advice please anyone

[keke448]

Advicee?? So since the conversation i had that lead up to cutting him off officially i got the statement of its not u its me.... He feels he will never get married and doesnt want to thats why he never commited to me. I feel i did everything i possibly can to show that i want to be in his life and make him happy. I know i have gotten great advice from people on this site but im still stuck in making my own life plans. Should i stay in this state where i have no family and continue on with school and work? Or should i move back home to NY where life will be a challenge and be around my friends and family? I just dont know what to do my lease end in three months and he told me if i leave n move even if he wanted to work things out and come to a realization that im the one for him he wouldnt call me back. I wouldnt want to come because i would feel weak but then again i would because i love him. This is the most heartbreaking thing for me i gave up so much n so much of myself to him and in the end i got nothing in return and he has such an easy pathway to move on with his life. He also admit he wasnt treating me good but if thats the case how come you wouldnt step back and correct yourself and think hey i should really cut it out and treat her right.... In the end i just hope the day doesnt come where he finds someone and isnt happy and they dont compare to how i loved him and he calls me crying. I hope god can guide me into the right direction and bring me a great person soon. I just wanna love the right person, be a good person, and have a great family.

 

[Ugly]

Wasn't able to read everything, and it was more confusing because you didn't explain that you had posted parts of this previously.
But, basically, it sounds like you were used. And are still being used. And being told you aren't wanted. Yet you are 'confused'? He doesn't want you. he keeps telling you he doesn't want you. He says don't move. He will never want you.
And when you were together, all he did was use you. Chances are he found someone new to use.

So.... if he keeps telling you no, he doesn't want you, where's the confusion? It doesn't take God to 'guide' you here, it just takes listening to the other person trying to get you to leave him alone.
And he was treating you badly? How much more obvious does it need to be to you that this guy is a jerk and a user and has finished using you? Stop thinking with you emotions and start using your brain. Because once you do you'll realize how foolish this has all been.
Wherever he is, you should not be.

But, then again, this was never a Godly relationship to begin with if you lived together for four years. You gave 'so much of yourself' to someone in a relationship God didn't approve of to begin with. Now, surprise, you're hurt and heartbroken.

You sound so desperate to have someone, it's no wonder you're in this situation. You need to stop worrying about 'loving the right person' and start learning how to have some self respect and finding your identity in something other than a man.

 

[keke448]

Well thanks for the advice but i think u were kind of harsh i need support during this time n honesty not just a slap in the face me reading ur post put me down instead of u understading how much a heartbreak can make a person vulnerable n not think right on top of that u titled it ugly which isnt an uplifting word ..... Ur response was soo harsh thanks for rewining my day

 

[seemspeculiar]

Your grievously harsh words stir up anger Ugly. Keke448 follow your heart and plan your course, the Lord directs our steps. PM me if you want.

 

[tourist]

Pray for God to search and find a man of your true heart's desires. When that happens go with what is in your heart and not the doubt that might be in your thoughts. I was in the same position you are in years ago. Your heart is certainly broken but not crushed. I have said a prayer for you.

 

[Standingwolf13]

Well thanks for the advice but i think u were kind of harsh i need support during this time n honesty not just a slap in the face me reading ur post put me down instead of u understading how much a heartbreak can make a person vulnerable n not think right on top of that u titled it ugly which isnt an uplifting word ..... Ur response was soo harsh thanks for rewining my day

CHRIST died on the cross for you and for you not to love yourself is a detriment to Him and HIS death. You are using your body and your worldly feminine wilds to entertain a man but you are disgracing yourself at whose expense. Kee GOD loves much more than that. You actually showed the disrespectful partner more love then you showed ugly and he did nothing to bring pain into your life.

Mark 12​

28One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?”29“The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[SUP]e[/SUP] 30Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’[SUP]f[/SUP] 31The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[SUP]g[/SUP] There is no commandment greater than these.”

I pray GOD lifts you up and holds tightly may HIS peace reign in your heart may HIS love call you away from destruction and may HIS joy stand you on you own two feet again.

Take care little sister.