Can you find substance in today's smash and pass culture?

[Nufan]

She called me and set up a date to hang out. Wish me luck.

 

[SirSolaScriptura]

Would a robot wife have any culinary skills?

Haha, there do have robot cooks in Japan, so I imagine so.

 

[tourist]

Don't over think it.

Dont over think it. Just play like you use to during 3rd grade recess and you'll win over 90% of the women out there.

Wonder about the remaining 10% though. I guess these are the ones who play hard to get.

 

[tourist]

She called me and set up a date to hang out. Wish me luck.

I certainly will.

 

[Nufan]

Looks like somthing serious is developing. I spent that whole night with her and the next day as well. She wants something serious but needs to go slow.

 

[Smoke]

Something that I have learned over the years is you can't expect a long healthy relationship to be established by starting with intimacy and sex. I have learned that intimacy is a passion and it can quickly die. If you don't take the time to first develop a connection and bond with one another, then when the intimacy dies then there is nothing left to sustain a healthy relationship. I recently saw a woman that I had an interest in. I saw that she has attraction towards me. She was nervous and shy. I saw some very good traits in her, loving traits. I decided Im interested in wanting to get to know her. So I grabbed her aside. I let her know that I thought she was cute. I gave her some time to kind of share with me. I got her number and told her that I wanted to meet her after she was done with work. So we meet at her car. we talk and it turned out she just got out of a relationship. She was with someone for 10 years and just divorced. She made a clear that she likes her freedom and likes to do what she wants, which is understandable. Cause she'd been tied down in a relationship and shes now in rebound mode. She says she wants to take things slow and I made it clear to her that I want to see that there's something more than just intimacy and sex between us. I want to build something thats lasting. I want to build something that is not just going to last for a short time. I know that if we go right into intimacy and sex, then we won't be building other important things in the relationship and it will crumble and fall. I recently had this experience with a woman 2 years ago, who actually pursued me. She said she was in a relationship but they weren't intimate and that he knew that she was pursuing other men and he was okay with it. I wasn't as close to God as I am now and yeah, I've had quite a few experience like that. It never ends well. So because I'm wanting something lasting.I'm choosing to wait and see if she has interest in wanting to pursue me. Otherwise I know it's not gonna lead anywhere good. My question is, are we really living in a culture today? That's not interested on building a long term connection but instead wanting to pursue our passions and indulging in intimate encounters. Are there still women out there that can trust a man enough to build something lasting. Or are women so hurt nowadays that this just isn't a possibility.

I believe the sexual revolution is largely responsible for this dynamic today. Men and women scratched off many virtues (chastity/purity for example) and marriage-minded relationships in exchange for promiscuity. That instant hit of dopamine makes us slaves. The only remedy is abiding with Jesus Christ on a daily (hourly even) basis.