How to debate without getting personal?

Actually you could give up you and ask God to control you, in God's Spirit as Christ did during his entire walk here on earth. Which is what God is teaching each and everyone of us since day one that we decided to believe God.
Think about this is it better "I" get out of the way and God show me what to say and what to do and thus do as God did through Christ, he does today through us each in God's type of Love best described in 1Cor. 13:4-13. Only God can do this type of Love right? So as Paul said in Romans 7 that he served sin in the flesh, and at the beginning of rom 7 described being dead to flesh, by belief, then we have the new man to go by, The Holy Ghost to be led by in Love God's type.
Guess what this way there is no room for pride and or boasting, because it is not you, the old you, that is doing what is right, it is the new you, that gives all credit to God to do through you what you could not do before
Hope this helps in your growth, in what being born again is in God by Christ's cross for you

Am I really that unclear? Let me restate my point again. You can control you and no one else. God can control only those who submit to Him. You cannot control the other person. A debate requires more than one individual.

Sorry we are not communicating, and not seeing what you are saying, I do see it clear and I guess maybe I am not clear. Yes God is the one that can if we are willing for God to control, or action(s) and reaction(s)
I can't control me, only God can, if I want God's will as Christ wanted even though he asked for any other way right before he was going to go to the cross, and do Father's will.
Hope you see it now.
No confidence in flesh, this is especially in my own as Paul said it clear in Phil 3
all in God's type of Love to you for both of our edifications
Thanks

But God will not control you either. If you submit to Him then be will guide you as you continually submit. If He controlled you then you'd be a robot.

Yes and thank you for that clarification, it is important.

So maybe let's ask God to co-crucify us daily with Son at the death of Son Christ, so we can be dead to self daily. Does this make sense
[h=3]Philippians 3:10-11[/h]Authorized (King James) Version (AKJV)

[SUP]10 [/SUP]that I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death; [SUP]11 [/SUP]if by any means I might attain unto the resurrection of the dead.

In business we were taught A DEBATE means only one winner.
DISCUSSION means a win win situation where both parties are happy with the result
hope this helps.

Hoot owl

Hi Rick! Personally this is the way I go about it. number 1 point to remember! (col 3:2-4) You know someone will disagree somehow or someway!! LOL 2. Show scripture as pertaining to your comment,let them decide.3. If someone gets all mad and emotional over what you have said and what you have shown,consider what they are saying,see if they show scripture as to there disagreement,most will not!! LOL Most do not know the Word that well.

But do not belittle them! Some just had a bad day and wish for you to share in it,do not take the bait! Again we always wish to remember these two scriptures rom 12:3 and eph 4:7 So give the grace you yourself always wish,even if they do not,you are more mature, so act like it! They may not like what you said, but you will gain respect from them as well, because everyone looks at ones temperment,it tells a lot about where one truly is in Christ Jesus!

Finally thank all those who spoke,each mean so very much to Jesus, so each should mean so very much to us to! By being a doer of the word and not a hearer only,many will come closer to Jesus by seeing Jesus in you!! James 1:22!