Feeling left out from family members.

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Serenagirl

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Hi everyone. I have had something weighing on my mind now for quite some time. I have a brother who is older than me and I call him often. Well every time I call anymore he'll be talking to me then his wife cuts in and talks to him. Then sometimes he is taking the dog out or trying to find TV remote or etc. I feel like he really doesn't want to talk to me but it always seems to be the wrong time to call. We live in different states and my husband and I always visit them every year. They have never came to visit us once in 15 yrs. The only sibling I have too. I don't have any friends as I am a loner mostly. I have 2 grown sons and. my husband. Also cats, dogs. I don't drive either so I don't get out much. I can only handle so much loneliness. Lately I have made up my mind to find a church and keep myself busy. I used to attend. Still I just feel like my brother just doesn't want to be bothered. I don't know. Sorry so long of a story.
 

tourist

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It was a story worth telling though. Finding a church is a good idea. Your brother seems busy with ordinary life, too busy to spend a few quality minutes with his sister. That's a real shame. Glad to have you as a member of our family. Welcome to CC.
 

Roughsoul1991

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Hi everyone. I have had something weighing on my mind now for quite some time. I have a brother who is older than me and I call him often. Well every time I call anymore he'll be talking to me then his wife cuts in and talks to him. Then sometimes he is taking the dog out or trying to find TV remote or etc. I feel like he really doesn't want to talk to me but it always seems to be the wrong time to call. We live in different states and my husband and I always visit them every year. They have never came to visit us once in 15 yrs. The only sibling I have too. I don't have any friends as I am a loner mostly. I have 2 grown sons and. my husband. Also cats, dogs. I don't drive either so I don't get out much. I can only handle so much loneliness. Lately I have made up my mind to find a church and keep myself busy. I used to attend. Still I just feel like my brother just doesn't want to be bothered. I don't know. Sorry so long of a story.
Make your feelings known to your brother. He probably thinks you are perfectly fine. He cannot help you if he doesn't know what is wrong.

Discipleship is a Biblical command. We wasn't designed or commanded to do life alone or keep our salvation to ourselves.

Finding a church will help you find like minded people. Join a small group ( a small group of people who meet weekly to study the Word and hangout) dont have one? Ask to start one then invite church members. If you are not prepared to teach it then find a video series that teaches for you.

Guys are clueless on many messages women give off. So try and be direct with your brother. If possible try to meet face to face and explain to him. Otherwise plan a time to talk on the phone with no interruptions.
 

Prycejosh1987

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I guess you will have to make the first moves in all your family relationships. I wish you all the best, love is like weights when you stop lifting and training the strength you lose strength, the more to leave it the worse it gets.