Aproaching girls!

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Jullianna said:
Yes, I always know immediately. I start screaming and flapping my arms. If they don't run away, I know they're a keeper :D
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A little bird told me this Jullianna! :P! Ill remember to scream and flap should I see you! :P!!..
 
arwen83 said:
Haha yeah that's one of them. How presents himself is important to me- like if it shows that he doesn't care about his appearance at all. I just think choice of clothes does say something about a guy. For example, if he was wearing really baggy jeans, a long black t-shirt or hoodie and NY baseball cap- I attribute that with G's and I am not attracted to G's. Some girls might be, but not me. And he may not be one, but am I really gonna give him the benefit of the doubt if he tries to ask me out? No I won't. If that makes me shallow, then I guess I am shallow. Whether or not we like it, how we dress says a lot about ourselves.

I have certain preferences and tastes when it comes to the male species. I am not sure if there are universal triggers for no's, simply because many girl's preferences and tastes are unique. I am looking for someone that I can see myself with; that we compliment each other in some ways- physically is one of them. I am not attracted to big buff weightlifters either, because I would feel tiny compared to him; he wouldn't be suitable for me. I do think of these things if I see a guy looking at me in certain way, or get the hint that they might want to approach me (which isn't very often lol)

One thing that I must add, in the past after getting to know someone who I initially was not attracted to became more attractive to me because of his personality. So its not just looks.
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I hear you Arwen, I am not a G.. Lol, I prefer a nice casual not really expensive leather jacket, with jeans or something like that. I also agree with you that its not all just about looks. So it really comes down to your ability to talk and show your personality and show that not like every other guy.. Am I wrong?
 
MYRedeemedinJC said:
I hear you Arwen, I am not a G.. Lol, I prefer a nice casual not really expensive leather jacket, with jeans or something like that. I also agree with you that its not all just about looks. So it really comes down to your ability to talk and show your personality and show that not like every other guy.. Am I wrong?
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Yes, unfortunately when its as shallow as first impressions, it can be difficult to find a way to show personality. Unlike if you constantly interacted with that person, say in church or had mutual friends. I think that is why first impressions are strongly weighted on physical appearance- not just clothes tho, like smile, posture and body language. These are some things that may need to be worked on until you can get to know her enough to let your personality shine!
 
arwen83 said:
Yes, unfortunately when its as shallow as first impressions, it can be difficult to find a way to show personality. Unlike if you constantly interacted with that person, say in church or had mutual friends. I think that is why first impressions are strongly weighted on physical appearance- not just clothes tho, like smile, posture and body language. These are some things that may need to be worked on until you can get to know her enough to let your personality shine!
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I see, I definitely always smile, I think Im good in appearance, not the best looking guy, but I always a always make a point to look good.. But as for conveying your personality, its something that can be done, you just gotta know how to do it! :P!
 
rachelsedge said:
Unless it's you, zaoman, and then we can't think of anything because we've fainted from sheer excitement that you're walking up to us.
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You see, this girl uses a lot of wisdom and truth in her responses. flawless penmanship. finally, somebody understands me!
 
Depending on the person approaching.... for the ones I don't want approaching "Oh Lord here we go again", "Just look in the other direction" , "dude how do you not use deo in this day and age" , okay for the one's I do want approaching (Oh my gosh no he isn't, is he, is he?! oh he is!..."Hello") , "Oh my gosh he smells so good... bet he has to beat them off with a stick" , "oh he deserves a pat on the back and a keep up the good work for women everywhere.." , "that boy is fine like apple wine in the summertime" (this is just an old saying, I don't drink wine or any alcohol :P) "Lord he has dimples let me just pass out here" Keep in mind these are things I am thinking and I would usually NeVeR say them outloud! lol
 
Robbinette said:
Depending on the person approaching.... for the ones I don't want approaching "Oh Lord here we go again", "Just look in the other direction" , "dude how do you not use deo in this day and age" , okay for the one's I do want approaching (Oh my gosh no he isn't, is he, is he?! oh he is!..."Hello") , "Oh my gosh he smells so good... bet he has to beat them off with a stick" , "oh he deserves a pat on the back and a keep up the good work for women everywhere.." , "that boy is fine like apple wine in the summertime" (this is just an old saying, I don't drink wine or any alcohol :P) "Lord he has dimples let me just pass out here" Keep in mind these are things I am thinking and I would usually NeVeR say them outloud! lol
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Never say never ;)
 
Robbinette said:
Depending on the person approaching.... for the ones I don't want approaching "Oh Lord here we go again", "Just look in the other direction" , "dude how do you not use deo in this day and age" , okay for the one's I do want approaching (Oh my gosh no he isn't, is he, is he?! oh he is!..."Hello") , "Oh my gosh he smells so good... bet he has to beat them off with a stick" , "oh he deserves a pat on the back and a keep up the good work for women everywhere.." , "that boy is fine like apple wine in the summertime" (this is just an old saying, I don't drink wine or any alcohol :P) "Lord he has dimples let me just pass out here" Keep in mind these are things I am thinking and I would usually NeVeR say them outloud! lol
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Check.
Unfortunately I dont have them. lmbo.. Permanent marker will do. Lmbo!
 
Relena7 said:
That's perfectly fine. If you don't mind the risk of rejection, go for it! :) Plenty of girls out there are into dating as a way to meet.

Some of us are more analytical-minded, and like to take our time before leaping into the water. No biggie.
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Actually i dont mind rejection, If every approach i made was a complete success.. I would never learn anything.
 
Jullianna said:
I like your attitude :)
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I wasn't always like this. It was something that I realized after a time!! Some people have yet to realize this. Just like Thomas Edison had to learn from his 1000 mistakes before perfecting the GE lightbulb, this is kinda like that! Well kinda, Haha!!
 
It depends on his intention, and you can usually tell pretty quickly. If a guy is interested in just friendly chatting, be it because he's friendly or because he's interested, then I'm fine with that. I feel that I'm pretty approachable and I'll talk to pretty much anyone. It's the guys who are like, "Hey, 'sup girl. ;)" that I tend to roll my eyes at. :rolleyes:
 
rachelsedge said:
It depends on his intention, and you can usually tell pretty quickly. If a guy is interested in just friendly chatting, be it because he's friendly or because he's interested, then I'm fine with that. I feel that I'm pretty approachable and I'll talk to pretty much anyone. It's the guys who are like, "Hey, 'sup girl. ;)" that I tend to roll my eyes at. :rolleyes:
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This is exactly it! Girls can tell what we are doing and why we are doing it! Now if it were only this way the other way around! Smh!!! Girls help please! lmbo! Its probably because we are so simple, we say something and thats exactly what we do.. You girls say something and sometimes it could mean something else making us guys have to dig deeper into what you really mean!
 
Yea, a lot of girls tell me this... They don't like sup or hey or hi, thanks for your confirmation rachelsedge! Guys we have to think of something better! At least say something like an observation about her that you can turn into a compliment! :P!! lol!
 
my_saceredheart said:
Most girls normaly make up they minds instantly it all depends on if you tick all they boxes, looks, personality and so on.
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Alas! I would say this is true for most people. It does not have to be like this though. Judging people by what you think instead of actually getting to know them for who they are...

Ever heard the saying?

Never take someone for granted. Hold every person close to your heart because you might wake up one day and realize that you have lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones.
 
MYRedeemedinJC said:
I wasn't always like this. It was something that I realized after a time!! Some people have yet to realize this. Just like Thomas Edison had to learn from his 1000 mistakes before perfecting the GE lightbulb, this is kinda like that! Well kinda, Haha!!
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That's funny, when you mentioned the thing about rejection not bothering you I immediately thought of what Thomas Edison said.
 
Some girls just give off an awesome vibe. Really chatty, loves to talk, very warm and friendly. I looove running into people like that because even if it's just a conversation it's always a lot of fun for me. Then there are some girls that are cold, rude, unresponsive and give bad vibes. Learning how to spot and avoid cold ones makes all the difference.
 
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