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Hello,
I am 19 and was in college last year. I went through a really bad breakup and got diagnosed with depression. I got myself into financial probation and my mother isn't one to respect my choices. She left when I was in 8th grades and gave my older brother money to take care of me. I was very independent and graduated second in my class. Now, since things on my end have changed its harder to cope with her complaining of having to invest in me financially. I don't know how to finish college in a timely manner without her help, but I know that now that I have graduated that she doesn't have to help. She's willing to help me under the conditions that I confess that my dad molested me when I was younger, and basically do whatever she says, and to take care of her when she is old. She always says "now that I am helping you, don't forget to take care of me when I am old". It's fine, but then when I get in fights with her she takes it as I am betraying her by not admitting it and that I'm selfishly taking her money. I just want to know, how to handle this right. Am I obligated biblically to hate my dad, and if not, I can't tell her that she's making it up because she seems to sincerely believe it and it would be selfish of me to just keep taking her money while she tries to convince me. I'm willing to not take her money and work my way through college, it just that if I do and I say it's hard she'll be like "that isn't my fault I was willing to help you". And it's hard because I can't just admit it for the peace of her mind because then she would file a report or something.
I also just want some insight on why she would be doing this, does she have a biblical grounding where I as a Christian owe her something.
I am 19 and was in college last year. I went through a really bad breakup and got diagnosed with depression. I got myself into financial probation and my mother isn't one to respect my choices. She left when I was in 8th grades and gave my older brother money to take care of me. I was very independent and graduated second in my class. Now, since things on my end have changed its harder to cope with her complaining of having to invest in me financially. I don't know how to finish college in a timely manner without her help, but I know that now that I have graduated that she doesn't have to help. She's willing to help me under the conditions that I confess that my dad molested me when I was younger, and basically do whatever she says, and to take care of her when she is old. She always says "now that I am helping you, don't forget to take care of me when I am old". It's fine, but then when I get in fights with her she takes it as I am betraying her by not admitting it and that I'm selfishly taking her money. I just want to know, how to handle this right. Am I obligated biblically to hate my dad, and if not, I can't tell her that she's making it up because she seems to sincerely believe it and it would be selfish of me to just keep taking her money while she tries to convince me. I'm willing to not take her money and work my way through college, it just that if I do and I say it's hard she'll be like "that isn't my fault I was willing to help you". And it's hard because I can't just admit it for the peace of her mind because then she would file a report or something.
I also just want some insight on why she would be doing this, does she have a biblical grounding where I as a Christian owe her something.
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