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I used to judge divorced and remarried people as weak, who were selfish and thus couldn't believe God would restore their relationship, but I realized i was just putting every case under the same umbrella, being judgemental and without love. I started thinking differently after i realized that many of us, Christian or not, have had relationships before signing a paper and having a ceremony/making vows before a pastor or priest and society, many of us have given our hearts to someone when we dated, promised we would never leave them, would love them forever, then it got me thinking... does those things have NO value unless you sign a paper etc??? Doesnt God look at the heart and the spiritual things? Or the fact that you marry before society automatic means a heavenly bond was created even though you aren't a believer? We know anyone can claim to be born again, to be a Christian and yet that may not necessarily be so, in the same way, anyone can go to a church and get married, for thousands of (wrong) reasons and yet before God, spiritually speaking, that union would not be made by Him. does it make sense? It says wht GOD united let no man put asunder.. but.. is God who has united all couples? If we have made mistakes promising we would always love boyfriends or girlfriends we had and God forgave us and DOES NOT FORCE US TO GO BACK TO THEM and eventually marry them (it would be a bit impossible for some people who have had many) would it also be then possible to, in ignorance, have married someone who is not for you? is it possible to make a mistake by marrying someone for the wrong reasons? now, i know eventually you can learn to love that person etc, but when, for example, you become born again and the other spouse not and they aren't one with you, when theres no real covenant, or there never was, would it still mean those two people are spiritually united by God? whats a real union, the outward or something that God joins together? i hope you guys keep your mind open to consider these things because im not talking about biblical grounds for divorce etc, but rather what comes way before... whats initiated by God and thus if it would qualify as a real union as opposed to a union initiated in the flesh. by the way im not married and never was, but i think its good to think about these things. and again, i know scripture about divorce etc, but my considerations are not about grounds for divorce.
