I agree, but my point is there are multiple people involved and the only one you can control is you.
Think about this is it better "I" get out of the way and God show me what to say and what to do and thus do as God did through Christ, he does today through us each in God's type of Love best described in 1Cor. 13:4-13. Only God can do this type of Love right? So as Paul said in Romans 7 that he served sin in the flesh, and at the beginning of rom 7 described being dead to flesh, by belief, then we have the new man to go by, The Holy Ghost to be led by in Love God's type.
Guess what this way there is no room for pride and or boasting, because it is not you, the old you, that is doing what is right, it is the new you, that gives all credit to God to do through you what you could not do before
Hope this helps in your growth, in what being born again is in God by Christ's cross for you