Advice anyone?
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He sounds like he might simply be a good-looking guy who likes getting stares from women. I hate to brag but when I was younger I used to notice women looking at me and I loved the attention and whenever I saw a woman I thought was attractive I'd wait and see if she looked in my direction... then when she did I would either meet her glance for a second and coyly smile or I'd look away innocently (wow I never thought I'd actually reveal that about me). Note that this was YEARS ago.
Like I said, I hate to brag, but after reading what you wrote about him looking at you and never actually approaching you made me feel like I had to speak up.
Did he really just ask if...
Oh my stars and garters! He did! You know, you really didn't have to answer such an inappropriate question.
Oh the rough treatment those poor hymnals get with all the opening and closing, opening and closing, day after day! At this time I think we should address double standards and say that it is equally important for the young man to keep HIS hymnal intact as well.
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I cannot believe that you actually asked this barely veiled question. In public. Of a woman. Who is almost young enough to be your granddaughter.
There are so many levels of impropriety and disrespect that I can't even.
Best thing you've said so far.
My thought was ding, ding, ding we have a winner.....lol
since most girls today have sex before they're ... ... married, and since most pastors today admit that they haven't married two virgins in over a decade, and since the instructions for virgins are different than instructions for non-virgins, and since a lot of posters have admitted they don't care if they break the rules(of GOD), and......
see. it was a necessary though awkward question, and the answer rejoicingly was godly, instead of like the rest of you.
see. it was a necessary though awkward question, and the answer rejoicingly was godly, instead of like the rest of you.
Unfortunately, there's alot of uncouth people on here who say alot more inappropriate things than what he did.. :/
Is your virginity in tack. Tell us if it isn't, where and when did you lose such virginity? In a car, a bus, an alley how about a romp in a barn? What was her name? Was it what you expected?
Since it's OK to ask inappropriate questions I thought I'd join in.
yes. or did you miss the op ? she asked for advice, and since advice/instructions of Scripture from Jesus for virgins is different than advice for those who are not virgins, it is required. privately may or may not have been 'better', but out in the open is safer and better, as in this case, it brought to light the sin in others that is to be healed, if they chose to live in Jesus as He says in Scripture.
also, as she answered in her life she has obeyed Scripture, instead of doing like the rest of the world who did not and do not obey Scripture, there is strength and clarity in her testimony in line with Scripture in her life in Jesus and His Testimony.
'inappropriate'? again, since she asked publicly for advice, and the instructions from Scripture are different for virgins and for those who are not virgins(apparently most of the posters, and in sin),
the question needed to be asked. I asked as "gently" as possible... and the sinners mucked it up ....
yes, as you can see from the sinners who are not forgiven yet - they have not learned the way Jesus taught.
the aroma of salvation, the good news of Jesus, is the aroma of death to those who are not redeemed yet.
since their sin is still within them, they think anyone who has been forgiven is "self-righteous" , because they
don't know what it is like to be clean, and to be washed by the blood of the lamb of God who was sacrificed to
cleanse us from all sin and to present us righteous before the father in heaven.
how they confuse anything of self with
the righteousness that is only in Jesus is a mystery, but they sure revel in it here(their 'self' wrongness, not righteous and not self-righteous apparently - but wallowing remaining in their own sinfulness) .
There are some things older men aren't supposed to ask younger women they don't know at all. Some things are to be personal or gender based discussions. If everything was in the open like you just throw out, why have a men's only and women's only group?
"I am often told I am not approachable, how can I let him know its okay to approach me without coming off as needy? good idea to attend his church on sunday? I feel based off what happens if I decide to go would let me know whether I should move on."
Yes, she asked for advice; but none of that involved specifics of her genitalia. YOU brought that up.
No, the instructions for women with or without a past are not different--apart from, "Go and sin no more." God has frequently elevated women that misogynists such as yourself would have condemned. He chose Tamar, Rahab, and Bathsheba to be ancestors of the Messiah. His mother was unmarried at his conception. He rescued a woman about to be stoned and honored the woman who washed his feet.
Your question was depraved. Nothing gives you the right to ask that question. By doing so, you based the value of a woman on a part of her that you have no business even acknowledging that it exists.