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Halocandy
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Ok I'm going to give this to you straight so don't be offended I'm just being honest to fellow sister in christ but are you serious why In the world would get into a relationship with somebody who doesn't have the same morals or standards as you. but I'm not going into that cause your already in it but have you ever thought abt this him forcing you to have sex with him is more than enough reason in itself not to. Cause it means he doesn't even respect you enough to accept your no and after its over you'll feel really crappy knowing that not only did you disappoint god but all over some hormonal teenage boy who will probably still end up leaving you anyway. Best advice break up staying is not really an option at this point cause sounds like its getting dangerous and he could rape you trust me he can live without you and if he says he can't tell him to talk to a guidance counsler if he needs help.
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SabbieWabbie
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Virginity is the best gift you can give to your husband, and to your marriage.
Don't give a boyfriend the benefits of a husband. Best of all, if one day you marry and have children you can walk your talk to your daughters.
A good Christian man will seek to save your purity, not compromise it. This man you want to one day marry is not showing leadership qualities, so I am not sure how you expect him to lead you. Leave the relationship, pray for him and let God make a man out of him before you make a husband out of him.
Don't give a boyfriend the benefits of a husband. Best of all, if one day you marry and have children you can walk your talk to your daughters.
A good Christian man will seek to save your purity, not compromise it. This man you want to one day marry is not showing leadership qualities, so I am not sure how you expect him to lead you. Leave the relationship, pray for him and let God make a man out of him before you make a husband out of him.
If he can't respect you now, he will do it even less later.
If he can't live without you he has "lovers " syndrome and needs to be cured by reading the bible more often.
to be fair, I am pretty sure 35% are only true christians. Not a lot of people behave like they should as they confess
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Tintin
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Good point but I don't like percentages when there's no concrete data for such things.
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Dayen
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You are precious to the world and the blood of christ is more precious that the cant buy a drop but you have a piece in you that the world had not pls protect it with all you have
End this relationship now or you will seriously regret it. Take some time to get to know who you really are or want. Go to a bible believing church, and pray for God to provide you with suitable friends and guidance. Take your time!
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allylovessummer3
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blessedbeyondmeasure
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Almost 3 years ago I was in your situation. I am 19 now, I was 16 then. Dating my first boyfriend, a guy I'd grown up with and loved for forever. Sadly though, he only wanted to sleep with me. He kept talking about it, pressuring me, getting more touchy ect., even though I'd told him over and over and over again that sex wasn't an option until marriage. Finally, I just got tired of him pressuring me, and I was afraid that I'd lose him otherwise. So I did the unthinkable...
Almost 3 years later, I am a single mom with a 2 year old little boy at 19 years old.
I wouldn't trade my son for the world! He is what God used to open my eyes to where I was headed. I love my son more than anything (other than God), but I DO NOT recommend the path I chose for anyone else. It's hard for the baby that's brought into the world, and it's hard on the teenager and the family of the teen.
If you sleep with this guy, you may or may not get pregnant, but I can guarantee one thing... Waiting for your marriage bed and The One that God has for you is worth it!!! You may say, "How do you know it's worth it? You didn't wait." I know because, sleeping with someone before marriage is SO NOT WORTH IT!
You know the right thing to do. If you thought that sleeping with this guy was a good choice, then you wouldn't have asked anyone's opinion... you would've already done it.
Hope this helps. I'll be praying for you!
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Almost 3 years later, I am a single mom with a 2 year old little boy at 19 years old.
I wouldn't trade my son for the world! He is what God used to open my eyes to where I was headed. I love my son more than anything (other than God), but I DO NOT recommend the path I chose for anyone else. It's hard for the baby that's brought into the world, and it's hard on the teenager and the family of the teen.
If you sleep with this guy, you may or may not get pregnant, but I can guarantee one thing... Waiting for your marriage bed and The One that God has for you is worth it!!! You may say, "How do you know it's worth it? You didn't wait." I know because, sleeping with someone before marriage is SO NOT WORTH IT!
You know the right thing to do. If you thought that sleeping with this guy was a good choice, then you wouldn't have asked anyone's opinion... you would've already done it.
Hope this helps. I'll be praying for you!
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He is trying to manipulate and guilt you into something you don't want to do. Get away from him. If he is doing it now it will only get worse. If you give in he will think he won and continue to treat you worse. Get away from him.
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oldernotwiser
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well dear (i can call you dear because i'm 75 years old) this really isn't about virginity. it's about power and respect. the actual virginity issue is minor, we often confuse virginity with purity and that is sometimes a serous mistake. what is important is your commitment to being a virgin when married and his respect for that commitment. if you should accept his demands and (i personally wouldn't expect this) married. you will find yourself yoked to a man who has no respect for your deepest feelings. it doesn't sound like a good life ....... run
Why should what he wants matter?
Honoring the Lord Jesus in our lives is what really matters, and it sounds like this is not a priority for your bf. God's way is best.
If he treats you this way even now, what would a lifetime with him be like?
You deserve and should find someone better.
Physical intimacy between husband and wife is beautiful and sacred. It is ordained of God for the creation of children and for the expression of love between husband and wife. God has commanded that sexual intimacy be reserved for marriage.
When you are sexually pure, you prepare yourself to build a strong marriage and to bring children into the world as part of a loving family. You protect yourself from the spiritual and emotional damage that come from sharing sexual intimacy outside of marriage. Remaining sexually pure helps you to be confident and truly happy and improves your ability to make good decisions now and in the future.
The Lord’s standard regarding sexual purity is clear and unchanging. Do not have any sexual relations before marriage, and be completely faithful to your spouse after marriage. Do not allow the media, your peers, or others to persuade you that sexual intimacy before marriage is acceptable. It is not. In God’s sight, sexual sins are extremely serious.
Physical intimacy between husband and wife is beautiful and sacred. It is ordained of God for the creation of children and for the expression of love between husband and wife. God has commanded that sexual intimacy be reserved for marriage.
When you are sexually pure, you prepare yourself to build a strong marriage and to bring children into the world as part of a loving family. You protect yourself from the spiritual and emotional damage that come from sharing sexual intimacy outside of marriage. Remaining sexually pure helps you to be confident and truly happy and improves your ability to make good decisions now and in the future.
The Lord’s standard regarding sexual purity is clear and unchanging. Do not have any sexual relations before marriage, and be completely faithful to your spouse after marriage. Do not allow the media, your peers, or others to persuade you that sexual intimacy before marriage is acceptable. It is not. In God’s sight, sexual sins are extremely serious.
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blueorchidjd
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Yeah to what everyone said above.
I will also say this
Even if he is a 'good guy' and may even respect you, he may not even be realizing that he is manipulating you.
He is most likely not on your level, and you are most likely unequally yoked.
When it comes to a situation that generally goes against the moral background of what are to's and what not to's of your faith, or what can get in the way of your walk with Jesus , it is not worth exploring.
Curiosity may have its own itch to be scratched but in the end it will be only distracting and it is important to remember that God's will and word never compromises itself.
Once you become one flesh, you will feel a bond with him that won't go away even if you break up with him, a bond that is only for husband and wife.
Rip the band-aid, you will be grateful that you did six months from now.
I will also say this
Even if he is a 'good guy' and may even respect you, he may not even be realizing that he is manipulating you.
He is most likely not on your level, and you are most likely unequally yoked.
When it comes to a situation that generally goes against the moral background of what are to's and what not to's of your faith, or what can get in the way of your walk with Jesus , it is not worth exploring.
Curiosity may have its own itch to be scratched but in the end it will be only distracting and it is important to remember that God's will and word never compromises itself.
Once you become one flesh, you will feel a bond with him that won't go away even if you break up with him, a bond that is only for husband and wife.
Rip the band-aid, you will be grateful that you did six months from now.
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MidniteWelder
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Ask God to strengthen you.
Try to Firmly look him in the eye
And tell him no, like you mean it.
Sexual intimacy is a gift you give to the one you are dedicated to the rest of your life.
Your partner in life. The one you marry.
Your BF wanting that gift now and not respecting God nor you is selfish on his part.
This shows that if he is leading you at all he is doing so selfishly without your best interest at heart.
And if he is leading you in this manner, what Path is your boyfriend leading you down?
I remember my high school sweetheart guilted me into sex.
She was a virgin and I wanted us to wait but after time I guess desire overcomes.
She said if I didn't give it to her she would find someone else who would.
Even if she said it jokingly, it still weighed on my mind.
I like Adam, gave in because I loved her.
Being dedicated to God the creator is more important than to the created though.
I learned my lesson, and the next time a girl played that game (said basically the same thing)
I told her go ahead and do it if that's the way you want to treat yourself, then broke up with her.
Don't compromise your Godly morals for another person
Don't feel as if you're hurting their feelings for standing up for God.
It is actually them who is hurting a follower of God by the enemy using them to get to the believers.
God Bless, remember love don't make a sin right.
you can be an example for other women now and in the future.