Hi Everyone,
I've heard many Christians sing the praises of arranged marriages (I usually hear this from people who did NOT have arranged marriages themselves) because they say there are so few instances of divorce in such cases.
I do know one couple from India who had an arranged marriage, and while they have managed to work it out, they did separate for a while.
What amazes me about some who seem to be all for arranged marriages because of the low divorce rate is that I'm not sure if they know the flip side--from the articles I have read, arranged marriages are often in countries where women have few or no rights, so if her in-laws don't like her--they often douse her in oil and set her on fire in the kitchen--telling authorities it was a "cooking accident", and usually getting away with it because of the corruption. (No, I'm not making this up--you can find articles about it on the Web and my friends from India are also very aware of these types of issues with arranged marriages.)
I am NOT trying to insult or put down arranged marriages AT ALL, nor am I trying to insult the countries or cultures in which they occur--I just think that these issues need be seen from all angles. I am NOT trying to make light of this subject at all, but yes, I do sometimes use humorous titles to get people's attention over an issue, so I hope I haven't offended anyone.
My purpose is simply to generate some discussion and shared knowledge.
As a single person, how do you feel about arranged marriages? Would you be open to having your parents choose someone for you?
I love my parents to pieces but... I think I would like to do the choosing (though I have heard of cases in which the parents choose but they wait for the approval of the potential couple and it's not as absolute as some arrangements.)
Please feel free to share your thoughts!
I've heard many Christians sing the praises of arranged marriages (I usually hear this from people who did NOT have arranged marriages themselves) because they say there are so few instances of divorce in such cases.
I do know one couple from India who had an arranged marriage, and while they have managed to work it out, they did separate for a while.
What amazes me about some who seem to be all for arranged marriages because of the low divorce rate is that I'm not sure if they know the flip side--from the articles I have read, arranged marriages are often in countries where women have few or no rights, so if her in-laws don't like her--they often douse her in oil and set her on fire in the kitchen--telling authorities it was a "cooking accident", and usually getting away with it because of the corruption. (No, I'm not making this up--you can find articles about it on the Web and my friends from India are also very aware of these types of issues with arranged marriages.)
I am NOT trying to insult or put down arranged marriages AT ALL, nor am I trying to insult the countries or cultures in which they occur--I just think that these issues need be seen from all angles. I am NOT trying to make light of this subject at all, but yes, I do sometimes use humorous titles to get people's attention over an issue, so I hope I haven't offended anyone.
My purpose is simply to generate some discussion and shared knowledge.
As a single person, how do you feel about arranged marriages? Would you be open to having your parents choose someone for you?
I love my parents to pieces but... I think I would like to do the choosing (though I have heard of cases in which the parents choose but they wait for the approval of the potential couple and it's not as absolute as some arrangements.)
Please feel free to share your thoughts!