Dating... With Children.
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I'm actually very impressed.
I had no idea the system would let you search a person's thread history this far back.
On the other hand, maybe I should be worried.
I had no idea the system would let you search a person's thread history this far back.
On the other hand, maybe I should be worried.
Start from there and apparently pick the interesting threads (I mean... She's picking yours a lot...) and voila tout!
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That's a small fish that is very good at playing a stringed instrument with a bow. A viola trout.
Anyway, "Voila tout!" used to be a way of saying "and there you have it." It was something we borrowed from the French for a while. It is not commonly used anymore, at least not in the USA. For all I know the French probably still use it.
Anyway, "Voila tout!" used to be a way of saying "and there you have it." It was something we borrowed from the French for a while. It is not commonly used anymore, at least not in the USA. For all I know the French probably still use it.
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Dumping children on someone else to supervise just seems like a thing for some parents it seems when they split up. If you agreed to it, I hope he paid you well for your time and trouble.
With split parents the kids just get shuffled back and forth between parents and relatives, so that the night they dont have them they can go out on dates. As far as I know. Obvs.
If the parent is widowed its a different story. Usually the grandparents takes over. If the grandparents cant or are dead then. you have a situation. Which might cause you to drink
With split parents the kids just get shuffled back and forth between parents and relatives, so that the night they dont have them they can go out on dates. As far as I know. Obvs.
If the parent is widowed its a different story. Usually the grandparents takes over. If the grandparents cant or are dead then. you have a situation. Which might cause you to drink
well lets hope that the children arent too scarred by that experience.
State care isnt always the best either. But this is what happens when parents cant or dont take responsibilty for their own children.
Here in nz if you are so out of it you cant look after your own children and they suffer from neglect and or abuse, the social workers can come round and take your children off you. They call it doing an uplift.
Then most of their job is sometimes taken up dispensing meds to the drug addicts.
State care isnt always the best either. But this is what happens when parents cant or dont take responsibilty for their own children.
Here in nz if you are so out of it you cant look after your own children and they suffer from neglect and or abuse, the social workers can come round and take your children off you. They call it doing an uplift.
Then most of their job is sometimes taken up dispensing meds to the drug addicts.
of course when people are on drugs or drinking they dont even know or are aware of any of the consequences of their actions until they get sober
Also if you are young and not grew up round someone who drank you probably didnt see the signs of addiction and thought well thats just normal behaviour for them. Its not.
This is why we have things like 'dry July' and in the olden days they used to take pledges...but I dont know if that worked, Prohibition didnt seem to work, it just made people go underground.
if people address the real issue, not just 'I need a date' then you can pray for that person and be a real help. Get them saved and off the drugs. I probbaly seem harsh but too many people drink and drug their lives away.
Also if you are young and not grew up round someone who drank you probably didnt see the signs of addiction and thought well thats just normal behaviour for them. Its not.
This is why we have things like 'dry July' and in the olden days they used to take pledges...but I dont know if that worked, Prohibition didnt seem to work, it just made people go underground.
if people address the real issue, not just 'I need a date' then you can pray for that person and be a real help. Get them saved and off the drugs. I probbaly seem harsh but too many people drink and drug their lives away.
Thats exactly what happened out of boredom and curiosity. I did notice that for every page you turn that has multiple threads, there is at least 2,3,4 threads about love. Looking for love mostly and I wanted to skip over those because it was getting sadly repetitive but that is part of the human condition.
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I see that this is an old thread that was reanimated recently, but I'll just chime in for a moment.
First of all, I don't know if I qualify as being "a single parent" or not. I mean, I am "single" (divorced), and I am a "parent" (of three children), but they actually live with their mother/my ex right now, and that's only about 10 minutes away from where I live. When we were first divorced, they stayed with my ex 4 days and nights each week (by having them more than I did, she claimed their tax credits each year) and with me 3 days and nights each week. That made things a bit hard on our children as far as school, and homework, and where to leave their clothes, etc., etc. were concerned, and now they reside solely with her.
Anyhow, I did date someone for 2 1/2 years after my divorce, but that was mostly a long distance relationship. She was from another country, and although we video chatted for hours every day, she only came to America three times during our relationship, and she didn't meet my children until her third time here. She and I had discussed marriage (I was moments away from buying an engagement ring that I had picked out), but I would have never expected her to be some sort of "mother" to my children (they already have a mom, anyway).
Anyway, she made a crack about my children one day, and that was the day that I broke off my relationship with her. Again, I would have never expected her to be any sort of "mother' to my children, but I wasn't about to tolerate any disrespect towards them either.
That's about all I've got...
First of all, I don't know if I qualify as being "a single parent" or not. I mean, I am "single" (divorced), and I am a "parent" (of three children), but they actually live with their mother/my ex right now, and that's only about 10 minutes away from where I live. When we were first divorced, they stayed with my ex 4 days and nights each week (by having them more than I did, she claimed their tax credits each year) and with me 3 days and nights each week. That made things a bit hard on our children as far as school, and homework, and where to leave their clothes, etc., etc. were concerned, and now they reside solely with her.
Anyhow, I did date someone for 2 1/2 years after my divorce, but that was mostly a long distance relationship. She was from another country, and although we video chatted for hours every day, she only came to America three times during our relationship, and she didn't meet my children until her third time here. She and I had discussed marriage (I was moments away from buying an engagement ring that I had picked out), but I would have never expected her to be some sort of "mother" to my children (they already have a mom, anyway).
Anyway, she made a crack about my children one day, and that was the day that I broke off my relationship with her. Again, I would have never expected her to be any sort of "mother' to my children, but I wasn't about to tolerate any disrespect towards them either.
That's about all I've got...
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if you simply cannot handle children dont do it
its not fair for them to have to put up with a potential step parent who might just abuse them by making disrespectful jokes or otherwise
those children are already scarred from abandonment, dislocation and neglect from a divorce or separation, if you cannot get along with them you just would make it worse if you not really committed to them too.
so if you go with someone who already has 'baggage' and chuck that baggage out to start over, is this what children are...disposable baggage? Is this a christian view of children?
Jesus said the kingdom of God is for children and they can only come as children. They need a lot of love! MORE so than a parent ever does.
its not fair for them to have to put up with a potential step parent who might just abuse them by making disrespectful jokes or otherwise
those children are already scarred from abandonment, dislocation and neglect from a divorce or separation, if you cannot get along with them you just would make it worse if you not really committed to them too.
so if you go with someone who already has 'baggage' and chuck that baggage out to start over, is this what children are...disposable baggage? Is this a christian view of children?
Jesus said the kingdom of God is for children and they can only come as children. They need a lot of love! MORE so than a parent ever does.
I think split or divorced parents who are 'co-parenting' shouldnt cry or pack a sad about being a single parent because they are not they are just parenting in separate locations.
The genuine solo parent (usually the mum) do it all alone, and often without any child support at all. The children do not even KNOW who or where their dad is.
The genuine solo parent (usually the mum) do it all alone, and often without any child support at all. The children do not even KNOW who or where their dad is.