I am 45 years old and I never have had a girlfriend.
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I think a good thing to remember is that we always have purpose. God wants to use us for His glory in every stage of our lives.
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Kim82
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That's quite an impressive résumé you have there.CC.
Before I can answer this, I would need to know why you think you deserve a girlfriend more than anyone else.
My advice is don't be so entitled. You seem to feel you deserve something more than everyone else. That's entitlement. And over an issue that is not even promised.
God might feel you are entitled to hell, not a girlfriend.
I've had various girlfriends over the years (I'm 44) and you know what else I have? Tons and tons of baggage and heartache. You think having a gf equates to some kind of happiness, but realize most dating relationships fail. And of those few that don't fail, half of those end in divorce.
You aren't entitled to a gf at all. I get the desire to want to be with someone, but acting like you're owed something is a very bad place to start. What happens if/when that relationship fails, will you still feel entitled?
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morefaithrequired
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because its a troll ...
and seems to be working
I think because he's 45 and never had even 1 girl-friend
...and it sounds like he has kept himself, that he is Godly; also he is financially secure... if he HAS kept himself, in obedience to the Lord, then I would agree, he does deserve a nice, Godly wife
It's not easy to remain single, for that long, when you do not have that 'ability.' Matt 19 v12
It is fine to be 45 and not have had a girlfriend. If you are not fine with this situation then I have to ask about your approach. Are you waiting for life to happen for you, do you have a long fantasy list of what the woman has to be or are you stepping out and actually asking women on dates? What are you bringing to the table? Are you angry at women because you are single? You have to be honest with yourself if you are looking for a relationship to get things for yourself or you are wanting to be there for someone else? A woman knows if you are really seeing her and wanting to get to know her. In order to give you their heart, their trust and commitment they need to know that this is a wise move. They need to know that you are emotionally ready to be open and see them as a person rather than a job applicant who is there to fill a space in your life. How do you approach women? Do you ask questions? Do you listen? Do you make her feel special? Just some thoughts.
This is really profound. We all could improve ourselves with God's help but in relationships you must accept the person for who they currently are or don't bother to try to start one.
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EleventhHour
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I think I gave that same advise to you a while back.
why I plumb forgot, it must be ur avatar, I find avatars with glasses attractive and alluring.
I wonder why he hasn't responded yet to anyoneI think because he's 45 and never had even 1 girl-friend
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7seasrekeyed
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Is finding the woman that is deserved a good thing or a bad thing? Of course, God is merciful and compassionate and rather than finding a woman that he deserves He will search and find the woman of his heart's desire. Of course, God is not going to simply drop a prospective spouse in one's lap but will take effort on his part in pursuing this woman by taking bold, decisive action if an opportunity should arise. Personally, I would not want anything from God that I really deserved. I don't seek fairness but rather compassion and mercy in all areas of my life.
Dear Seoulsearch, I am glad that you failed in this attempt, and am very grateful that you have moved on from that place of utter despair and hopelessness.
