Why Am I Disappointed?
When I feel disappointed by God, it’s because at that moment there’s something I’m longing for more than him, whether it be healing, employment, a child, a wife. As good as healing, employment, children, and marriage might be, none of them will come close to satisfying me as much as God himself.
So when I’m disappointed by God, there’s a problem with my faith. I’m not trusting that God himself is who he says he is for me in Jesus. I’m not trusting in him as my all-satisfying treasure.
So what can I do? Here are eight steps I have personally found helpful in disappointment.
Come to Jesus Christ with your disappointment, trusting him to meet you and change your heart (Psalm 40:1–3).
Confess that you are longing for something else more than him. Ask him to forgive you through the cross. Receive assurance of complete forgiveness (1 John 1:9).
Plead for the work of the Spirit to change your heart, strengthen your faith, and enable you once again to experience Jesus Christ as your all-satisfying treasure (John 6:35).
Since the Spirit does his work through the word, find Scriptures describing God’s love, power, and majesty, and promises concerning God as your all-satisfying treasure. Pray earnestly over these Scriptures. Fight to trust them (Galatians 3:5).
Continue praying over and trusting these Scriptures until you feel the Spirit changing your heart, and you once again experience Jesus Christ as your all-satisfying treasure (1 Peter 1:8).
Pray over God’s promise that he will ordain every trial to bring you even more heart-satisfaction in him (2 Corinthians 4:17). Do this until the Spirit strengthens your faith that whatever you lack will bring you even more of God.
Also pray over God’s promise that he will take care of everything else you need (health, work, money) in such a way that it will bring you even more of him (Philippians 4:13, 19; Matthew 6:33).
Continue to pray for the other things you desire (healing, employment, children, marriage), but fight to keep trusting in Jesus as your all-satisfying treasure (Psalm 43:4).