COULD YOU JUST LISTEN?
When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel the way I do, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem, you have failed me,
strange as that may seem.
LISTEN! All I asked was that you listen, not to talk or do, just hear me!
Advice is cheap, 25 cents will get me both Dear Abby and Billy Graham in the same newspaper.
I can do for myself, I am not helpless maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy.
But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and get on about the business of understanding what's behind my irrational feelings. When that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice.
Irrational feelings make more sense when we understand what's behind them.
Perhaps that's why Prayer works, sometimes, for some people, because GOD is mute, and doesn't give advice and try to fix things. GOD just listens!
I already know the Spiritual Truth that the solution to all my problems lies within.
So, if I do hear GOD, it is a still, small voice from within myself, which, if I will but listen to it, gives me the answers that I am seeking.
Please just listen and hear me.
And if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn and I'll listen to you.
Author Anonymous
(AA affiliated)