Chat Flirting

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How often are you hit on while chatting?

  • Never

    Votes: 4 26.7%

  • Sometimes

    Votes: 3 20.0%

  • Most times

    Votes: 4 26.7%

  • Always

    Votes: 4 26.7%
  • Total voters
    15
  • Poll closed .
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Kels

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How many females have been approached flirtatiously either through a forum, chat room, or profile messaging? I am new to this site and, honestly, I check out people's profile pages(who doesn't?) purely out of curiosity. But I've noticed in the chat rooms the vast majority of females have left some type of message on their private chat boards saying something to the extent of 1) In a relationship 2)Don't flirt with me 3)Not looking for a mate, etc. Is this like a proactive thing? Or are a lot of female users getting hit on to the extent that this has to be done? I would really like to hear the experiences of female users and how anyone feels about this.
 
Well, this is strange but people flirt in the Main chat area a lot. That is usually fine but, People who do not talk in the Main but PM people to flirt with them, that is frowned upon.

The reason for the PM messages is usually because people from strange countries with a weak grasp of the unspoken social customs will PM women out of the blue and try to leverage their way into a proposition of marriage or they will ask for money.
 
I used to chat a lot here under a different username back in 2005-2006. I'd say the great majority of people who PMed me were male, and I would occasionally be flirted with, even though I didn't have a picture up or anything.

I used to not mind it. I admit, I sometimes liked the attention at the time, and it was mostly casual and harmless. The only times I felt uncomfortable is when the person flirting didn't speak English very well, and if there were some cultural barriers that could mix things up. Or they were mean to me cause I didn't want to share my picture (yes, this has actually happened once).


That was a long time ago though. Now days the online flirting makes me uncomfortable. I have a boyfriend now anyway, so I'm not interested.

I can definitely see why people in chat might choose to have those messages on their PM box. I have considered putting up such a message before.


Though not all PMing ends up flirtatious. I have also met some dear friends from this place and I wouldn't have if it weren't for chat. :) I haven't spoken to many of them in years...we just drifted apart in one way or another, were good friends for a time, but life gets busy and you lose touch sometimes. But I hope they are doing well whatever they are up to.


-Relena (formerly Rose1919) :p
 
And here I thought this thread was about how often I flirted, not how often people flirt with me.. so there goes my input in this thread lol.
 
I have a message in my PM box that says "I am not a fan of PMs" mainly because I was being hit on even in the middle of formal Bible studies while trying to participate in the group conversation. :/
 
While i am not a female, i am friends with a number of them. It seems to be a topic that comes up regularly with them. The reason being, they are hit on daily. Often more than once a day. And i don't mean simply PMed, but flirt with, or even something more direct than that.
 
When I was a regular in the chatroom, I was hit on every 10 mins. Not bragging but it drove me insane. Because theres no option for 'engaged' in the profile, nevertheless Ive had the 'married' option next to my name since the day I got engaged (been married for 6 months now). Does that stop random men from messaging me despite having a PM statement say "Please don't talk to me unless you're in my friends list"? No. And I hate to sound like Im making stereotypes but theyre always men who never bother talking in the main chat room and their always from middle eastern or asian nations.
 
I get hit on a lot in the chat rooms. Thats why i rarely go in there anymore, and when i do i only stay for a few minutes. I get all kinds of creepy messages from guys even not being in the chat rooms. I get some middle eastern guys asking me to marry them, but the majority are americans asking me the same thing.
It doesnt seem to matter how rude i am either, they'll just keep messaging me and messaging me....it drives me crazy.

Except you zero, your obsessive messages and proposals are welcomed :D
 
NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
I get hit on a lot in the chat rooms. Thats why i rarely go in there anymore, and when i do i only stay for a few minutes. I get all kinds of creepy messages from guys even not being in the chat rooms. I get some middle eastern guys asking me to marry them, but the majority are americans asking me the same thing.
It doesnt seem to matter how rude i am either, they'll just keep messaging me and messaging me....it drives me crazy.

Except you zero, your obsessive messages and proposals are welcomed :D
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*sniffs*

Nod, I've propositioned you plenty of times and yet your exquisite beauty always seems to elude me. *sigh* Perhaps I need to sound more "middle eastern" or "desperate American"-ish...

And maybe it's best for me to keep those two pillars of faith in mind... Patience, and persistence! :D

(I am just kidding everyone... Nod is my girl!! One of the first and best people I met here at CC.)
 
NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
I get hit on a lot in the chat rooms. Thats why i rarely go in there anymore, and when i do i only stay for a few minutes. I get all kinds of creepy messages from guys even not being in the chat rooms. I get some middle eastern guys asking me to marry them, but the majority are americans asking me the same thing.
It doesnt seem to matter how rude i am either, they'll just keep messaging me and messaging me....it drives me crazy.

Except you zero, your obsessive messages and proposals are welcomed :D
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Oh Nod, that's the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me! :)

Somehow I feel like this pic is perfect for this..
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seoulsearch said:
*sniffs*

Nod, I've propositioned you plenty of times and yet your exquisite beauty always seems to elude me. *sigh* Perhaps I need to sound more "middle eastern" or "desperate American"-ish...

And maybe it's best for me to keep those two pillars of faith in mind... Patience, and persistence! :D

(I am just kidding everyone... Nod is my girl!! One of the first and best people I met here at CC.)
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I don't know, Kim. I'm starting to wonder if you're really kidding. :p
 
seoulsearch said:
*sniffs*

Nod, I've propositioned you plenty of times and yet your exquisite beauty always seems to elude me. *sigh* Perhaps I need to sound more "middle eastern" or "desperate American"-ish...

And maybe it's best for me to keep those two pillars of faith in mind... Patience, and persistence! :D

(I am just kidding everyone... Nod is my girl!! One of the first and best people I met here at CC.)
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Haha kim! You know how i feel about you ;)

Holly and Kim sittin in a tree c..h..a..t..t..i..n..g.. : D


P.s. i shall be at your house momentarily so we may ride off into the sunset!! Lol
 
Kels said:
I've noticed in the chat rooms the vast majority of females have left some type of message on their private chat boards saying something to the extent of 1) In a relationship 2)Don't flirt with me 3)Not looking for a mate, etc.
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Quick question - anyone know how to add a PM window message anyway? I tried to find it in control panel, but couldn't see an option for it.
 
RELENA on the home page right before you go into the chat room where you decide if you want a webcam or not, volume or not and all that stuff. Underneath that it says Avatar, Bible Version, Bling, etc. Click on Private Chat Notice. If you scroll down you'll see where you can put a message in. Take care!
 
I get pm's from girls... and I dont know why??? Am I getting hit on??? Hehehe... Only got 1 pm form a guy and was asking me to help in getting saved... I think I did :)!! Oh, I never did pm anyone except I got pmed first!!
 
Thanks to everyone who is commenting. I'm finding all of your opinions very interesting. I for one honestly don't mind a little flirting because I belong to the highest demographic of Christians who tend to do the flirting: single young men. However, I did not sign up on this site to find a wife or a girlfriend. I won't say it can't happen because obviously God works in very mysterious ways. But I like to fellowship with EVERYONE. And spending a lot of time on here hehehe-ing and hahaha-ing may very well be taking away from the time I could be spending edifying and encouraging someone who really, really needs it. I've had people private message me, asking if I can talk and then not saying anything else. Is that a cry for help or just playfulness? I do know there are people on here who need help. Anyway, I wouldn't dare try to say definitively what should or should not be done. I just think there should be an constant awareness of what's really important to us as Christians and as people. And guys should respect a woman's wish to be left alone! Holla!
 
I haven't been in the CC chat in a while, but may go back some soon. That said....
There are typically more guys in any given chat room on the internet than girls. So of course girls are going to get "hit on" more. It does go both ways though. Personally, I don't take a PM from a girl as if they're hitting on me. Maybe they just want to talk. On CC, I think I have received one PM initiated by a male ever. He seemed like a nice dude. The others were from girls. Only two of them were making proposals. haha. One girl proceeded to type a lengthy thing out about the steps of how an American male would marry a woman from her country...I just didn't respond after that.

It does seem like some girls take any PM they receive as flirting or hitting on them just because you are PM'ing them. I tend to click on profiles too anytime I see a new name, so I've seen those "Don't PM me if you're a man!" messages as well. I can understand why they'd be there, especially if the woman is married. Some seem to get a little crazy about it though. I saw one once that said something like "Don't PM me if you're a guy! I get sooo mad if I get PM'd by guys!"... Umm really? It's pretty simple to just ignore the message. lol. It's a chat room, it happens. Replying to or even opening up private messages, whether it be in the chat room or through the forums, is a choice. You don't have to even open them. *shrug*

I do most certainly understand any and every caution the women take. I've been told by more than one lady here about guys who are on CC looking to do naughty things and using various means to try to get there. I would hope that the guy would be reported immediately to a moderator. If you're a girl reading this and you don't report them, just know that guy is very likely to try the same thing on another girl here who might not be as strong as you.
 
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