What would be unloving is not to care enough to offer advice. You've gotten it twisted. I cared enough about him and what he's going through to attempt to identify with what he's going through and offer what I believe is advice that will help him greatly.
The rest of your post I don't really understand. Simple? What does it not being the 60's or 70's have to do with anything? Do you think we didn't have sex, porn, drugs, and rock n roll back then. We certainly did. We had everything you do now minus the cell phones and the Internet.
And call me Age. I was enlisted. Only officers are called sir.
Seriously, involving yourself in positive group activities with other genuine Christians goes a LONG way toward relieving boredom, stress, etc... and is a great buffer against temptation.
If the problem is more serious, there are self help groups and counseling available through most large churches. It's all good once you turn the corner and doing something different than what you're doing when it isn't working is often the place to start. PEACE.
Dear Age,
Sorry Age.I think ignoring problems and thinking things will work out doesn't work at all.
And this is not for an argument.There aint no positive groups when you go through rejection.If you face something like Job(Book of Job) faced and going through emotional disorders no group will help you.They will reject you.Talking from personal experiences and experiences of many people.If there was such a group, i wouldn't have lost so many years.But i am glad that when people rejected God helped.
It's not 60s or 70s because,things work digitally and things are much worse than it used to be.Today jobs and deals are made through internet.So if i need to get something,i need to use internet.But i will be glad if i can one day get rid of these cyber stuff and i am working towards it.But then we have to think of not using chat rooms/forums like this too.Is that good?Look at this site,its so beneficial.So everything has good side instead of throwing it away.
In today's world,People need to pray more.Lusts and sins of various kinds are freely available than before.There is difference.You cannot solve the problem by looking it from a far place.Jesus didn't preach and heal from clouds.He was with them.
Your area of weakness wont be the same as another person.If some one laughs at your weakness laughs at you,how will you feel.This is not to intimidate you.Don't take things lightly.Peter was not repenting when he denied Christ because of his addictions like we talk about.Still,he found it a big big trespass when he realized his mistake.He cried and repented.Know others and try to know what they go through.Loving helps.Please understand.If you don't have experience in something pray for them,not direct them.And please tell me such a group of +ve attitude if you know any.I will declare that place Heaven on earth.
People need a helping hand sometimes.Not all are alike.
Avoiding things and getting in busy with activities are good ways to get rid of many bad deeds.But if that was ok,then people spending time in prison wouldn't be able to do things good.Especially those in isolation.Take it for eg,Apostle John who spend time in isolation.He lived in the Spirit of God.It's Revelations that change people.
People cannot help sometimes when you repeatedly fall at the same time.That is where satan takes the stronghold.For the kind of weakness you mentioned,giving account to one another works a lot.But we live in a moving world.People don't stay the same.So the real remedy for those people who go through whatever addictions(not just the one you think,there are many more than you can think) or problems they face is Go to the Cross.When they get healed they pray for others and work for the release of others in such bondage,because they know the pain.Whatever the addiction,situation is same.It's bondage.
Give advises to the point.If Jesus laughed at many of the sick people including some who couldn't share in public,how would they feel?Advice in areas that you have experience and you can feel.You may be strong in dealing with lusts of various kind.Not all are.That is why we grow to the image of Christ.
Prayer and interceding HEALS a person than taking things in a simple way.Lusts of various kinds are provoked by evil spirits.You have to know more about spiritual realms.Its an enticement that leads to bondage and rare cases possession.Where prayer support and care is needed,it should be given.
Healing is faster then.Weak people need care.Lack of Love and Care leads to conflict.Look at our societies.Everybody is becoming more and more cold as time goes by.
I urge you pray for this matter and analyze it.If you feel its very simple everybody is not just one person.This is not to insult you,but please understand.Love others.We all are weak in one point or the other.Even if we reach the level of sinless pure life style in God,it still requires God's Grace to transfigure us when He returns.
God Bless
I am not perfect,but i look at the perfect God.I replied to
Crazy4GODword because i feel his pain and been through some of that.I live in the same age or same circumstances he goes through.And i wanted to assure him that God Heals.Because he is Healing me from all kind of probs.I have seen old people going through struggles in the situation you mentioned.Yes,i am talking about lust of flesh,the ugliest tool satan use against God's people.And it has got many sides.Money also come in lusts.How much are you free?We all need God till we depart form this world.