How to increase your attractiveness to women

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Be the man the girl needs you to be.

If she's a sporty type of girl, be a sporty man.
If she's into watching movies, get your Netflix ready.
If she's a crazy cat lady, be a crazy cat man.

It's that simple!
 
The most attractive thing about a guy in my opinion is if they're real with themselves... Not over the top on trying to impress someone or pretty much give off that they're begging to have you become interested in them, just being humble. It's weird to explain and many might disagree with me, but sometimes the way you approach and how you express yourself can signal for someone to become attracted or uninterested. Body language can do this and some ques through text (not the obvious flirting type of text, it can be shown within everyday conversations) as well. Could also be that I've become extremely intimidated/paranoid and if anyone were to show interest then they'd be bold about it at some points (and no, it's not often that this happens. When it does happen then I usually would attract some strange characters anyway. -shrugs-)
 
MollyConnor said:
Be the man the girl needs you to be.

If she's a sporty type of girl, be a sporty man.
If she's into watching movies, get your Netflix ready.
If she's a crazy cat lady, be a crazy cat man.

It's that simple!
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Yikes no!

Be who you are! If you are a sport man, be that. If you are into movies, do that. If you are a crazy cat man, be that. Please (neither gender) try to be what someone else is to attract them. Try a new thing that they are into and maybe you'll like that, sure. But don't mold yourself around another person.
 
Olerica said:
Yikes no!

Be who you are! If you are a sport man, be that. If you are into movies, do that. If you are a crazy cat man, be that. Please (neither gender) try to be what someone else is to attract them. Try a new thing that they are into and maybe you'll like that, sure. But don't mold yourself around another person.
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My post was meant to be a joke. :o
I mean...isn't this whole thread a joke?
 
Also I think there could be a little truth to my post when we speak of biblical qualities.

If you want a virtuous woman, be a virtuous man.
If you want a humble woman, be a humble man.
If you want a woman who enjoys studying the Word, be a man that does the same.

Even though I was joking, if you admire certain qualities in the opposite gender, why not engage in them yourself? Like if you like a girl that enjoys fishing, why not try it out with her? After all, once married, a couple becomes one.

But I do agree with Olerica, that we shouldn't change who God made us to be for someone we like. I wasn't saying that. I meant we should try new hobbies with the person we fall in love with.

And we should also change towards Christlikeness. :)
 
zeroturbulence said:
4) Learn how to make a woman laugh. Yes, this is actually THE NUMBER ONE way to a woman's heart if you ask me. Unfortunately its also the one that is hardest to figure out. You have to find the fine line between being witty-and-funny, and wierd-and-embarrassing. Dont ask me, I have no clue where to start!

7) Know how to talk to a woman. Be easygoing. Dont sound like you are nervous or worried. Sound like you are nonchalant and relaxed. A woman can tell if you are nervous or anxious and its never a good thing. Ever notice how the first thing women say is that they want a man with 'confidence'? Exactly.
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I could probably do 4 but not 7, ummmmm............
I became really, really, really, really shy when I hit puberty at 13, so shy, that I...........................................................................................................................................................


(had more written hear but I've been getting over my past, (yes a dweller of the past you can call me) and as much as I probably was going to share, I probably shouldn't so I went ahead and deleted it)

even though I don't like my own voice at all, I do like to hear everyone Else's, call it strange I guess, I some times will try to mimic others even though I know I'm probably not that good. but eh!
if I was I wouldn't be here, well maybe I would've found my way here eventually........
 
MollyConnor said:
My post was meant to be a joke. :o
I mean...isn't this whole thread a joke?
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You just reduced 12 pages of valuable content into nothing but gibberish and tomfoolery. I am sorry to say, but you have hurt my feelings.

You are hereby informed to visit the "Banning thread" for a retrospective ban. This is an order and you ought to comply immediately. :p
 
MollyConnor said:
Be the man the girl needs you to be.

If she's a sporty type of girl, be a sporty man.
If she's into watching movies, get your Netflix ready.
If she's a crazy cat lady, be a crazy cat man.

It's that simple!
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Nah, it's never smart to change yourself for someone else.

If you find someone who's into something different than you - just listen to what they have to say and accept the fact that they're happy doing something that isn't necessarily your thing. As long as they'll listen to you in turn, and you can share enough time together, it's all good.

The whole biblical mindset is really the only non-negotiable common interest out there. That and there are certain worldviews which come with it that I don't see being to negotiable.

But hobbies, nah, that's negotiable.
 
I'll own to often being far too serious for my own good.... and then I'm not. Sometimes navigating the culture here at CC is a challenge for me. So, typically with the written word (where tone is unreadable) I tend to be serious. Forgive me.
 
Olerica said:
I'll own to often being far too serious for my own good.... and then I'm not. Sometimes navigating the culture here at CC is a challenge for me. So, typically with the written word (where tone is unreadable) I tend to be serious. Forgive me.
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Haha don't worry about it. Now I'm confused...maybe this thread is serious? Heaven knows :o
 
I think the best way to increase your attractiveness is having integrity and show that in everything you do. For example own up to your shortcomings and be the man God created you to be.
 
ServantStrike said:
Nah, it's never smart to change yourself for someone else.

If you find someone who's into something different than you - just listen to what they have to say and accept the fact that they're happy doing something that isn't necessarily your thing. As long as they'll listen to you in turn, and you can share enough time together, it's all good.

The whole biblical mindset is really the only non-negotiable common interest out there. That and there are certain worldviews which come with it that I don't see being to negotiable.

But hobbies, nah, that's negotiable.
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amen. been there, done that.

i think when i was in my early twenties, i thought it was on the girl to sort of "go along" with the guy, and often found myself becoming the girl i thought the guys would want me to be.

oh wow, big mistake!

eventually i learned that the best thing you can do for any relationship is to be courageous enough to be yourself -- authenticity and transparency are among the raw ingredients of intimacy and relationship.

because if you pretend or try to be the person whom you think "he" wants, you will discover that eventually, you'll grow tired of the act. you can't fall in love with something that isn't genuine. also, being yourself, un-apologetically, yet with vulnerability is a great way of encouraging another to do the very same.

because being yourself always takes large doses of honesty and courage.

further, i've also learned that no one can be the person i am with more joy, vitality, or enthusiasm than me. and people are fairly accepting of what is real, as long as you are willing to do the same. and trust me, if i can find someone to love all of my weirdness, i'm pretty sure that anyone else can be successful too. ; p

p.s. just to be clear, when i say, "be yourself" i don't mean, the "yourself" that doesn't shave, shower, say "excuse me" or clean up after yourself. the yourself who prefers to sit at home among the carnage of a months' worth of dishes and trash, and hasn't done laundry in a year.

or the "yourself" who says everything that comes to your mind, without filter or concern of others or their feelings. or the "yourself" that thinks you, your words, ideas, or rights are better, more important or "special" than anyone else's.

to be clear, i'm talking about the best, and more polite and civilized version of "yourself" that is full of good hygiene and social grace. ; p
 
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