Can Men and Women Be Platonic Friends?

[Gojira]

"Though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you again the first principles of the oracles of God; and you have come to need milk and not solid food. For everyone who partakes only of milk is unskilled in the word of righteousness, for he is a babe. But solid food belongs to those who are of full age, that is, those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil" (Hebrews 5:12-14).

I don't know where you all live, but I live in America, and I can tell you without any exaggeration that America is spiritually and morally in a very high state of emergency. Someone sent me the following today by a Pastor Darren Smith:

"About a month ago during a time of great trial in my walk Jesus the Lord spoke to me about being a true follower of Him, not a nominal believer but a true follower. The word I heard was that America is the hardest place in the world to be a believer. This came as a shock to me, for I had often thought and commented on how easy we have it here. But what the Lord opened to me is how hard it is to walk with Him in this land of comfort. It is so easy to be distracted by the cares of this world in our nation, in fact so easy that we have created our own American doctrine to make us feel better about our lack of devotion to Jesus."

There's a reason I always spell the word christian with a small c. Because there is no Jesus Christ in it. On this thread and forums, we can get mature and be mature, or we can stay in a selfish character, and I can get silly, ridiculous, and cocky. For American christians, it's way past time to grow up, mature, repent, and retrace the way to the right Path (Jeremiah 6:16). In America, people everywhere are suffering and dying because American christians are too self-centered to care. This level of immaturity is not the way things are meant to be.

Well... here's something we agree on, whether or not you blocked me. I have vlogs on YouTube about this. We are in a state of emergency. We're facing a rising fascist movement from the so-called "progressives", and the church is asleep. The enemy never sleeps, so we shouldn't either. Paul warned us about this. Thomas Jefferson told us to be eternally vigilant. But, you're right: we're too distracted, too comfortable. Our success has bred its own seeds for downfall.

All I can say is pray, pray and pray some more for America. There are seeds of hope, the recent SCOTUS decision being one of them. But, our enemy never sleeps, and his people are filled with a sinful rage that is not easily quenched. We must see to it that we are salty salt and bright light, or our great country will collapse into rotting darkness.

 

[Lynx]

Some of you are so simple. (Don't worry. Being simple isn't a bad thing.) I wasn't being hostile. I was trolling him. You think I fight with weak people? LMAOOOOOOO. C'mon. Please try to relax. Not all men are down to butt heads at the slightest feeling of disrespect. All I know is that Live4Him3 didn't sleep well last night, that's for sure. I slept like a baby. Poor guy. He has no sack to hold his peas in. His ex suffered living with him. No clue how she stayed around long enough to have three kids with him. She suffered. Anyway, I speak my mind. It doesn't mean I'm upset. It's just me seeing through people and then once in a while I'll just tell them what I see because apparently they don't see it themselves.

Someone else told me he was attacked by the same women attacking me in the singles forum and also by some men in the Bible study forum. He said he was smart, handsome, etc., and these ugly and bitter Medusas started crawling all over him. I think he gave up but I told him I like to troll people who take themselves too seriously, so I might list 200 more things that women like about me. LMAAAAAAAOOOOOOOOO.

I'm not usually a fan of the ignore button, but...

Yeah, Live4Him3, I think it's time for you to put this one on ignore.

 

[EternalFire]

I'm too busy to know what that means. Are you male or female? Speak male: just say what you want to say.

Heed the lesson of the cookies.

 

[Jackieboy100]

I'm not usually a fan of the ignore button, but...

Yeah, Live4Him3, I think it's time for you to put this one on ignore.

SosofCaleb has been banned! I think he took things too far with his attacks on Live4him3

 

[akaDorthy]

SosofCaleb has been banned!

Does that surprise you?
It doesn't surprise me.

 

[Jackieboy100]

Does that surprise you?
It doesn't surprise me.

Not quite! I just didn't realise that administration was watching and let things get that far before stepping in. Or maybe someone reported his display of indecency.

 

[Live4Him3]

SosofCaleb has been banned! I think he took things too far with his attacks on Live4him3

Don't sweat it.

It's just another typical day in the woods of ChristianChat for me, and it didn't even ruffle my fur.

The things he said about me were almost like the sweet words you'd find inside of a Hallmark card when compared to some of the "fan mail" that I receive here on almost a daily basis.

I wish him nothing but the best.

 

[Jackieboy100]

Don't sweat it.

It's just another typical day in the woods of ChristianChat for me, and it didn't even ruffle my fur.

The things he said about me were almost like the sweet words you'd find inside of a Hallmark card when compared to some of the "fan mail" that I receive here on almost a daily basis.

I wish him nothing but the best.

Proud of you for remaining true to your roots as a gentleman. God bless you!

 

[Live4Him3]

Proud of you for remaining true to your roots as a gentleman. God bless you!

Just so nobody thinks that I'm living in la-la-land, I'm well aware that I'm NOT always "gentle" here.

I think (I might be mistaken) that I shared this following analogy my first time through here, but it bears repeating.

When I was younger and still living at home with my Mom (my parents separated when I was twelve), my mother would ask me to dig up her garden on the side of our house each Spring.

If the ground was soft and pliable, then I only needed to grab the spade out of our garage in order to "gently" overturn the soil so seeds might be planted.

If, however, the ground was hard and chapped, then I needed to grab the pitchfork out of our garage in order to roughly overturn the soil so seeds could be planted.

In other words, it was the condition of the soil which determined how much "force" I needed to exert, but the end goal or desire was always to leave the ground in such a condition that it might be able to receive seeds.

And so it goes to this day, spiritually speaking.

Whether anybody here believes me or not (I really couldn't care less), I'm not the least bit into strife and contention, yet I find myself involved in the same from time to time, or I need to be more "forceful" than I would like to be from time to time.

Anyhow, I truly wish Caleb nothing but the best.

 

[Lynx]

SosofCaleb has been banned! I think he took things too far with his attacks on Live4him3

So much for entertainment.

*Lynx wanders back to his video games and waits patiently for the next troll to pop up.

 

[Runningman]

May God bless you SonsOfCaleb. I know you have a bright future whatever happens. You have many good things to look forward to. Remember what I said: don’t fret!

You will be missed. We occasionally receive a bright star that shines so brightly that many are blinded by the light. All too often they leave us, leaving it all a bit darker than before.

 

[TheNarrowPath]

SosofCaleb has been banned! I think he took things too far with his attacks on Live4him3

i reported his post re: Live4. He can use the time off to work on his anger. I enjoyed his thread topics but he self sabotaged what could have been an opportunity to share. Like someone very wise on this site said about does it glorify God? That post didnt.

 

[Jackieboy100]

i reported his post re: Live4. He can use the time off to work on his anger. I enjoyed his thread topics but he self sabotaged what could have been an opportunity to share. Like someone very wise on this site said about does it glorify God? That post didnt.

Well done for taking he initiative to help resolve a situation that was rapidly turning into a toxic environment for all of us.
Thanks and God bless you!

 

[Gojira]

Well done for taking he initiative to help resolve a situation that was rapidly turning into a toxic environment for all of us.
Thanks and God bless you!

Agreed Ms Jackie.

 

[tourist]

I like you Gojira and I like you Live4him3. I also like SonsOfCaleb. You all got something to say but come at it from different angles. You cant all be right all of the time so maybe give each other some slack here and there. i think the key is not to take it personal, to bow out of a thread before it gets personal...I only get annoyed when it looks like a group of people against one person. Im seeing people who cant humble themselves and take correction. I cant even name them cause they will get offended. And they are pointing at the other person. If we cannot take correction from our sister or brother in Christ then how can we take correction from God?

Well spoken.

 

[HalleluYAH]

Most men say men and women can't be platonic friends. And most women say men and women can be platonic friends. How is each party defining 'friend', and why do they disagree?

Interesting topic. There is no reason why a man and woman can't be platonic friends, provided neither is married, or if married their respective spouses do not object to such friendship. Being friends in Christ is Spiritual in nature, and transcends gender.

 

[RyanSundstrom]

Yes they can be, although a lot of the time that best friend relationship is shared between both a man and a women one of four things happens. One feels something for the other whilst the other doesn’t, and they don’t say anything about it. One has feelings for the other whilst the other doesn’t share these feelings and the friendship ends. They both have feelings and so nothing. Or they both have feelings and the relationship is no longer platonic.

 

[Lanolin]

Feelings...woah woah woah feelings....

 

[RyanSundstrom]

Feelings...woah woah woah feelings....

What do you mean? It’s true

 

[Lanolin]

girls and boys can be friends right? Just not men and women.