I just want a good man

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SundayMorning88

SundayMorning88

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I've been single almost 2 years now my last relationship was incredibly mentally abusive. All I want is a good Christian man in my life. Have a family with grow old with everything. Please pray for me every time I think I find a good guy they end up ghosting me.
 
I am so sorry you've experienced this :(. As a fellow single who often struggles with my own contentment issues, I will definitely keep you in prayer, praying for contentment in your life and if it is God's will that he would send a man for you to marry and share your life with :)
 
Lord bless Sundaymorning88 in this matter, let she find a good man , please bless her and you be glorified. In Jesus Holy name, Amen!
 
So this guy I thought was interested in me ended up ghosting me I'm getting annoyed with it every time I think I find a good man I end up getting hurt or getting completely cut off I wish I knew what was wrong with me so I can fix it
 
SundayMorning88 said:
So this guy I thought was interested in me ended up ghosting me I'm getting annoyed with it every time I think I find a good man I end up getting hurt or getting completely cut off I wish I knew what was wrong with me so I can fix it
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Stay far away from mentally abusive men and when you meet the right man, there there will be no mental abuse or ghosting.

Lifting you up in prayer to the Lord. :)
 
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mailmandan said:
Stay far away from mentally abusive men and when you meet the right man, there there will be no mental abuse or ghosting.

Lifting you up in prayer to the Lord. :)
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Yep it may be God's way of protecting her from mentally abusive men....having them "ghost"
 
SundayMorning88 said:
So this guy I thought was interested in me ended up ghosting me I'm getting annoyed with it every time I think I find a good man I end up getting hurt or getting completely cut off I wish I knew what was wrong with me so I can fix it
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Have you considered that you might be moving too fast? Why not just concentrate on making friends and getting to know one another. Share in each others lives, listen to their hopes and fears and maybe they will listen to yours.

Relationships are like a fragile plant. In the beginning of you cling too tightly, you bruise it's leaves and it dies. However over time it can grow strong and shelter you from the storms of life.

Learn who you are in Christ and try and be the woman God made you. Eventually God will bring the person He intends you to be with into your life.

Don't rush into relationships. What if God brings the person He meant you to be with, but in your impatience you married someone else?
 
Ariel82 said:
Have you considered that you might be moving too fast? Why not just concentrate on making friends and getting to know one another. Share in each others lives, listen to their hopes and fears and maybe they will listen to yours.

Relationships are like a fragile plant. In the beginning of you cling too tightly, you bruise it's leaves and it dies. However over time it can grow strong and shelter you from the storms of life.

Learn who you are in Christ and try and be the woman God made you. Eventually God will bring the person He intends you to be with into your life.

Don't rush into relationships. What if God brings the person He meant you to be with, but in your impatience you married someone else?
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I don't think so we've been friends for almost a year we almost kissed once then talked for two days and boom nothing IDK lol maybe it's me
 
Ariel82 said:
Why do you think it's you?
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My ex-fiance told me on Valentine's Day 2015 that he didn't love me anymore because I was always depressed. Why I never told him was his friends were bullying me and made me feel bad about myself for being an Iraqi Christian. They didn't want him with me and they made sure I knew it so when they leave the room they would always talk about me and when my fiance would come in the room they would act like they were my friends. My last boyfriend he was obsessed with my wait. I'm a hundred and ninety lb. He knew that when we started dating. But he was obsessed with fixing me. I've never had a relationship where I was good enough. I was either too dark or too big to be loved. I just feel like I'm not enough after them.
 
SundayMorning88 said:
So this guy I thought was interested in me ended up ghosting me I'm getting annoyed with it every time I think I find a good man I end up getting hurt or getting completely cut off I wish I knew what was wrong with me so I can fix it
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Try going for a different type of guy.
 
People in general are rotten so don't sweat them. Just love and be happy. If you are not happy fake it to you make. Lots of times a smile does wonders. It truly is contagious. Takes over the whole body and then spreads to others.

Become heavily involved in your church. If your church is not active make it active or find one that is. Your church (GOD) should and needs to be the center of your life and the life of those to whom you socialize with.

Take care of yourself. Don't fuss about your weight but get in shape. Get in the habit of exercising at least 3 times a week. It will be hard at first but stick with it. After a month or so you will become addicted in a sense. It will be part of your normal routine and your conscience will make it hard for you to just blow it off. If you need help starting this just let me know. I can help I am a certified wellness instructor. I don't hire myself out or train anyone for money but I have trained people in the past and still help any willing to listen. But before any type of workout routine is started you should get a physical if you have been inactive. I would hate for you to be working out and end up hurting yourself.

If you do suffer from depression tell your Doctor and see a nutritionist. Lots of times just changing ones diet can do a world of good mentally, physically and emotionally. But definitely see a Doctor. Some types of depression are clinical and need to be addressed professionally.

Dear heavenly FATHER CREATOR and SUSTAINER of all. Thank YOU for giving us all things that pertain to life and godliness. Thank you for filling us with your Love and Joy so that we can share it with others. Thank you for making us content in all things. Enabling us to Esteem others more than ourselves. We praise YOU for allowing us to suffer for YOUR Names sake. Giving us the power through Christ to give Glory and Honor to YOUR precious and Holy Name. Amen

Much love to you my friend,
LB
 
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My ex-fiance told me on Valentine's Day 2015 that he didn't love me anymore because I was always depressed. Why I never told him was his friends were bullying me and made me feel bad about myself for being an Iraqi Christian. They didn't want him with me and they made sure I knew it so when they leave the room they would always talk about me and when my fiance would come in the room they would act like they were my friends. My last boyfriend he was obsessed with my wait. I'm a hundred and ninety lb. He knew that when we started dating. But he was obsessed with fixing me. I've never had a relationship where I was good enough. I was either too dark or too big to be loved. I just feel like I'm not enough after them.
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That has to hurt, but do you know what God says about you?

You are His beloved daughter.

God is the king of kings.

Do you know what that makes us?

Princesses.

I tell my other sisters that good men are attracted to confident godly women who know their worth and can be a partner and helpmate.

Jerks are attracted to insecure women they believe they can control or take advantage of.

I am not sure what I can say,except to encourage you to pray and believe that God loves you. He formed you in your mother's womb and you are His masterpiece.

Will pray.
 
I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time with relationships. I have a couple resources that I think may be helpful to you. One is a video from Pastor Michael Todd entitled "Single, Not Alone", another is about dealing with the baggage from past relationships. Since you mentioned you had been in an abusive relationship I think this resource may help you with that. And finally, if you would like to marry one day this article may help you understand how you can work on yourself so you'll be the type of person who attracts Mr. Right and help you figure out what you want in a future husband so you don't settle by dating men who don't have those qualities.

Here are the resources:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ViuAblc-M0g&t=
https://list.ly/list/1ezh-finding-your-voice-and-healing-from-abuse
https://list.ly/list/1CE9-when-all-the-fish-in-the-sea-are-belly-up

I pray you find healing on your journey...single or not!
 
Thank you all for the prayers
All I want is a good Christian man to spend the rest of my life with and have a family with
Please continue praying for me I could really use it work at a call center isn't getting any easier and I could use some Jesus Christ in my life

God bless you all
 
it's not you SM, it's the world that we live in in these 'last times' -
just be yourself, and Love Jesus with all of your heart, and He will
guide and keep you according to His Will, in all things...
 
What do you make of this? Yesterday I was going to IHOP for breakfast there was absolutely no parking so I left ended up going to my favorite Mexican restaurant where I'm at a guy we talked from 12 until almost 4 pm. He's a little younger than me I'll be 30 in 2 weeks and he's 24 what he says my age doesn't matter. We even kissed. We've been texting since yesterday and I hope it goes well. Do you guys think maybe it was a sign?
 
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