adoption/biological children

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i was just thinking , some people really want to have their biological children , personally i never had that strong desire , i'm not even close to getting married or anything but i'd like to know ur views on it , is it because it's ur own blood , do u think u could love a child not conceived by urself with the same strength? my view is that just like Jesus adopted us why not do the same with abandoned children. anyway i'd like know ur views cause sometimes i see some women and men too that get so frustrated and depressed cause they can't conceive....when there are lots of children out there needy of love
 
Many women like myself have a strong desire to actually birth children. I have alsways seen adoption as an option but I wlaso want to experience pregnancy as well as childbirth (yes I know it is very painful).
 
i'd rather just adopt...i mean im adopted and i think it worked out rather well. and we wouldnt have to deal with pregnancy and all that
 
I thin it is a natural desire for most people to have their own off spring. Nonetheless, I agree with you wholeheartedly that if they are unsuccessful, rather than getting all upset it would be wise to surrender to God in this as well. If they want to raise a family there are many children in need of good homes with loving families. Another this that is fairly common is that right around the time many couple do adopt, a natural child is finally conceived.
I think it is possible that in making this surrender, they receive the blessing they have so long sought.
I could be wrong.
 
i knew from my teens id not be able to have children, the only concern ive ever had is if the guy who i married wanted his own biological children... other than that id be happy to adopt or foster, i love kids but accepted id never be able to biologocally have my own.. ive always considered the though of going through ivf pretty traumatic as ive seen women with the same condition as me who gone through ivf and put everything into it and its never happened...
 
I have a child of my own but have seriously considered adopting a non-infant at some point. I was adopted by one of the most loving men ever on this planet who had children of his own. It's absolutely possible. :)
 
I would definitely consider adoption. I wanted to be adopted more than anything in the whoooole wide world, but my parents were against that :(
 
I really enjoyed a book called Orphanology that came out just recently (SEE LINK HERE) written by Tony Merida and Rick Morton. It gives excellent examples of Gospel-directed reasons for adoption along with some very touching stories from the authors personal lives.

Now, this book wasn't the deal-breaker for me when it came to this subject, but I've never had a draw to having my own biological children. I haven't. But when God placed the idea of adoption on my heart a year or so back I didn't take it lightly. This book helped me understand something about adoption I hadn't taken the time to think about, and while I know it will take time and money, I really think that the only way I will have children in my life is if I adopt.

Now, It's not like I have nothing against people who have children, my brother has a son and daughter that I love so much! But when I think about the children out there who don't have parents, or are victims of abuse to parents who really shouldn't have had children in the first place, it reassures my very serious decision I made about this subject.
 
I was found in a cardboard box in front of a theater when I was 3 days old, then taken to the police, an orphanage, a foster home, ad finally to my wonderful parents when I was six months old, so it's a question I will have spinning in my head all my life: "Why, God? Why would you pick me out of millions of others out there... to put into such a wonderful family? Goodness knows you could have chosen someone a LOT less difficult."

My adoptive parents are Caucasian... To this day, people stare at us when we're together but they have never treated me any less because I was adopted. I've known some parents who will say, "This is my adopted child," but with my parents, it's always been, "This our child, whom we chose to adopt." They are the most perfect parents for me as an individual that anyone could have chosen.

I do feel sad that it looks like I will never have biological children of my own (which means I'll never have a biological relative, ever)--I have been back to my orphanage as an adult and it leaves you with an utter sense of wonder and helplessness all at the same time. I had thought about adopting at one time but now feel God is calling me to help others with their own families instead (I was part of a team that raised funds for friends of mine to adopt--after seeing them adopt from the same country I was born in, I kind of felt like my "circle of life" had been completed, in a way...)
 


Adopted for Life: The Priority of Adoption for Christian Families and Churches
A manifesto calling Christians to adopt children and to equip Christian families going through the process, this popular-level book offers biblical foundations for adoption and identifies adoption as a Great Commission priority in Christian churches.


and heres a youtube link.

YouTube - ‪Russell Moore: Adoption Awareness‬‏


and one from John Piper, who did adopt.

http://youtu.be/r9BT5LQw8JQ
 
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I guess I am a typical woman and I would love to have my own children someday. However, even if I have my own biological children I would still adopt other children as well. There has always been a desire in my heart to adopt children.

I come from a large family and believe the more the merrier (assuming I could adequately provide for them). A child doesn't have to be of my blood to be my child.

I have always looked at it as "Children are a blessing from God" and no matter the circumstances that bring them into our lives they should be loved and treated as our own. Just as God has called us his own.
 
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I was found in a cardboard box in front of a theater when I was 3 days old, then taken to the police, an orphanage, a foster home, ad finally to my wonderful parents when I was six months old, so it's a question I will have spinning in my head all my life: "Why, God? Why would you pick me out of millions of others out there... to put into such a wonderful family? Goodness knows you could have chosen someone a LOT less difficult."

My adoptive parents are Caucasian... To this day, people stare at us when we're together but they have never treated me any less because I was adopted. I've known some parents who will say, "This is my adopted child," but with my parents, it's always been, "This our child, whom we chose to adopt." They are the most perfect parents for me as an individual that anyone could have chosen.

I do feel sad that it looks like I will never have biological children of my own (which means I'll never have a biological relative, ever)--I have been back to my orphanage as an adult and it leaves you with an utter sense of wonder and helplessness all at the same time. I had thought about adopting at one time but now feel God is calling me to help others with their own families instead (I was part of a team that raised funds for friends of mine to adopt--after seeing them adopt from the same country I was born in, I kind of felt like my "circle of life" had been completed, in a way...)
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This touched me more than anything you've ever written. What a special cardboard box that must have been to have held something as beautiful as you, my friend.
 
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This touched me more than anything you've ever written. What a special cardboard box that must have been to have held something as beautiful as you, my friend.
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Ok, Jullianna, you almost made me cry in the forums!! *Dotting eyes and sniffing but trying to maintain tough-girl image.* But, thank you so much. :D

An elder in my church once made the comment that made me think of the fact that Moses was found in a basket... and I was found in a box. The social worker told my Mom that because of the care that someone had taken (to actually place me into a container and put me in a very public spot), it was likely that someone was also close by and watching to make sure I was found (as Miriam did with Moses.)

I am in NO way saying I'm anything like Moses... But I WILL say that God still places babies in what may appear to be very ORDINARY containers... and wants to give them to AMAZING people with open hearts and a God-given ability to become AMAZING parents!!!
 
Funny you should say that...I was thinking of a precious SOMEONE else who was born in an old dirty manger :) <3
 
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I see it as if you are able to have your own, and want biological kids of your own, to have them. If you can't have your own, then I would suggest adoption. Thats if* I mean, there's lots of kids that need to be adopted yes. Two of my sister's have said they would like to adopt kids, cause they feel the need to do that if there are children without homes. That is understandable. I just think if you are able to have them why not? I mean I know it's painful and everything, but so far from what I've seen its like the kids that are biologically yours, and they came from you and it's just a part of life. Showing them your family history, and where they come from and all that. It just seems like a very special thing, that unfortunately not every woman gets the chance to do. Not saying there is nothing special about adopting kids, cause there is. Giving them a home, loving them for them, but I'd just personally rather have my own biological children someday. If I couldn't it would be very sad, but I'd adopt. That's my opinion on it... :)
 
Adoptive parents chose freely their child. Biological parents get stuck with one. Seems to me, the one who choses freely, is displaying more unmerrited love. Hmm, much like our relation with Christ.
 
Thats true, but to say you are getting 'stuck' with one sounds a little harsh. Hopefully you'd love them adopted or not. I don't think there is one better way than the other when you choose between adoption or having one biologically.
 
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Adoptive parents chose freely their child. Biological parents get stuck with one. Seems to me, the one who choses freely, is displaying more unmerrited love. Hmm, much like our relation with Christ.
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Thats not actually accurate. Many parents choose to have children, not just get pregnant and get 'stuck' with some kid. Its still a purposeful choice for many. And these people still have the option of giving the child up if they don't want children. So to imply that 'adopted' love is somehow more pure is not true. Plenty of biological parents choose not to love their children. Any child who is loved by a parent, whether it be adopted, biological, or even step child is being loved equally.
 
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