OK my fiance and I have been having some good times and some rough times. Right now we are in a rough patch. We have been in a relationship for two years.
I will do full disclosure because I want some good advice.
In the past, I have been reluctant to:
-Remove female friends from Facebook
-Remove old phone numbers from phone
-Stop talking to two female friends
Now I didn't communicate with the women on Facebook, and I didn't call any of the numbers in my phone. But I understand that I should have taken care of these things sooner. Because of this, there have been some trust issues. She thinks I sometimes want to reach out to women in my past.
The other day I was on the phone with my fiance while getting in the elevator at the garage. I saw one of my co-workers and said, "Oh, there's Miss Kirra." Then I got in the elevator with her and said hi to her. At first my fiance said I sounded a little too excited to see her and that I was probably checking her out. I told her that no, that's how I sound when I say hi to everybody at work. We didn't really talk that day. Later on when I brought it up, she said she didn't like the fact that I called her "Miss Kirra". She said that was a term on endearment between us and I ruined it by calling another woman Miss. She is now saying that she didn't have an issue with me saying hi, she only had an issue with me saying "Miss Kirra" before saying hi. One issue may be that we are on the phone every morning when I walk in to work and maybe I should let her go before I go in as that isn't professional anyway (I work in IT).
What are your thoughts about using the word Miss? Is it OK to use it with another woman at work? Is it OK to say it in front of your fiance? Is it considered flirting? Does it depend on if you have made some mistakes in your relationship? I was under the impression that it was being polite, but if it is considered flirty I will never do it again.
Dincall, if you are having ups and downs now, it will only be more extreme when you get married.
You have to decide now, is she worth all the sacrifice? There will only be more to come with marriages. If you have kids, be prepared to place yourself in last place and be selfless.
To me it sounds like she is very controlling and will continue to isolate you with your friends and more than likely your family. Is she worth it? If yes, than that's your choice. If no, than cut ties now.
This is coming from someone who has decided that the single life is the way to go. So, you may just want to stop reading now, and chalk it off as some miserable lonely person writing this. lol
My married friend said it this way. If you want kids, get married. If you don't, than don't get married. How important are kids to you?
I said enough, but read your post as it sounded like a cry for help.
I think the best thing you can do is study and learn from a couple who are happily married and talk to them regarding relationships. Most people in the singles forum are either divorced, or have no experience in long term relationships. Maybe that was statement was to generalized. Anyways...
Bottom line, relationships require sacrifice. Jesus showed what it takes to be a leader and it costed our Lord HIS life. Are you willing to follow suit with your sweet heart?!?! Relationships require work, so continue to work on the relationship, if that's what you want.