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Mammachickadee
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Might I use this as a very accurate example of women's equality to men?If a man does not show nothing but love, does that not give her grounds to stand for what is right and not fully submit in mind and body? If a man spends the entire marriage calling the shots he would be called a leader on one hand and a despot on the other (obviously the more extreme term would be radical feminism); however, if his demands are unbiblical and undeserving would a wife not be feeding his flesh and providing an occasion for him to fall by remaining complacently submissive? The issue is in the judgement call required to term a husband ''undeserving'' of submission- but because God created man and woman equal spiritually, physically (theoretically), and mentally a woman of God is OBLIGATED to use her equal power of discernment in everything. To say that a woman must jump when a husband says ''obey'' is to say that the husband would never ask of a wife that which would be deemed a violation of God's instruction (an obvious problem).
On the flip side, it is not untrue that radical feminism is a growing trend that influences both the average man and woman. Initially a woman desires to be protected and catered to, but few women, when pressed with opposition to their will, can find it easy to submit or remain objective. The image of a hen-pecked husband in the old story of the ''Fisherman and the Golden Fish'' has become a resounding presence in our culture, and men often confide in each other their exasperation with their wives. Why is this, though? Does feminism spawn such exasperation, or is it not likely that a man's lack of leadership has fed a reverse of roles in the home. In the younger generation especially women in the home are met with selfishness and addiction to whimsy at every turn. Insensed by their husband's vain inattentiveness a woman's natural drive to be equal and proud is fed exponentially. Instead of receiving the sheltering and guidance or LOVE she receives a pile of dishes; a lack of quiet support; and frequent torture of mind and heart when her husband doesn't even remember to hold her for more than 5 minutes or ask about her day. Weekend family plans are traded in for Sunday football parties (which, I might add, are frequently cause for shortened church services) or midnight game releases. Is submitting to a bum okay when said bum wouldn't know what his Bible said about right and wrong if the Decalogue was glued to his dashboard? Someone deserving of blind submission would need to be RIGHT in what he's requiring, but can someone recognize right when they are not willing to learn?
So before writing off ALL feminism as radical and incorrect, perhaps spend an equal amount of time in study of a Christian's exortation and guidance in love found only in the Bible, the church, and the often pleading heart of your wife, Gentlemen. This is not to say all men are selfish animals as most radical feminists would claim. I, for one, would love to submit to my husband in everything... and rarely do I have cause NOT to submit (either because he shows greater/equal understanding or because he requires little). God can bless a marriage with peace, and I pray that men and women alike learn the love required to create a harmonious and biblical partnership in the home.