My primary post as it has been a thorn in my side due to the online social sarcasm that I can liken to Facebook. Not that I should let it drag me down as much as it has already. Maybe I can begin to feel better about myself after some clarification.
Ok, maybe not all men but me. I want to marry a woman who is a woman. I want to marry a woman that is my best friend. I do not want to marry a woman who tries to be my Bro as a man would be my Bro. I like feminist properties in women not masculine properties. Love is very important when it comes to marriage and marriage should not be sought without Love. A relationship (marriage) without God in the center is destined for failure. A marriage takes two that become one flesh and they each have their part given by God. If the naturality of a marriage that God instilled into humankind is allowed to flourish then that marriage will be unstoppable. This only comes with putting him first. If two people decide they know best and make their own fate in a Godless relationship then fate it will be.
Perhaps my admirations in a wife are delusional as I have divorced twice over already.
I gave up on relationships four years ago. I thought maybe I could use this to vent but it only made things worse.
Yes I want a woman to be pretty and take care of herself. If a woman dresses herself to show off her breasts and put focus on her booty and draw attention from men sexually, she is not marriage material, she seeks sexual attention from men before marriage she will do it after marriage also.
Sometimes I think about looking once again but relationships always got in the way of my relationship with the Almighty. I know that if Both are grounded in God and seek him Together then that relationship with God must grow also and not falter as it did before. I didn't have enough strength to carry enough oil for two lamps and Being unequally yoked causes the strong ox to stumble also.
So much to think about..........
I appreciate all that you said here -- because, I am also looking for my "best friend" who has all of the proper attitudes and inclinations toward God, marriage, etc. - and, can identify with all that you have said. But, I wanted to make a specific comment [ of appreciation ] about what is bolded above. This is important for the Christian life. Both male / husband and female / wife should only be interested in "looking
that good" for their [ future ] spouse - in the privacy of their home ( after they are married, of course ).
As a rule - I am not going to be interested in a woman who is showing her cleavage to the world everywhere she goes. I know what you mean. At the same time, I will generally not judge too quickly over how much of the shape of her body I can see in her clothing ( when it is not painfully obvious that she is "showing off" her body on purpose ) until I know the intentions of her heart. ( In some situations - with regard to certain 'activites' - clothing that is "a little bit tighter" is understandable. ) I hope you understand what I am getting at.
I believe that the shape of a woman's body is a natural thing of beauty to appreciate - but, not to exploit. Men should discipline themselves to appreciate the beauty without engaging in the exploitation. However, when she starts "showing too much skin", the level of 'distraction' can be raised to a great degree - and, can become a problem for a man who does not have the self-displine to handle it properly...
For the most part, what-is-in-her-heart sets the tone of things. But, a way-too-loose manner in how she dresses, etc. - is very telling...
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Sorry - I did not mean to get "carried away" with my explanation - but, it all seemed important to say... )
My only advice to you is this --- as difficult as it is to do, you must "wait on God"; you can do no better than to wait for God to bring her into your life. You should "keep your eyes open", of course, so that you don't "miss" her when she comes along; however, don't "look too hard" to find her...
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