Husband is the head of the family!

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Uhm........how to tackle this one. Can I say that I respectfully disagree. (but maybe becauase there is an element missing that NEEDS to be included.)

There has got to be mutual respect in a mariage. Ones persons thoughts, ideas, desires, goals, etc etc is NOT more important than the other. To try to impose that on the other because you have the ideal that *your the boss*, is just silly.

Yes, the man is to be the head of the home. BUT, I believe that role holds much responsibilty, and should be carried out with much love and with much reguard for the wife and children.

I think for the most part, if a coupls has good communication, and works to resolve things as they come up, then there should really be very little dissention in their marriage. BUT, nothing is perfect and there will be times where something has got to be decided and the couple is at a crossroads because they are on opposite sides of the issue.

At this time, is when the husband should step up and say, a decision has got to be made, I am going to prayerfully take how I feel, and what you have said and what you feel into consideration and make a decision from there.
That does not mean he is the *boss* and does what he wants now because he is the head of the home. If he wants to keep his wifes sincere respect, then he will do this prayerfully and not in a selfish or self-serving manner.

She will trust that he is doing this if there are fruits to back it up. Submission will come easier with that heart knowledge for her. (notice that I did not say it would be easy....but that it would come easier. lol ;) )

Sorry if this has not flowed very well...I have been up all night, not able to sleep.....but hopefully my heart and thoughts came accross correctly.

Blessings.
 
grace said:
Uhm........how to tackle this one. Can I say that I respectfully disagree. (but maybe becauase there is an element missing that NEEDS to be included.)

There has got to be mutual respect in a mariage. Ones persons thoughts, ideas, desires, goals, etc etc is NOT more important than the other. To try to impose that on the other because you have the ideal that *your the boss*, is just silly.

Yes, the man is to be the head of the home. BUT, I believe that role holds much responsibilty, and should be carried out with much love and with much reguard for the wife and children.

I think for the most part, if a coupls has good communication, and works to resolve things as they come up, then there should really be very little dissention in their marriage. BUT, nothing is perfect and there will be times where something has got to be decided and the couple is at a crossroads because they are on opposite sides of the issue.

At this time, is when the husband should step up and say, a decision has got to be made, I am going to prayerfully take how I feel, and what you have said and what you feel into consideration and make a decision from there.
That does not mean he is the *boss* and does what he wants now because he is the head of the home. If he wants to keep his wifes sincere respect, then he will do this prayerfully and not in a selfish or self-serving manner.

She will trust that he is doing this if there are fruits to back it up. Submission will come easier with that heart knowledge for her. (notice that I did not say it would be easy....but that it would come easier. lol ;) )

Sorry if this has not flowed very well...I have been up all night, not able to sleep.....but hopefully my heart and thoughts came accross correctly.

Blessings.
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i was speaking to someone just yesterday about this topic and stated that the husband leads, i whole heartedly agree with that the wife is an equal in having her say on matters and if a decision need be made that the husband would ultimately make it if they both cant agree and she will honor her husbands lead. needless to say the woman i was speaking to chewed my head off.

Doesnt mean the husband lords it over his wife as if he is the boss.

 
I agree with what grace said, and I beleive this is the way God sees it as well. Husband and Wife are supposed to working together as a team, both in the marriage as in their family. :) Also that God is the main center focuse in every marriage and family.
 
Of course, husband should be a head of the family (or a boss, if you like). It is indisputable. But the problem might be in uderestanding, what that means.

Sometimes poeple think, man is a KING and his wife is a SERVANT to him with no rights to say anything. And according to this idea they either live or they try to rebel against it.

I dont think the role of husband - head of family means that only he is true in everything and only his ideas, wishes and so on should be respected. It also does not mean that wife is his servant who can only obbey and work in the kitchen and should not say a word so much more disagree with her husband.

I think husband has somethink like veto privilege. Other members of family can have and introduce their ideas and wives too. The husbands role is to make decision or point the right idea and lead and teach the rest of family spiritualy.

But his authority should not be shown by force (I dont mean only physical) and he should know that his wife has also some rights. The real biblical wife is not only submissive, domestic dunderhead. The woman from Proveb 31 has very importaint and unique possition in the family, she is real madam and manager.
 
jonathanbchristian said:
The Bible states in John that the Husband is the head of the family!!! Head mean leader or boss!!!
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This subject has come up before. There is a second part to the "wives submit to husbands" argument. In Ephesians 5, verses 22 through 24, Paul wrote "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." In other words, the husband must be as Christlike as possible if he is to expect submission. And what was Christ? Loving, compassionate, concerned, a servant.

In his letter to the church at Colossus, he summed it up more succinctly. [FONT=&quot] "[/FONT]Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." (Colossians 3:18-19, emphasis added) In other words, there are certain standards a husband must meet before he can demand submission.[FONT=&quot] [/FONT]
 
Yees... but to be a head in biblical view means to be alearder NOT a ruler. A certain wise man once told, "My son, when rulers rule people live in fear, But when leaders lead people rejoice." A husband needs to lead the family as christ leads the church.

Further, when a ruler leads, people follow because they have to, but when a leader leads people follow because they are willing to. What type of a head does a husband needs to be? A leader who leads by example of course.

Thank you
 
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Mr. Blackson , I like you already :)

Welcome to Christian Chat sir
 
Blackson said:
Yees... but to be a head in biblical view means to be alearder NOT a ruler. A certain wise man once told, "My son, when rulers rule people live in fear, But when leaders lead people rejoice." A husband needs to lead the family as christ leads the church.

Further, when a ruler leads, people follow because they have to, but when a leader leads people follow because they are willing to. What type of a head does a husband needs to be? A leader who leads by example of course.

Thank you
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Blackson: This is what I wanted to say but, you wrote it much simplier and better way. Thank you.
 
What type of a head does a husband needs to be? A leader who leads by example of course.AMEN!
 
Is this a serious question? You are joking right? Since when has a man ever told his wife what to do and she did it?
 
My relationship with my wife has grown so much stronger but in worldly and spiritual terms since we accepted the principle of the husband being the spiritual head of the family.
 
I know in the bible it states that the husband is to be the leader of the household. It also states that wives are to submit to their husbands.
 
Amazing things happened. When my wife and I operated in equality we found ourselves in needless arguments. It was like having two people trying to steer a car at the same time going two different places. TOTAL MAYHEM. Now there is a body moving with purpose.
 
That is not always the best way to go actually. To guide her heart sometimes means saying no, but out of love not malice. In the same way I drive our van and she navigates I listen to her suggestion of direction but ultimately control where we go.
 
The problem might be that men-husbands sometimes consider their wives to be less inteligent people or rather non-human beings constructed only for obbeying. I am not a feminist and I hate feminism, but I also hate the attitude that "woman is never right".
 
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