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After struggling with being single and not knowing if I would ever find someone to spend the rest of my life with in marriage, I talked to people, read articles online, and the general concensus is that you must first love yourself before you can ever hope for somebody to love you. You also have to become the person that your ideal wife or husband would want to be with.
So I started changing my life, with the biggest focus being my faith. I've always believed in God and have always made my number one need in a wife be that she is a Christian and faithful like me. That got me thinking however. In a relationship, one is bound to be more faithful than the other, one is bound to take their faith more seriosuly...etc.
So my question is this: is faith in God alone enough when choosing a partner? Is that enough for a starting point to grow? I want to marry someone who believes in God and is a Christian, but will my faith be strong enough for them when we meet? Will their faith be strong enough for me?
Should I not even consider a relationship if they aren't a strong believer? Should they feel the same way if they think I'm not a strong believer?
Any advice or thoughts on this topic? I've given up on the "fairytale" meeting where I happen to bump into the perfect woman and we immediately realize we're perfect for each other blah blah blah. So if I must then find someone on my own, if I must make the first move so to speak, how do I know I've found the right one? How do I know our own Faith's are strong enough or compatible enough? If they aren't can we still be together and hope to grow in our faith together? Or do I have to find the perfect woman from the start?
I know I'm not perfect, and I still am growing in my faith, but it's that internal drive I feel to continue to grow in my faith and that continual need to grow closer to God that makes me wonder how finding a wife will work? I may not have as strong of a faith as she does, or she may not have as strong of a faith as I do, but can we still be together? Can we still work?
Sorry for rambling, just trying to get these thoughts out of my head and hopefully get some feedback. Thanks!
So I started changing my life, with the biggest focus being my faith. I've always believed in God and have always made my number one need in a wife be that she is a Christian and faithful like me. That got me thinking however. In a relationship, one is bound to be more faithful than the other, one is bound to take their faith more seriosuly...etc.
So my question is this: is faith in God alone enough when choosing a partner? Is that enough for a starting point to grow? I want to marry someone who believes in God and is a Christian, but will my faith be strong enough for them when we meet? Will their faith be strong enough for me?
Should I not even consider a relationship if they aren't a strong believer? Should they feel the same way if they think I'm not a strong believer?
Any advice or thoughts on this topic? I've given up on the "fairytale" meeting where I happen to bump into the perfect woman and we immediately realize we're perfect for each other blah blah blah. So if I must then find someone on my own, if I must make the first move so to speak, how do I know I've found the right one? How do I know our own Faith's are strong enough or compatible enough? If they aren't can we still be together and hope to grow in our faith together? Or do I have to find the perfect woman from the start?
I know I'm not perfect, and I still am growing in my faith, but it's that internal drive I feel to continue to grow in my faith and that continual need to grow closer to God that makes me wonder how finding a wife will work? I may not have as strong of a faith as she does, or she may not have as strong of a faith as I do, but can we still be together? Can we still work?
Sorry for rambling, just trying to get these thoughts out of my head and hopefully get some feedback. Thanks!