How are shy people supposed to do our part in finding a girlfriend?

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dothackzero

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Basically, I know that God is gonna provide me with a wife. But because I'm so shy, I'm having a problem doing my part and getting out there and talking and to make friends with girls. Basically, I have no idea how I'm gonna receive a girlfriend from God if I can't even get girls to notice me.
 
It isn't about getting girls to notice you so much as it is getting the right girls to notice you. People often quote that line about how a woman has to be so lost in the Lord that the man has to seek him to find her.

Same goes for us, I think. What you have to do is be confident with your purpose in life and show it. There is so much literature for guys like us that it gets overwhelming. I only had any measure of success after throwing it all in the trash.
 
dothackzero said:
Basically, I know that God is gonna provide me with a wife. But because I'm so shy, I'm having a problem doing my part and getting out there and talking and to make friends with girls. Basically, I have no idea how I'm gonna receive a girlfriend from God if I can't even get girls to notice me.
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---He MAY provide you with a wife, dothack0, but it's sure not a for-sure. The Lord leads

The best thing you can do is draw close to God and IF it's right time in your life to find a right girl for you, as ritt kinda said, then God will make you courageous , give you COURAGE, just like the wizard gave the lion. :).

Now, that said, did the wizard REALLY give the lion and infusión of magical courage?

No, and , God doesn't work that way in us, usually, 'course can infuse ANYTHING in us but God is JUST and not a God of hand-outs so....He, in other words wants us to be pro-active , and, NOT here speaking of going out there and just asking a girl out with God power. Well, not exactly, but, yes, AFTER having first asked God to show you what He wants you to do to

MAKE
THAT
SHYNESS
DISAPPEAR
FROM YOUR WORLD.

Sorry, I got 'Rhianna' on you, dotdude, but, yeah, I want you to get out your bible and read verses that READY you to be readty :) scripture says to knock and the door shall open , seek God first and ALL things will be added unto you, and, that means YOU will get.... BOLDNESS :)
 
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dothackzero said:
Basically, I know that God is gonna provide me with a wife. But because I'm so shy, I'm having a problem doing my part and getting out there and talking and to make friends with girls. Basically, I have no idea how I'm gonna receive a girlfriend from God if I can't even get girls to notice me.
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Hey Dothackzero, we serve a good God, He knows what's best for us, He knows when and how to bless us with anything we ask from Him. So friend don't fret, leave your life, pray & wait upon God then your future wife will come when you least expect it. God bless you!
 
Be less shy. It isn't easy but it seems like you want it enough, go up and talk to girls, go out and be social, yes it will be hard to begin with, very hard. But you will get better.
 
Try this: stop looking. It's perfectly normal to question/doubt. You seem confident in that He will provide, yet you seem unsure that He will provide you with what you want, when you want it.

You are aware of your shyness? Work on it. Pray over it. Worrying over it can be construed as you not investing a whole lot of faith.

I think you'll be just fine. :) Ah, youth is wasted on the young.
 
dothackzero said:
Basically, what I'm talking is reciving what God has for me in a couple years(really do hope to be married at about 25) compared to waiting 50 more years.
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Yeah. I hoped to be married at 25 too. ;) You can't just sit back and hope God will drop a wife into your lap. You need to make an effort, be it ever so small, to show a girl you like her.. Take it from me, I like the shy guys too. We notice you. Just give us a hint!
 
I agree with Bridget. If you see a girl you like, find a way to ask her a simple question to begin a conversation. If she's interested, she'll help you out. :)
 
dothackzero said:
Basically, I know that God is gonna provide me with a wife.
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False.

God makes no promise that He will provide you with a wife. You're under the delusion that if you don't do something, God will do it for you. This is pretty common because we hear stories where God does awesome things, but try to find Biblical evidence that He promises such things. He does it for some people, not everyone, and not even most people.

This is a hard word to hear; don't make the mistake of letting life pass you by, waiting for God to give you the things you want. You have to go out there and get them. Yes, God will help you if it is His plan for your life.

I'm pretty shy myself, but you've got to get yourself out there.
 
There finding them on christianchat.com by posting 10 threads a week on the same thing
 
Jullianna said:
I agree with Bridget. If you see a girl you like, find a way to ask her a simple question to begin a conversation. If she's interested, she'll help you out. :)
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Bridget_Left_China said:
You need to make an effort, be it ever so small, to show a girl you like her.. Take it from me, I like the shy guys too. We notice you. Just give us a hint!
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Is that what I'm doing wrong, not making an effort? I thought women were supposed to be able to read my mind and flock to my manly beauty. :p

On a serious note though, I do tend towards the shy side. Predominantly with women I am interested in, but I have learned that a little bit of conversation goes a long way.
 
How are shy people supposed to do our part in finding a girlfriend?

Probably about the same way people who are not shy do their part in finding a girlfriend (or boyfriend). By being themselves. Just go out and enjoy life, doing things you enjoy, you are bound to find someone who shares some of your same interests......and if it is meant to be, it will happen. I think one of the best things to do though, is to relax a bit about it. It is far better to know it is a good match, and have it last, than it is to worry about an age, or time frame in which to see it happen in. God bless.....




Siberian_Khatru said:
Try this: stop looking. It's perfectly normal to question/doubt. You seem confident in that He will provide, yet you seem unsure that He will provide you with what you want, when you want it.

You are aware of your shyness? Work on it. Pray over it. Worrying over it can be construed as you not investing a whole lot of faith.

I think you'll be just fine. :) Ah, youth is wasted on the young.
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Why do I find it hilarious that a 23 year old says this??? :) :D :) *sigh.....am I showing my age???
 
Oncefallen said:
Is that what I'm doing wrong, not making an effort? I thought women were supposed to be able to read my mind and flock to my manly beauty. :p

On a serious note though, I do tend towards the shy side. Predominantly with women I am interested in, but I have learned that a little bit of conversation goes a long way.
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I get that. It's really wierd that I have no problem kidding around with guys I see as just friends, but when it comes to the ones I really like I find myself at a loss at times because I'm afraid I will seem too aggressive (or just plain stupid)..and end up saying nothing. haha
 
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