If your spouse keeps on with poor habits, do you lie to get something corrected? I do. My wife overstuffs cabinets. So when I tell her, I'll say, "Luvee, you put to many glasses & cups in the cabinet & when i opened the cabinet door, 3 cups & glasses fell out". really, only 1 fell out. Or, near our microwave, she has a pile of "stuff"' & if you position the coffee maker to use, her stuff gets scattered in that area, sometimes, falling to the floor! & I'll tell her 5 things fell when just 1 or 2. So what's your story on this everyone?
I'm only offering an opinion that might help solve your problem area.
Always remember that we all have strengths and weaknesses. I don't like husbands in a gathering exposing their wives' flaws anymore than the wives gossipping about their husbands. There should be unity in the marriage relationship. Sins like those will separate and make matters worse with resentment and long term damage.
Since you are the leader in this relationship, and the more organized one, I would suggest the following.
1. Recognize that weakness and perhaps character flaw.
2. Rather than approach her in frustration at the time of frustration or anger, correct the problem as is needed to keep the china from getting further broken.
3. Think about specific ways she is motivated. Everyone is different. Husbands are required to get to know their wives.
4. Come up with a simple plan of approaching her in a non emotional way, but in a way that will help the household become more amicable to both of you.
5. Set a schedule in your planner to accomplish one task with her. For instance, you can kindly let her know that you set a day and time to clean and reshelve the cupboards. You want to work on it with her, like a team. Note that you are not putting her down or chastising her. You are enlisting her as the helper that God created her to be. Think positive motivation so she will enjoy the process of working WITH you and the outcome.
6. Let her know that you will start today when you go to the store to get plastic storage containers. Ask if she has enough plastic bags to wrap the excess cups and dinnerware in.
She assesses and let's you know if you should buy any.
7. Project day, you ask her how many she needs for setting the table. Perhaps you can have enough handy for company or holiday gatherings. Perhaps it needs to be gotten out of storage then. Everything is wiped down and shelf relined or whatever you want.
The sealed container gets a label and goes into the attic.
Everyone is happy and has the positive sense of accomplishment!
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Next, ask if there's anything that she would like from you.
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