Does anyone else find facebook depressing?

[G00WZ]

I can still remember back when it was all about Myspace

 

[Miri]

lol! i deactivated my account years ago. this must be a new thing?

oh, the ads! my kids talk about the annoying ads, but i don't remember that much.

ps-- i sometimes have a glass of wine at Christmastime. please don't unfriend me.

Never, lol

 

[mj007]

The sad thing about the internet, is that when something small grows, it grows attractive to those who want to exploit it. And what is simpler than making your platform revenue by advertising?

For example, I used to be on a user oriented website for music makers called mp3.com. I really loved that place, everyone making songs at home, sharing views and opinions, helping each other, bringing original music to the scene, somewhat refreshing.

It became popular, then the music industry started using it as a platform for their music. And then the charts weren't dominated by user oriented tracks, but mainstream ones. Then mp3.com thought, hmm, this is where the money is at. They deleted EVERYONES tracks, and turned it into a mainstream site for more 'professional' music, which most probably is financed by advertising (I'm not sure I stopped using it after it's refreshed image).

That was a sad day.

I currently use SoundCloud, which was a growing site back in the time. But the same is happening to it.

Greed never ends does it?

We need a place for unsigned artists, that is only for unsigned artists, because, it's a different world we live in!

As for FaceBook, well, isn't it like the Mark of the Beast? Instead of needing to collect data on people, people willingly supply it, what an ingenious idea! You may have friends you don't even know, but that's the goal, be connected, add those friends you don't really know, even if they have friends who you don't like - right?

Does FaceBook make people more loving, or does it provide a platform under the pretence of free will, where you don't have free will? Maybe I am a little pessimistic about internet things, but I think there is a lot about the internet and how it affects people, which is emotionally troubling.

Says the YouTube addict.

 

[mj007]

And in reference to YouTube, I remember when I would go on there and ask myself, what can I 'choose' to discover today? I discovered lots of things, about like Quantum Mechanics, Super Conductors, Healing, God, Nature, all of my own choosing.

But now YouTube AI suggests what I want to view, and it really is hard not to get sucked into it. Click-bait.

It is another platform which has been overcome by the elite, and those who are greedy. Ego, personality, the rise of the YouTube star.

I remember when it used to be mostly interesting videos. Now it appears to be more trickery than what I am looking for, and yet I keep going because it's goal has worked, I am a YouTube addict!

 

[Ugly]

Sorry you feel this way, Ugly.I have always really enjoyed your posts and thought that you have brought a very valuable contribution to this online community.

Thank you Mooky.

 

[imfinallyfree]

I don't feel that it's depressing,it seems 3rd rate to me,I haven't been there for years so I dunno maybe it got better,still I don't feel compelled to find out.

 

[Rosyshine]

I understand. I think it's normal to want to look good because we want acceptance/approval, etc., but a much deeper need is connection. What can make it depressing is that social media is a pretty shallow connection -- and sometimes you're not even connecting with a real person but rather the image they present of themselves. That leaves us hungering for more and feeling an ache. I wrote on something related recently - in case you're interested: http://christianchat.com/blogs/rosyshine/11078-facebook-narrative.html

 

[Sherril]

For my husband and i we do use Facebook alot we have filtered it down and most of the folks are the real deal running the race surrendered to God...Most are Christ followers .. a few unsaved folks also......we had to do house cleaning so to say in the past when we had a more diverse group of friends and relatives ....But we desire to have a pure Facebook page ....you know what i mean...we have preachers, missionary's, many awesome folks who long to please God and the post are almost always good...love in Christ Sherril....God can use any tool for His Glory....

 

[88]

For my husband and i we do use Facebook alot we have filtered it down and most of the folks are the real deal running the race surrendered to God...Most are Christ followers .. a few unsaved folks also......we had to do house cleaning so to say in the past when we had a more diverse group of friends and relatives ....But we desire to have a pure Facebook page ....you know what i mean...we have preachers, missionary's, many awesome folks who long to please God and the post are almost always good...love in Christ Sherril....God can use any tool for His Glory....

*** if you listen to
angry sinners it will depress you*** Facebook is full of good and evil***

 

[LOLOKGal]

FB has become my bathroom reading material. =D

Seriously, even though the above statement is true, I do visit it often. I see the drama and never get involved. I control, through settings, what I see and don't see. I prefer not seeing pictures of half naked men and women, thank you very much! Besides a few "friends" I have on there just for a game I play, i don't accept request from anyone I don't know.

I have people on there that I've known from different times and venues through out my life: Church, school, works, family, etc... I love staying caught up with them and seeing what goes on in their life. I post scripture from time to time. I keep that going in hopes that it'll minister to someone.

I control how I feel and if I see something that's upsetting, I talk with God about it and let it go. My ex post mean and hateful things about me all the time and his friends support him. So, that's the main thing that I'm talking about right there. OH, before you tell me I should unfriend him, I keep him in because my daughter has to visit him from time to time and I still have hope for his salvation.

Plus, to be honest with you, as one mentioned earlier, I see more drama here on CC then I do on FB, which is why I hardly ever come here. =)

 

[Depleted]

I sometimes log on to see what highschool friends are up to....and of course their lives seem peachy and rosy ....people only put their best foot forward......but I find it so fake and vain people putting up selfies and getting syrupy comments and likes .I am thinking of minimizing my time on there even though curiosity gets the better of me sometimes.

What are peoples thoughts?

Be the person you wish everyone else was.

My sister puts up a picture of a relatively boring looking salad, and tells that's what she made for lunch. So, I fried up a couple of pieces of kielbasa, slapped them on a couple of pieces of bread with mustard, and took a picture of my lunch.

A friend promotes "a worship service," and says he has tickets for it. I ask, "People pay to worship now?" Apparently "worship services" is what they call Christian groups on tour now. (He didn't get my humor.)

My nephew loves the snow. He lives 90 minutes north of us and was getting all kinds of excited that we might get a blizzard. I introduced him to where Dad grew up -- Syracuse, where the annual snowfall is 200 inches a year.

Another friend posted some video on the joys of the returning wolves in Yellowstone. Did you know bringing wolves back brought back extinct beavers? I had to ask, "How do you bring back an extinct species?"

My sister asks what's the best deal she can get for tires. I would have given her a link to a Google search result, but apparently that works for her. 50-100 people answer her every question. She takes over two months to find out what she could have learned in 15 minutes on Google.

Another friend writes, (and he's joking), that everything in our lives, all the choices, we have made have managed to land us right here to read this post. My response? "I must reevaluated my decisions in life."

FB is what you make of it.

 

[Depleted]

i mean... i began to wonder if my believing friends were following the trends set by the unbelieving?

but there's also a terrible thing in the Church where we all wear masks and don't feel we can share griefs and sorrows and failings.

it really isn't helpful to those around us or to ourselves. if we can't be safe with one another as the Body of Christ, who can we be safe with?

Since we can't travel past 90 minutes in the car, and all our family is further away than that, John kept up with it to keep up with what was happening with our families. Since he did, I didn't have to for four years.

And then the heart attack. I didn't want anyone to know, because the last time John was in the hospital, not only did I spend all visiting hours with him, and then had to take care of the apartment, I was then supposed to (and did, because I was young and dumb) call every single family member to update them on John. Since I did, they didn't feel a need to visit him themselves. So, no way was I going through that twice. So, I didn't tell anyone but those who called here. (One person called. We're just not callers anymore. lol)

But that January John had a problem. Hospital-induced delusions. And what he needed was reminders of home. (Dumb suggestion since the supplies and machines took up all the room in his room to the point the only thing that was left was the windowsill, and we couldn't even use that because they might need it for even more stuff. Only thing I could think to bring was his crocheted comforter, but it was too warm to use, and got covered by supplies anyway. lol) AND visitors. I wasn't enough. He needed more.

So, I asked him who he wanted to visit, and called them. Funny thing happened in those years we didn't call people. It seems everyone went from landline to cellphone, so only one person had the same number. (Scared his wife to death, because no one calls them on that old phone anymore. lol) So, I had to go back on FB to PM the wives of the people I wanted to call. (It seems women show up more often then men. )

Now we know the true purpose of FB -- emergencies and death notices. The next time we will need FB is to let family know which one of us died. (Going to tick them off too, because neither one of us wants a funeral.)

Now I keep going back because John wants to know if I saw the one about....

 

[Depleted]

Agreed.It's as if they enter a different dimension of glitz, sugar, photo filters and bragardoccio ....with all the beatitudes out of the window!
I think it was wise of you to leave....I hope to do the same soon.

Ah, man! The last thing I did on FB was show off my garden. I just changed it all around. (Container garden, so I really can move the plants around. lol)

 

[Depleted]

I find CC more depressing than FB. On FB I can control what I want to see, or not see. I've had very little problems with drama because I limit who I add. And those I do add, and feel obligated to keep, that I don't want to see, I just unfollow.
Come to CC and it's not uncommon for me to close it out feeling worse than before I opened it. Which is one reason I cut back so much compared to a few years ago.
Seems if FB is that much of a problem for you perhaps you need to reconsider who you add and follow.

I must admit. I did lose three friends and a SIL last year on FB. It seems calling me a racist, xenophobic, homophobic, misogynistic, elitist, Faux News watcher, (and we don't even have cable, so the first time I ever watched FOX news was when John got cable in the hospital, lol), entitled, inhuman, vermin was much more important than remembering I'm the same person they knew before they realized I would NEVER vote for Hillary. (I don't even like Trump. I was actually agreeing with them often on what they said about Trump.)

One was telling her friends she cuts the eyes out of every Republican in her daily paper because she hates Republicans so much. Another one told me that I don't give a damn about anyone stuck on Medicare or Medicaid. (Hello? That's how we first met, because we're both disabled and need Medicare.) Her husband, who also knows me and is also disabled, defended her with even worst charges against me. And my SIL? Well, she just unfriended me because I'm a Republican, "just like her." (She does swear she's a Republican, and yet has always voted for Democrats her whole life. Color me confused, but how does she get to vote for Republicans even in the primaries, if she only votes for Democrats?)

I totally agree on picking who you will or won't see on FB. And, yeah, I wish that worked the same here, although as heated as it gets here, it's never as bad as FB. The mods do help when we get really bad. The only modding FB does is to fit in with their real customers -- businesses advertising on there.

 

[Depleted]

It's all about the numbers. They can show their advertisers that they have a gazillion members, and that makes the site more valuable. Facebook may have aided in the eventual demise of myspace. Though it was resurrected and reclaimed for its original purpose (music), they had about 90 forum categories. I was on myspace doing Christian apologetics for four years on their religion forum shortly after becoming Christian. What an education! Yowzers, the non-believers were brutal and quite profane, but I got used to it fairly quickly, I guess, as much as one can get used to such treatment.

I used to tell my daughter (who will be 31 this summer) about some of the things people said to me, simply because I was a Christian, and she would wonder how I could stand it. Some of it seemed quite hilarious to me, though. Anyways, the thing is, myspace forums all went bye bye October 26, 2011. Though it is not likely facebook is going anywhere any time soon, I was simply trying to make the point that not everything is forever Some sites are also set up to drop info after it gets so old, to save server space. Still, stuff could be there for a long time before it falls off the back end...

Interesting fact about FB. If you post a photo on there, any one of their real customers, (businesses), can use that photo for their advertising.

One man posted photos of his family. The next time he went on FB, a business was advertising models available, and one of the models was his wife -- same picture. Except, she wasn't a model.

So, if you post any photos on there, be aware it can be used by third parties.

(I've already learned, the hard way, how to protect my copyrighted material. I simply don't post anything I don't want used by someone else too. AND, who wants photos of two average-looking, overweight, frumpy senior citizens? God bless them, if they do. lol)

 

[Depleted]

I was going to post a link...but there were too many articles to choose from.
Just Goggle why Facebook makes people depressed.

Overall, FB will most likely make us feel one of two ways...

-Depressed. We see what others want us to see, their best moments, their best possessions, their best selfie angles...making us feel like we have nothing going on in our lives. It also leads to feeling like we've wasted our time sifting through...yes, FB. Most log on to interact with loved ones...but never actually do it.

- It ego boosts. People subconsciously search for those who don't have it as good as they do.

Social media seems to be like a drug. Its addictive. We roll the dice in the hopes that we will feel better, in the end, it makes us feel terrible. We know its bad and yet we keep on going back for more.



I actually like following my parents generation.
I have relatives that will post about how their teeth fell out as they were eating something. The pics they post aren't photoshopped or in certain cases, ...even flattering.


My generation seems to think that they are 'keeping it real'
When in realty...we do the complete opposite.

Funny, since one of the photos I did post on FB and here had someone telling me they love my teeth because they're so normal and I smile easily anyway. I'm just proud I have teeth at my age. Not all of them, but most of them. lol

And hubby is proud he has teeth again. lol

He's 70. Here are the last three shares he did on FB:

(Don't watch this one, if you hate bathroom humor)
[video=youtube;xfUnts7cm64]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfUnts7cm64[/video]

His physical therapist when he was rehabbing became employee of the month.

And something he likes finding the most on FB:

But, I don't think it's quite as generational as you think. I know we too would be mortified to post what we post now when we were middle-aged. Something changed.

We still have teeth. lol

 

[Depleted]

You need to have that eye looked at.

Stop poking that hole in front of his eye. lol

(Important question: If Ugly needs glass, does Maxwell have a spare eyeglass?)

 

[mailmandan]

 

[Depleted]

I don't really find it depressing, i just find it as a waste of time because i am bombarded with selfies, cat pics and people begging for likes.

Can we swap? I keep getting dog pics. And it's the same dog. And he doesn't do tricks. He does what dogs do everywhere.

(Please, pleeeeeeeeeeeeease, like this. If you don't, it means:
-- you hate dogs,
-- ten unicorns will not sprout their horns tomorrow,
-- you hate America. )

 

[jenniferand2]

Honestly when i first syarted using Facebook it was like any new toy couldn't put it down. Mostly because of the games lol. Now their games are crap and never work right. I am always trying to do the crossstich game and it freezes up on me. So my fb now consists of mostly keeping up with family. A Few great friends and posting cute animal video's, and Got related posts. Also everynow and then a gripe about hurting real bad lol. Most days though I just troll through and see what everyone is up to. I did meet a fantastic lady in He who I am good friends with she is fellow christian.