My problem is I care too much for certain people that seem not to care at all. It really gets to me amd bothers me that my grandkids father doesn't care about his kids, doesn't care that they wait for him to come home to spend time with him, instead he hangs out at work even when he's off already just to be with his girlfriend and then when he does get home he ignores them just to text her.it hurts me down to my soul as I don't understand how someone can be that cold hearted, heartless with their kids just for a little girl he's dating ( I say little girl because she just turned 18 and he's 28) I pray that this girl sees him for who he really is and not the beautiful soul she tells everyone he is, sickens me that she thinks amd believes he's the most caring loving person, when she don't know the truth, the real him. Why don't I kick him on? Because it will hurt the kids even more. Sometimes I have the worst thoughts because I'm so angry, but then I have to pray to remove these thoughts. Now today again k8ds waiting for him and he calls to say he's not coming home because he needs be with his lil girlfriend. I pray she she opens her eyes and sees how he really is and finds someone her own age before he damages her like he did my daughter. Kids disappointed but he dont care. He's heartless, how can God allow someone like that to be out there happy not caring about his kids, while his kids hurt? I wish I didn't care
Praying not to care
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I didn't/ don't have the best father.
He abused me and tried to choke me while I was already in the hospital. My father hated me. And yeah, of course that hurts a little. But the thing is... your family, and your kids family is not who gave birth to you....
It is who you accept into your heart to speak into your life.
He is obviously not a father, but is there someone that is a father to them?
I pray that everything works out in His will and His will only, and that God provides you with the strength you need to make it through all of this and you are granted the serinity and peace through this time in life and I pray the same for the children.
Do not wish you didn't care.
I wish I don't care a lot. But over the past couple years I've learned that even though it can sometimes hurt me... a lot... it is an ability given by God and you just have to find how He is asking you to use it.
GB
He abused me and tried to choke me while I was already in the hospital. My father hated me. And yeah, of course that hurts a little. But the thing is... your family, and your kids family is not who gave birth to you....
It is who you accept into your heart to speak into your life.
He is obviously not a father, but is there someone that is a father to them?
I pray that everything works out in His will and His will only, and that God provides you with the strength you need to make it through all of this and you are granted the serinity and peace through this time in life and I pray the same for the children.
Do not wish you didn't care.
I wish I don't care a lot. But over the past couple years I've learned that even though it can sometimes hurt me... a lot... it is an ability given by God and you just have to find how He is asking you to use it.
GB
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Hello,
I understand your frustration. I sense the love you have for your children and I know for certainty that feeling of wanting to not care but still caring. The only sure thing I can say to you is, love them, do what is necessary (even when you don't want to) and see TIME (some call it "karma") reprimand that father...whether soon or not so soon, I don't know but one thing I am sure of is, he will not be smiling for long. I am not hoping for any harm to come to him but I do hope he will soon begin to feel EXACTLY how he has caused his children to feel.
May God grant you the necessary strength to love and care enough for these, your grandkids.
I understand your frustration. I sense the love you have for your children and I know for certainty that feeling of wanting to not care but still caring. The only sure thing I can say to you is, love them, do what is necessary (even when you don't want to) and see TIME (some call it "karma") reprimand that father...whether soon or not so soon, I don't know but one thing I am sure of is, he will not be smiling for long. I am not hoping for any harm to come to him but I do hope he will soon begin to feel EXACTLY how he has caused his children to feel.
May God grant you the necessary strength to love and care enough for these, your grandkids.
Thank you I needed to hear that. Yes I know karma will come, but seeing him when he comes home with that look on his face like he's a big shot and not even greeting his kids like he missed them, instead just sits and texts. I honestly think he had lost hiself and forgot he's a almost 29 year old father of 5 and not a 17 or 18 year old lime his girlfriend.
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You are welcome.
It is true that while we know that he will learn a lesson sooner or later, we'd like it to be sooner, rather than later (especially since you have to witness is blatant disregard for his responsibilities). Those children...oh, if anything, I am happy to hear that they have you, though you may only be able to do so much and no more.
He'll be sorry, for his folly. I hope the children will be ok in the meantime. Again, I sympathize with you in this, and hope for better.
P.S. Maybe you need to write him a 'matter-of-fact' note, expressing exactly what you think about him and his crap!
It is true that while we know that he will learn a lesson sooner or later, we'd like it to be sooner, rather than later (especially since you have to witness is blatant disregard for his responsibilities). Those children...oh, if anything, I am happy to hear that they have you, though you may only be able to do so much and no more.
He'll be sorry, for his folly. I hope the children will be ok in the meantime. Again, I sympathize with you in this, and hope for better.
P.S. Maybe you need to write him a 'matter-of-fact' note, expressing exactly what you think about him and his crap!