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Just one comment however: I don't know that every man always "knows it's just a game." As soon as a man sees a flirtatious response from a female, the chemicals in his brain go crazy. Then he is required to calm himself and think logically about the situation to get the chemicals under control.
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This was quite enlightening to read. I enjoyed hearing everyone's different opinins on this subject. I must hand it to to the woman that began this thread - well put.
I can't say I agree with anyone totally - so I'll just state my own views.
I'm gonna cheer for both teams here
I agree that BOTH sexes have trouble flirting and saying flirtatious remarks. We're all gonna mess up at one point or another, but some of us are more practiced at holding our tounges than others. Sometimes, guys are gonna flirt and sometimes so are the girls. But, as Christian's, it is important that we be careful as to how we portray ourselves.
Girls "flirting" -- I know a lot of us are friendly, and sometimes guys misinterpret that as flirting, when that's never what we intend it to be. When we're chatting, it's hard to see the emotions behind what's being said, so things can be misunderstood very easily! So for guys that think we're coming across as flirts, should try to give us the benefit of the doubt, and understand that it may not be as it seems - and it could very well be just someone being friend. HOWEVER it's a good idea to watch what we say and how we portray ourselves. lol there are some flirts out there that flirt shamelessly and don't feel a problem with it. Sometimes, it's just going to happen. If the guys get annoyed with it, they need to state it. Some girls really are just friendly at it can be misunderstood easily. With chatting, it's so hard to tell. Don't judge the people instantly. If the flirting gets worse, just ignore it. Simple as that.
Guys "flirting" -- yea, it's pretty normal for a girl to get on the site, and into the chat room and receive a few flirtatious remarks. I am a girl that has a profile picture up, and I'm friendly, but I have been known to stop talking if a guy gets a little too personal with me. If anything he says makes me feel uncomfortable, I just ignore it. But for some guys, they are just being themselves, sweet and they may say a few things that are "flirty" but guess what -- it's life. We can't expect them to be perfect, and we're online! You can't read a person at all or truly tell who/how they are. If you have a problem with what the guy is saying toward you, state it and tell him to kindlly BACK OFF or just ignore him. He'll grow tired of talking to himself if you don't reply and you should be fine. This site is so much cleaner and there are much nicer young men on here than any other chat site you'll go to. Just count your blessings -- ok, they aren't going to be perfect, and yea they may say something cocky and or flirty, but it's almost natural and they may not even know it! Just like some guys misinterpret friendliness for flirting, that can very well happen with the way us women interpret what the men are say.
But I'm totally with the girls that get the PM's that immediatly have guys going straight into flirting without taking the slightest chance to get to know us. It's annoying!! It makes us feel like we're nothing but a time waster for you. Girls, just ignore the guy if it's so much of a problem.
About pictures -- I agree with a girl that posted before me (sorry, dont remember her name) but she stated that it was nice to see who she was talking to, instead of just seeing the name. I don't see a picture as being a cry for attention, but if you have a picture up, don't get all worked up if a guy comments on it. That's really no ones fault but your own. The guy however, should watch how he comments on it. That goes for girls as well.
I think we all have room to work.
I don't think that the poster of this thread deserves to be questioned as to why she posted it in the first place though! I liked to see that someone else felt the way I do at times. I don't have any complaints about guys -- some can be and def. are flirts -- but if you take it in stride and make sure you treat them like men and not dogs, maybe they'll rethink what they've been saying and realize not all girls like flirts! And just like flirty girls realize that nice guys, don't always like flirts!
But we can all agree we've been guilty of flirting at one point or another. We just need to be careful that we treat the people that pop up on our screen as PEOPLE -- Like girls, even if it's telling them we don't appreciate the way they are speaking to us and guys, just rethink what you say before you say it.
Compliments are nice though!
We're all on this hormonal boy/girl rollercoaster together haha with some understanding, communication and teamwork, we'll get it figured out!
I can't say I agree with anyone totally - so I'll just state my own views.
I'm gonna cheer for both teams here
I agree that BOTH sexes have trouble flirting and saying flirtatious remarks. We're all gonna mess up at one point or another, but some of us are more practiced at holding our tounges than others. Sometimes, guys are gonna flirt and sometimes so are the girls. But, as Christian's, it is important that we be careful as to how we portray ourselves.
Girls "flirting" -- I know a lot of us are friendly, and sometimes guys misinterpret that as flirting, when that's never what we intend it to be. When we're chatting, it's hard to see the emotions behind what's being said, so things can be misunderstood very easily! So for guys that think we're coming across as flirts, should try to give us the benefit of the doubt, and understand that it may not be as it seems - and it could very well be just someone being friend. HOWEVER it's a good idea to watch what we say and how we portray ourselves. lol there are some flirts out there that flirt shamelessly and don't feel a problem with it. Sometimes, it's just going to happen. If the guys get annoyed with it, they need to state it. Some girls really are just friendly at it can be misunderstood easily. With chatting, it's so hard to tell. Don't judge the people instantly. If the flirting gets worse, just ignore it. Simple as that.
Guys "flirting" -- yea, it's pretty normal for a girl to get on the site, and into the chat room and receive a few flirtatious remarks. I am a girl that has a profile picture up, and I'm friendly, but I have been known to stop talking if a guy gets a little too personal with me. If anything he says makes me feel uncomfortable, I just ignore it. But for some guys, they are just being themselves, sweet and they may say a few things that are "flirty" but guess what -- it's life. We can't expect them to be perfect, and we're online! You can't read a person at all or truly tell who/how they are. If you have a problem with what the guy is saying toward you, state it and tell him to kindlly BACK OFF or just ignore him. He'll grow tired of talking to himself if you don't reply and you should be fine. This site is so much cleaner and there are much nicer young men on here than any other chat site you'll go to. Just count your blessings -- ok, they aren't going to be perfect, and yea they may say something cocky and or flirty, but it's almost natural and they may not even know it! Just like some guys misinterpret friendliness for flirting, that can very well happen with the way us women interpret what the men are say.
But I'm totally with the girls that get the PM's that immediatly have guys going straight into flirting without taking the slightest chance to get to know us. It's annoying!! It makes us feel like we're nothing but a time waster for you. Girls, just ignore the guy if it's so much of a problem.
About pictures -- I agree with a girl that posted before me (sorry, dont remember her name) but she stated that it was nice to see who she was talking to, instead of just seeing the name. I don't see a picture as being a cry for attention, but if you have a picture up, don't get all worked up if a guy comments on it. That's really no ones fault but your own. The guy however, should watch how he comments on it. That goes for girls as well.
I think we all have room to work.
I don't think that the poster of this thread deserves to be questioned as to why she posted it in the first place though! I liked to see that someone else felt the way I do at times. I don't have any complaints about guys -- some can be and def. are flirts -- but if you take it in stride and make sure you treat them like men and not dogs, maybe they'll rethink what they've been saying and realize not all girls like flirts! And just like flirty girls realize that nice guys, don't always like flirts!
But we can all agree we've been guilty of flirting at one point or another. We just need to be careful that we treat the people that pop up on our screen as PEOPLE -- Like girls, even if it's telling them we don't appreciate the way they are speaking to us and guys, just rethink what you say before you say it.
Compliments are nice though!
We're all on this hormonal boy/girl rollercoaster together haha with some understanding, communication and teamwork, we'll get it figured out!