Do you lie to your spouse............for correction?
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That's great!
I am single, but have been in leadership positions and learned a few things of Biblical application in marriage as in groups.
I think that one of the benefits to marriage is that while there's the greater potential for much pain and stress, there's another person who has needs. When things go God's way serving one another, there's much more joy.
I have much to learn from you as a married man, no doubt.
I am single, but have been in leadership positions and learned a few things of Biblical application in marriage as in groups.
I think that one of the benefits to marriage is that while there's the greater potential for much pain and stress, there's another person who has needs. When things go God's way serving one another, there's much more joy.
I have much to learn from you as a married man, no doubt.
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oh, everyone, this is really quite a small issue. on the weaknesses, not one here knows who we are. i don't tell people anything & she doesn't either, (people we know). we have wonderful unity. our marriage gets better as the years move on. nearly no marriages can say that. i'm not frustrated at all, not even close. when i tell her about the cabinets, i smile. when i clean, i don't tell her. she likes it better as a surprise. were have enough of #6. all is well here. in fact, we're headed for another big Saturday in Saratoga & on Sunday, down in Middeberg for a big antique sale. thanks HealthandHappiness.
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Sorry to come across critical. I already posted before I proofread and added that I don't think you are publicly violating any personal privacy. We don't even know you or your wife. As is usual, I hit post and edit. Timer timed out before I corrected my incomplete thoughts on the subject. I apologize.
I'm glad you are asking about this because probably every other couple goes through similar issues.
We can all learn from one another, especially us singles who may get married some day. You've been there, done that. Glad to hear that things are so peaceful in your life.
I'm glad you are asking about this because probably every other couple goes through similar issues.
We can all learn from one another, especially us singles who may get married some day. You've been there, done that. Glad to hear that things are so peaceful in your life.
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I couldn't live with clutter. It would give me anxiety. But I married later in life and neither of us can be bothered with arguing. If we see something that needs done, we do it. If the floor needs to be vacuumed or clothes washed and I don't get to it, he does it. If the deck needs painting and it's 100 degrees out, I'm out there working to get it done. A large branch broke of our tree and I moved it. I busted a move
and he chided me a little for trying to do it myself but I knew he wasn't feeling well and would try to move it if he saw it. A mature marriage is when you understand that when you do what you can to make your spouse happy, they will do the same for you. -
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Let us do evil so that good can result?
It's not worked in 5700+ years yet....but people keep trying.
Your wife loves you and your ways even though they cause conflict. Just like you love her with her ways. Because every dog has its unique fleas. And without those fleas you have no dog.
If I were you....and I live in a similar situation....I thank God regularly for her. We have a wonderful life together. When so many people are divorcing and abusive towards their spouses....your biggest challenge is too many cups in one location? HA! That's a feature not a disaster. Just thank her for putting things away and fix it the way you want. It's marriage. Appreciate what she does and verbally acknowledge it. Honey works vinegar will not.
It's not worked in 5700+ years yet....but people keep trying.
Your wife loves you and your ways even though they cause conflict. Just like you love her with her ways. Because every dog has its unique fleas. And without those fleas you have no dog.
If I were you....and I live in a similar situation....I thank God regularly for her. We have a wonderful life together. When so many people are divorcing and abusive towards their spouses....your biggest challenge is too many cups in one location? HA! That's a feature not a disaster. Just thank her for putting things away and fix it the way you want. It's marriage. Appreciate what she does and verbally acknowledge it. Honey works vinegar will not.
Lies are the "evil". And I'm quoting Paul....from a famous verse in scripture. I'm making a reference to the concept and not the particulars.
Oh I fully understand what you are saying...been there done that sort of thing myself. It doesn't work. Always has a bad end. Because your wife needs to be able to rely on your words. "Yes" and "No" have to be truth EVERY time. Because it damages the value of "I love you" if they are not. Oh I get the concept of "white lies" because that's what this is. But marriage is sacrosanct. Different from every other relationship out there. I know you get this even if I'm just writing.
Just some friendly advice. And yeah....I completely understand the annoyance factor of cups and schlock falling out of the cabinet like you sprung a booby trap designed to hurt you. Or you can't get at your coffee for her junk in the way.
But she can adjust to accommodate you and she did....because she does indeed love you. It's not a shock but little things like that do give you warm fuzzies.
Oh I fully understand what you are saying...been there done that sort of thing myself. It doesn't work. Always has a bad end. Because your wife needs to be able to rely on your words. "Yes" and "No" have to be truth EVERY time. Because it damages the value of "I love you" if they are not. Oh I get the concept of "white lies" because that's what this is. But marriage is sacrosanct. Different from every other relationship out there. I know you get this even if I'm just writing.
Just some friendly advice. And yeah....I completely understand the annoyance factor of cups and schlock falling out of the cabinet like you sprung a booby trap designed to hurt you. Or you can't get at your coffee for her junk in the way.
But she can adjust to accommodate you and she did....because she does indeed love you. It's not a shock but little things like that do give you warm fuzzies.
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