Are there single Christian girls in Finland ?
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Well people have cheated on their spouses before the internet was even around…
Your recent posts show you understand that, generally speaking, men have a poor record of fidelity.
Do you have positive male role models in your life?
Men who are not constantly lusting after women?
Youth who have positive role models have higher rates of school success, and
learn to develop healthy, functional life skills, engaging in less problematic/high
risk behaviors (e.g., drugs, drinking, promiscuity, violence) than those who don’t.
Did you experience some trauma that now propels you to seek solace in fantasy?
Im not ... sure. Does social exclusion count as a trauma ? I have always felt like a social outcast. Could a depression or bad temper be an influence ? Maybe the lack of supply of Christian girls in Finland is what made me feel hopeless and resort to fantasy. I do know however this comes from long ago. fantasies are not a recent thing.
Seriously bro are you here to waste eveeybodies time?
Things are just going round and around in circles and you don't seem to fully appreciate people making time to be emphatic towards you and give you options.
You haven't even answered many of the various questions I have asked you in my last to comments here either..
It seems that you just basically want to draw attention to the fact that you longing for a partner and have idolised the whole thing in your heart...and this provides you some measure of comfort/forfillment/satisfaction...but at the same times increases the yearning.Yet any thing that comes close to a solution yet seem to disregard or give reasons why it cannot be done.
Many of us have gone through life and are even older than you and some are still single and have gone through difficult times too yet are still able to function on life thus far.
So the actual situation you are in has itself
become a kind of idol coz I cannot see you showing much appreciation for many of the advice given to you and I even asked you fundamental questions which you just bypassed.
In life what can define a person is not so much the difficulty they are in but their attitude towards it..this can often reveal something about their real character regarding their problem.
Here's some advice mate..if you really want a change in your situation I suggest you go back and re read many of the kind wisdom filled advice and support sent to you this far and value the wisdom,kindness and discernment show in them..then the rest is up to you..
There has to be a point where you have to he told the status quo and i have just told you it..
Seriously bro are you here to waste eveeybodies time?
Things are just going round and around in circles and you don't seem to fully appreciate people making time to be emphatic towards you and give you options.
You haven't even answered many of the various questions I have asked you in my last to comments here either..
It seems that you just basically want to draw attention to the fact that you longing for a partner and have idolised the whole thing in your heart...and this provides you some measure of comfort/forfillment/satisfaction...but at the same times increases the yearning.Yet any thing that comes close to a solution yet seem to disregard or give reasons why it cannot be done.
Many of us have gone through life and are even older than you and some are still single and have gone through difficult times too yet are still able to function on life thus far.
So the actual situation you are in has itself
become a kind of idol coz I cannot see you showing much appreciation for many of the advice given to you and I even asked you fundamental questions which you just bypassed.
In life what can define a person is not so much the difficulty they are in but their attitude towards it..this can often reveal something about their real character regarding their problem.
Here's some advice mate..if you really want a change in your situation I suggest you go back and re read many of the kind wisdom filled advice and support sent to you this far and value the wisdom,kindness and discernment show in them..then the rest is up to you..
There has to be a point where you have to he told the status quo and i have just told you it..
In other words, grow up, and act like a man.
To be honest, Kauko sounds like a teenager, and portrays himself as very immature considering the situation.
By the way, this is another relationship topic.
Kauko, if you scroll down the thread lists, you will find about a million other people in your situation. Maybe read the other threads for more self help?!?!
You are not alone in this matter, why you tripping?
Well you have just shown the reality of who you are.I mentioned in one of my previous comments to you that the most important thing is how you you treat someone if you met them as the feelings associated with wanting them when you dont have them are NOT the same once you have them.
I even asked you what u gonna do once you get use to them ect....or how will you cope if they are totally sold out for jesus???These questions alone should of bust your bubble straight away and made the cold reality hit you.
Given that you are saying you are not a very kind person how on earth can you expect to have the appropriate level of social skills to handle a real romantic relationship without possibly hurting whoever the partner would be?.
People who are cold often have no real emotional awareness and can even emotionally distance themselves ect.
You need to really go through some of the previous replies to you and do some real soul searching..
remember this motto of life
'Hurt people hurt other people'
The real issue is more about you facing up to certain truths which will make you stop living in a dreamlike state about romance.
Many people would love to receive the kind of respectful responses you have had.
If you cant even value these...they you most certainly won't be able to full appreciate having someone special In your life once that excitement of having them calms down and romantic reality sets in..
But no one from Finland. In other countries the situation with relationships is not as hideous as here in Finland. For example, in many countries, including the US, younger females tend to be more religious than younger males, but this is not the case here. In Finland the exact opposite is true. Finland has also one of the lowest church attendance rates in the world, which is another big drawback.
You are not willing to move and you are choosing to stay in Finland, and pretty much wrote off American woman on match making sites; So you made your bed, so sleep in it.
This is just a pity party at this point. Maybe seek professional help (psychologist) to help get you passed, your mental block.
Magenta's new shoes seem more interesting at this point.
I just checked and there are also even Finland Christian dating websites around.. so this means there must be single Finland Christian females around.
Someone else unfortunate bad experience doesn't mean you would suffer the same fate.
Plus praying for Gods continual guidance,wisdom and protection is more than enough reason to give it a try.
Maybe the fantasy of having someone feels much safer that making oneself vulnerable in real life to make changes..Once can control ones romantic fantasy to for every need..but real life cannot be controlled in the same way..
That's a cop-out. And quite frankly, an odd tack to take when you are looking for warmth from the opposite sex.
Romans 5:3-6 Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that
suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And
hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured out into our
hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.