back(Proverbs 30:11-14),highly selfish,highly arrogant,basically caring about themselves with little regard for anyone else.
This can cause us to not like people as much,and not want to associate with them as much,and then we will feel guilty about it,but at the same time not want to be around people for we are mad at society for their behavior like Jesus said.
I do not know but I look at it as a feeling,for whatever reason,and not reality,so I do not go by how I feel,but what is right,and good.
I have a hard time getting close to people,which I have my whole life,and kind of steer clear of them,and I know why,because I tend to think people are phony,and only care about spouting off their own arrogance,like the world is one big show and tell to promote self,but I know all do not do it to the same degree,and I do not let it effect me,and still get along with people,and friendly,but like Jesus said it will affect people at this time,which when I look at society I tend to think people really do not care,but I also know they are acting like that because they see the same thing,and they did not start the fire.The world is based on arrogance,and self exaltation anyway,and they will act accordingly.
I would not throw in the towel,or give up,because you are no different than anyone else,but it is only a feeling for whatever reason,but I tend to think that what Jesus said since iniquity shall abound,the love of many shall wax cold,is affecting a lot of people.If we do not like people as much,and do not trust people as much,it will reflect,and we stay more distant form them,and wonder is there something wrong with me,but at the same time think it is because the way people act.
