As i mentioned once i think falling in love is like a disease. There are some simple reasons why.
- It is extremely addicting ... Everytime you fall in love you like the feeling, but once it is gone you must hope it will go over into "real" love. Else you have a big problem and you even start disliking eachother. In most of the cases people do not go over to "real" love. Because they wanna keep the feeling. It is addicting until you can overcome this addiction. Like every addiction it comes with great feelings, but it is not staying and it is moving away.
- It is selfcentred or it is only focussed on one person. Which does not allow you to respond properly to other people. It makes you totally blind for all things around you. So holding the greatest commandment seems to becoming harder.
With my experience of falling in love i can come to this conclusion. Only if you can agree that addictions are like diseases, which is a statement on itself, so let us not get deeper into that point. People need help on these addictions.
I once was in love myself. I was in love with a girl who was engaged. Offcourse i never really expressed it. But it was extremely hard because your feeling wishes different. So that time it was like a disease. So i go for the "real" love and acted like that. Because I thought if i really love here I let her go and let him have her. Not that i really would have a possibility to break their relation, but if i did more it would have become harder for her. He and she are both still friends, because i did not go into the feeling stuff (falling in love)...
It is really addicting because you know these couples who do not pay any attention to you anymore when they are together. No contact available anymore. I experienced two total different persons once they were together. Once i was alone with one of them they were acting normal again. The persons they were when they were together was just like someone who is addicted to alcohol (which i experienced closely in my life) and without eachother more social and like the person who was addicted to alcohol but who is now saved by Jesus.
A beautifull quote from w1k1p3di@:
- It is extremely addicting ... Everytime you fall in love you like the feeling, but once it is gone you must hope it will go over into "real" love. Else you have a big problem and you even start disliking eachother. In most of the cases people do not go over to "real" love. Because they wanna keep the feeling. It is addicting until you can overcome this addiction. Like every addiction it comes with great feelings, but it is not staying and it is moving away.
- It is selfcentred or it is only focussed on one person. Which does not allow you to respond properly to other people. It makes you totally blind for all things around you. So holding the greatest commandment seems to becoming harder.
With my experience of falling in love i can come to this conclusion. Only if you can agree that addictions are like diseases, which is a statement on itself, so let us not get deeper into that point. People need help on these addictions.
I once was in love myself. I was in love with a girl who was engaged. Offcourse i never really expressed it. But it was extremely hard because your feeling wishes different. So that time it was like a disease. So i go for the "real" love and acted like that. Because I thought if i really love here I let her go and let him have her. Not that i really would have a possibility to break their relation, but if i did more it would have become harder for her. He and she are both still friends, because i did not go into the feeling stuff (falling in love)...
It is really addicting because you know these couples who do not pay any attention to you anymore when they are together. No contact available anymore. I experienced two total different persons once they were together. Once i was alone with one of them they were acting normal again. The persons they were when they were together was just like someone who is addicted to alcohol (which i experienced closely in my life) and without eachother more social and like the person who was addicted to alcohol but who is now saved by Jesus.
A beautifull quote from w1k1p3di@:
Caretti, Craparo and La Barbera (2005) recently proposed a new definition of addiction. The authors states that addiction is